#like geez i’m not great at arguing against gender essentialism but you’re not qualified at all to be making connections across history

[tragicomedys]

fuckign hate straigjt cis dudes even the “cool” ones

#why are they so obsessed with concepts that low key connect to gender essentialism #Like fr they’re so obsessed with the ‘differences between men and women’ and reproductive shit and whagever #brothers trying to say there needs to be an inherent instinctual trait that has made people give girls dolls across cultures and history #that goes beyond social/cultural norms and pressures but connects to something inherently linked to their psychology. even during stone age #times/times where the world wasn’t so connected and stuff #Like bro…. and the thing is neither of us have even researched this topic well #so fucking arguing with him about this is literally like grasping at straws #and i’m not out either so i can’t pull my nonbinary card LMFAO… #like geez i’m not great at arguing against gender essentialism but you’re not qualified at all to be making connections across history/ #cultures/sociologically speaking on how many girls have this instinct to care for a humanoid doll and how guys probably have this instinct #to be interested in shit like. Fucking a boulder falling in a pond or shit (tiktoks this ones for my male audience type vids) #like those tiktoks are jokes dog #anyway it’s so tough arguing w him cuz he’s also so defensive and sure he’s correct. sir you don’t fucking know shit on this topic and #neither do i. i just know that gender essentialism is stupid and we’re seeing that more and more in today’s times as lgbt communities make #themselves and their thoughts more known #No but for real straight cis dudes even the ones that are accepting actually make such a big deal about figuring out differences between #(Cis obv) women and men. and ofc it always goes back to reproductive functions + ‘hunger gatherer times’ #it creates such an echo chamber bc his essentialist ideas are what is more generally believed by cis people and since he will never go #beyond that to research the topic he will always keep believing in this popular notion that isn’t necessarily based in facts. and that’s why #i hate arguing with him. i’m stuttering and confused for a reason and that’s bc i can admit i can’t argue this topic properly 😭 #💭.txt