#less specific to h but many binary trans ppl identify as straight after coming out but may have spent years in gay communities and maintain

[finelinegynandromorph]

a gentle reminder that using woman-coded terms for h (like girlfriend, woman, mommy, she/her, etc.) does *not* erase his queerness! a soft reminder that gay non-binary people exist! a friendly reminder that queer people can use all sorts of terms and labels and ways of referring to their own unique experiences! a further reminder that affirming harry’s consistent expression of his affinity/connection/alignment with womanhood and femininity does not take away from his queerness in any way!!

i’m literally non-binary and i didn’t grow up with access to a lot of queer terminology or representation of different ways of being queer so this is genuinely not coming from a place of malice at all but rather an earnest suggestion that you listen to varied trans perspectives and not outright dismiss something because it doesn’t align with your personal experience of queerness. as h said himself: “what’s feminine and what’s masculine...it’s like there are no lines anymore.” [and an obligatory reminder that no one is in good faith suggesting harry is non-binary solely bc of the way he dresses but rather his overall consistent messaging about his experience of fluidity and identity && this is obviously not me defending ppl who take alignment w femininity or aspects of personality to mean that a queer person needs to occupy a certain rigid sexual role or vice versa]

#less specific to h but many binary trans ppl identify as straight after coming out but may have spent years in gay communities and maintain #a powerful connection to those communities #everyone's free to interpret music and art in their own way #just please be kind to others and reflect on why you might such a visceral reaction to the idea that h could see himself as a woman #(which doesn't negate him viewing himself as a man too!) #also a reminder that h is viewed by the world largely as a man and as such using woman-coded terms for him can be an affirming move to show #respect and appreciation for a part of himself that isn't largely acknowledged at all #pls know that trans person referring to h and l as gf and bf does not erase their queerness but rather is a playful recognition of h's #consistent self-alignment with woman bc these are all just terms #there's no one right way to be queer and i think it's in bad faith to shit on largely trans fans for expressing affirmation and connection w #h and his feminine-coded qualities that don't often get the recognition they deserve compared to his manhood and relation to masculinity #(which have been played up for marketing since he was 16) #and the ways that that dynamic is inherently intertwined w sociocultural misogyny #not targeted at anyone specific just a friendly reminder at the end of the day h is a worldfamous popstar who quite likely wont see your #comments but gay nb friends who might be struggling to figure out their identities could and they could be really damaging #strict labels and boxes are like the antithesis of being queer #like even if you personally don't feel fluid remember to leave space for expansive fluidity in others!! #reminders