#like i wouldnt go to maya/monse w/ a luke pic

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Jess do you have any tips on how to make friends on here? (specifically how to be friends with you) 🥲

I've been trying to think of a good answer to this since it came in this morning and tbh, anon, I just have to say "put yourself out there." There are very few people on our side of the internet who wouldn't be super excited at the prospect of making a new friend. DMs are almost always welcome. People tend to really love asks. They love getting interaction on the content they create. I think most of the friends I've made here tbh have stemmed from me going into their inbox or them coming into mine and saying, "hey, I love your work!" whether that be gifs or edits or fics. That's not to say that you need to consume someone's content to be friends with them but it's usually a pretty good conversation starter. Also, just dumb little phrases are welcome usually. I think the first message I ever sent Anna was "did I miss your birthday?" Yeah, it's just a lot of... you have to just say hi to someone and then not put too much pressure on your interactions. I don't really think you should go into a relationship with "I have to be their friend" in mind because usually, that puts too much pressure on both of you to perform, y'know?? Just message people and chit-chat and see who you vibe with. There are some really great people on this side of the internet and it may take some trial and error to find out who you click/feel safe with but you'll find your niche.

And as for me uh,, Geez. I don't know! Sending me a cute Ash photo is never a bad way to start!! You can talk about something,, consent-based and that always catches my attention. That's half a joke, halfway completely true. Really, on a simplistic level, it's just about popping by and saying hi. My dms are always open and I'm more than happy to give my discord to people privately. I would say I'm a fairly,,, welcoming person. I try to be! I try to make people comfortable with me and whatnot. So, hopefully, if you slid into my dms I wouldn't scare you. You're always more than welcome to <3

#pigeon #also it is a lot abt picking ur audience for some things #i wouldnt go to molly w/ an ashton photo #like i wouldnt go to maya/monse w/ a luke pic #if i want to talk abt writing stuff i tend to go to anna #it's really a lot of finding... what feels comfortable w/ you and ur people #amanda sends me a lot of dog pics and aria sends me cow content a fair bit #and emma and i just... lmfao gush at 1 am #myle and i have had some brief beautiful conversations about poetry #teresa and i tend to vent passionately abt ashton or i print out and color their drawings lmfao #em and i talk abt irl life and Michael a fair bit #i talk to molly like im live tweeting #yeah basically what im saying is... dont get hung up if you don't Click with someone right away #it's abt finding the right people who work with you in the right ways #and also !! dont force yourself to be friends with someone just bc you idolized them!!!!!!!! #i seriously cant stress this enough. if u see me on the dash and create a type of parasocial relationship with me #where u go 'oh they're cool!! i want to be their friend!!' and then u message me and i give u a bad vibe #do not try to force yourself to be my friend bc of ur previously established notions of me does that make sense?? #it's so important not to be friends with someone just bc you idolized them previously. like fr so so important. #and there's also a bit of a difference between being a fan of someone and being their friend y'know?? #all friends are fans but not all fans are friends. so don't put urself in an environment where ur just... a fan of someone. #idk why i went on that tangent but. i think it's important. especially if ur on the younger side in a majorly older fandom