#its not unrealistic for people tobe different from you

[bitchfitch]

I have the general rule that I just, don't let myself give a shit about other people's dumbass opinions but I have one pet peeve that I just. Can Not let go of. and it's posts that go

How to write [Minority Group]!

Step 1: Make sure all your characters are exactly like me the op, or are exactly what I like to see in media.

Aside: Anything else is impossible, unrealistic, bigoted and you'll go to hell forever.

Step 2: They also have to use the exact language I do to describe themselves btw, no matter the time period or setting. See the above aside for further explanation.

Step 3: you should never ever even think about the actual mechanics of what makes a trope problematic in its impact in the real world. J ust memorize this list of things that should be banned in all fiction (for being problematic because I don't like them/someone else I agree with said they should be banned)

Step 4: Nuances in identity don't exist <3

#this is specifically about the number of how to write acearos posts that dont recognize people can have motives outside their orientation. #or that demiromantics/demisexuals exist #They are also always Really particular about how its unrealistic for aro characters to be anything other than disgusted by romance #Hi im an ace aro who fucks often and adores romance #as like a genre and form of social performance #I like sex because I like attention thats socially simple and doesn't require the upkeep of a relationship #I like romance because im a human person who doesn't think every story has to be about me to be interesting. #I like new experiences and seeing the world from other perspectives i like the pagentry of dates andnthe aesthetics of love. #Whether im loveless or not is an ongoing question because my ability to process my own emotions is zilch. #Maybe im incapable of love (the chemialcal reaction) but still chose to love (the social contract) #its not unrealistic for people tobe different from you #it just Frustrates me to no end when folk try to define anyone who shares their lable but arnt like them out of existence.