#had a very long very good gender talk w a friend yday

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#had a very long very good gender talk w a friend yday #the friend I was talking to: we talk about gender a lot but mostly we talk about mine I realize #she’s not incorrect and honestly it’s mostly bc I don’t feel as strongly about mine but. it was nice that she made space for it #and so we talked about it #idk just. orbiting around and between labels of #queer or nonbinary as umbrella terms #agender as in I don’t care about my gender really. or cis as in I don’t have any objection to my agab really #or just the overall sentiment of. fuck you I don’t know and so you don’t get to either #or the ‘triple a/aro ace agender’ joke of. yeah im opting out of all of this actually #also just. talking about dnd as gender exploration? and how for all of my pcs I’ve had pretty strong feelings about their pronouns but much #less about their gender. #in part because for all the warforged I’ve played pronouns are less about gender and more about. personhood/objecthood #certainly not unrelated but. interesting #and kind of similarly like. I know how I want to be referred to. and that’s all the information people need to know to interact with me. #idk many thoughts! it was a really good conversation #also just. got to be honest about some (aroace #less gender related) stuff I’ve wanted to say to her for a long time #it was good. I love my friends #sola said #delete later