#like the bible never says women cant have careers or be as wise as men or wear pants or not wear makeup or whatever weird secular standards

[myhoneymydaisy]

toxic tradmen (no not all tradmen are toxic pls do not bully me) scare the absolute potatoes out of me because i always feel like they're one post away from going from "men are strong, manly, brave leaders...lads, guide ur wife, seek a wife that's meek n humble n submissive" to "oh and btw it's totally okay to beat/punish your wife if she's not submissive and force her to do virtually anything you want her to do bc ofc ur the alpha leader husband and she is ur weak tiny sex slave wife who has to obey u no matter what and can't protest or else she doesn't love God"

like no, no no, no, wait– i don't think that is loving your wife how Christ loved the church? honestly the way some of these guys talk about women and wives on their blogs...it's so degrading? like do you guys remember how exactly the bible defines what "love" is? because i think you need to, mates. i know i could never submit to a man who behaves like i owe him everything no matter what all the while believing that i'm too stupid or weak to be respected as his equal or have a meaningful opinion. i'd rather never marry.

tldr being a Godly husband is not the same as being a bdsm dom?? when and how and why did those cultures mix??? literally how.

#now for context yes i am traumatized my dad was an abusive pedophilic alcoholic #he controlled every aspect of my mother from her jobs to her looks and would beat her and a few times tried to kill her legit #i have no good experience with men #Tradmen #tradlife #tradfem #Christianblr #Christian Feminism #Christian tradlife #like the bible never says women cant have careers or be as wise as men or wear pants or not wear makeup or whatever weird secular standards #that some tradmen force on women saying Godly women act stereotypically feminine rather than biblically feminine do you know what i mean #im scared they think its right and okay to few women as dumber helpless accessories who serve their every whim and are only good for beauty #or sex or chores or children #does nothing else about us matter? #is that what femininity is to them bc it cant be right #ladies and lads opinions are welcome but dont be rude thanks #even though im predisposed to assume that men would beat me anyway let me know if im on the right track with this one #i meant to write view not few rest assured women arent stupid but i certainly am