#if valentines day makes you hate yourself thats a sekf hate problem not others

[nooks-cranny-mogai]

Anyway, as an alloaro, greyromantic, aceflux and non-communal Aro: Happy Valentine's day. You are not "Aro/ace/Aroacephobic" for celebrating your love. You are not doing Valentine's Day wrong if your celebrating your platonic love or love for yourself instead of a romantic and/or sexual partner. You're not hurting fellow LGBT people by enjoying your love and celebrating it. Valentine's Day can mean many things for many people.

And for those who will spend today tearing them down, trauma dumping, complaining, calling people aphobes or other insults for celebrating or trying to claim this day is unnecessary and exclusionary.... I hope you heal. I hope you can learn to love yourself.

And when your done healing, I hope you learn that some things just arnt about you and just because they arnt, doesn't make them bad. It sucks to not feel personally included in a wildly celebrated holiday but many people survive st. Patrick's without being Irish, Easter without being Christian and the 4th of July without being American or having American pride. This isn't any different and you don't have to like Valentine's Day, but understand for many gay couples, interracial couples, trans couples, interfaith couples, polycules and so many other people whose love is oppressed and destroyed, this day is a day for them to show their love.

No one likes a Grinch.

#clover speaks #im trying to be so nice but my fellow aroaces act like fucking christians during halloween or when hannakah is mentioned #it all dosent sound as deep as you think it is and its abit lowkey annoying #they try and pull up thanksgiving to natives and i want to scream as an aro native #not even lowkey high key fucking annoying #i understand your struggles but fr? its not even offensive to us it just dosent include us #and my whole community turns into but what about meeee 🥺🥺🥺 #it aint about us and that dosent make it bad or exclusionary #if valentines day makes you hate yourself thats a sekf hate problem not others #get your shit together in therapy aint no body elses problem #just one block of the reasons why im non communal and its so irritating #you sound self centered and hostile and nothing they put forward as reasons to why the holiday is supposedly #problematic are actual reasons other than it hurty their fweelings they arnt incwuded #grow the fuck up yall act like toddlers at a kissing scene like 90% of the time and its so fuckin annoying #not even in a cringe way just in a completely disconnected from reality not seen the sun in 5 years way #its not cute and you make no sense at best and at worst come off so terminally online i cant stand it #anti fuck anti Valentine's day people all my aro homies hate their pretentious victim complex asses #this blog is pro Valentine's day #honestly im making a bigger deal out of it than it is but the thin veil some aros aces and aroaces wear to hide their #boiling hate for allos in their lives and for love and for other aros aces and aroaces who like love is some puritan ass shit #i see you in there :) #ur being fukin weird :) #you look like you said some questionable shit to lesbians in 2018 :) /neg #the type that think a lesbian icon equals terf or all lesbians are aphobes type shit #i remember that era but i aint gettin into it #no thank you 💀 #that was traumatizing #clover vents #clover hates #i will turn this post into a block chain if need be dont test me