#in typical ace fashion id rather eat cake than mouth kiss someone

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me telling my therapist I'm not a fan of kissing and I've had partners be upset at me for that in the past so I'm always nervous to tell people i want to be close with that, "no, i don't want to kiss but I'm ok with cuddling" — not an invitation for my therapist to say "is that something you're interested in fixing?" and "most people don't think about kissing while they're doing it."

i do. i don't really like it. i don't always hate it. it's just not exactly interesting most of the time. I'd rather not put my mouth on things most of the time. part of it is a bit of germ caution, and most of it is that i don't typically get much out of the sensation (save for very specific circumstances). i also don't like smelling people's breath, good or bad.

I'm aro. I'm a bit ace. I'm fine with where i am. it's not a discomfort that i want to fix. i want to feel more comfortable and valuable to people while existing exactly how i want to. i know i don't want to kiss people. i never have the urge. like ever. unless I'm having sex. and even then, sometimes not. and usually not on the lips. so like. please stop.

#arophobia #might get a new therapist #thinking about it #didnt really like that #the whole point of me bringing any of that up was bc i was proud of myself for declining an offer even if i was scared of abandonment #specifically from a new queer friend #i was afraid they wouldnt want to be my friend if i didnt give them what they wanted #which has happened to me #people can get mad #luckily this person was very understanding and i got to explain who i was to them #was a little nervewracking but i was happy i was authentic #its scary to say no #why does my therapist think i secretly mean yes? #i do not #who cares if i kiss anybody irl #ive had nice sex and good conversations and lovely companionships #i think im set for life on those things for now #maybe some extra income would be nice so i can afford my own apartment #and a little more so i can bake #in typical ace fashion id rather eat cake than mouth kiss someone