#if you're going to spend three days offline could you at least... TELL me first

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#the only thing I hate about being in a polycule #and this is admittedly rare for which I am thankful #but I hate when both parts of my hinge decide they need #*gestures vaguely* #that can't include me #but don't tell me until hours after the fact that they started said activity #leaving me in the dark for hours wondering why I'm feeling lonely #and then I get depressed and start feeling like I'm too dependent on other people #etc. etc. etc. #forever until I go to sleep #which... maybe I should just... do that #sheriff rambles #to be clear those activities are normally a) hanging out with other parts of the polycule or b) games #it's only complicated when half of the polycule is only accessible via long-distance #because covid and lives in another country #but they don't... tell you... that they're going to be hanging out... #and I know it's the issue of different expectations and not great communication #but like #I don't like feeling like this #if you're going to spend three days offline could you at least... TELL me first?