#every time i see young brown adults joking about shared trauma my heart breaks a little

[protectbrowngirls]

Protect brown girls who have been gaslit by their family

Protect brown girls who are told they’re overreacting or being sensitive or acting crazy if they express hurt, confusion, anger, a desire for accountability, or other negative reactions.

Protect brown girls whose families shout at them, insult them, ignore them, curse them, and then turn around an hour later and pretend nothing ever happened.

Protect brown girls who are accused by their own family of gaslighting, blackmailing, or being abusive themselves when they’re simply trying to voice their feelings.

Protect brown girls who feel like they can’t trust their own memories and emotions because they’ve been told so often that they’re simply wrong, or that they must be lying.

Protect brown girls who no longer feel safe or comfortable being authentic, expressing their emotions freely, and asking for what they need from their family because they know they won’t be listened to. Protect brown girls who feel guilty for experiencing this discomfort, or for having emotional needs in the first place.

It’s so difficult to reconcile how your family who purport to love you could simultaneously put you through so much pain. Please know that you are not wrong for having emotional needs, for wanting to be heard, for wanting accountability from your family, for seeking help from the people who you’ve been told your whole life can be trusted to help you. I encourage you to seek emotional support from other sources, and I encourage you to keep a record of your own experiences to look back upon and reassure yourself that your memories, your emotions, were real. I wish you luck in finding a support network and resources that can help you heal.

#gaslighting #protect brown girls #protect desi girls #protect muslim girls #abuse #unhealthy parenting #toxic parenting #abusive parenting #every time i see young brown adults joking about shared trauma my heart breaks a little #even as i laugh along and joke about my own experiences #i feel like this post is a little messy tbh but this topic is kind of raw for me so unfortunately this is the best i can do for now #please feel free to submit your own posts if you think this (or my other posts) don't do your experiences justice