#like the smallpox line and the uh funny haha barbie version of mount rushmore joke are uh

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im pretty sure this is not a popular opinion which is why i havent said it, but its been on my mind for months now so fuck it, i guess.

you know that post, the one about the barbie movie and margot robbie talking about barbie being a doll with no reproductive organs and sexual desire, and a lot of tumblr users just like, celebrating this as a win for asexuality?

i hate that post. a lot. like a lot a lot.

because while i dont think margot robbies conclusion is wrong (shes a doll), i think calling barbie asexual is inaccurate and it makes me, an ace person, uncomfortable.

like i dont think its a purposeful link, but that comparison very much implies that sexuality and sexual desire is tied to having reproductive organs, which uh no, thats not how that works and i really dislike that implication. idk about you, but i dont like tying my queerness to my biology.

that link is also one that rings of those who presume that there is a universal normative experience, which is also true of the movie itself, see jessie genders video on that. there are many people in the world who have what would be considered atypical reproductive organs and plenty whose reproductive organs can be considered not-working like those who have gone through the menopause, and they are not all ace.

its also just reductive as to what asexuality in general. margot robbies quote was specifically that barbie didnt feel sexual desire, and funnily enough, sexual desire =/= sexual attraction. while i, myself, be a sex-repulsed ace, there are plenty of horny aces who do the fuck. ive already mentioned the fact that im opposed to linking my queerness to biology, and honestly that part only made me more uncomfortable after the movie ended on "im here to see my gynecologist".

also just, barbie is a plastic doll. like thats how she starts in the movie itself. shes not asexual, shes a doll. and idk dude, theres just a part of me that is deeply uncomfortable with tying asexuality with a doll.

like imo, this just isnt the win for asexuality people were treating it as. we can do better than this.

especially considering the way queerness was handled in the film, but again, go watch jessie genders video on it, its better presented than my rambling post

#kai rambles #this has been on my mind for months #everytime i saw that post #i stayed quiet #i didnt say anything #i didnt want to ruin people's fun #which is how i treated all of the barbie movies because people were having fun i didnt want to ruin the fun #or come across as a contrarian #or put myself on the same side of all the sad men complaining about it being about men being evil #because like thats not my opinion but when those are the loudest voices criticising the film #you dont want to join in yourself because i also think their criticisms are dumb and bigoted #but i also think the movie was a vehicle for capitalism and that people are hailing greta gerwig for a middling film that is also an #advert for matel #and that its social commentary is woefully lacking because its just so fucking white #it is a white feminist movie #it is a cishet feminist movie #it does not address or even acknowledge intersectionality #and it is randomly (?) racist towards native americans #like the smallpox line and the uh funny haha barbie version of mount rushmore joke are uh #theyre unnecessary inclusions that show at the very least an ignorance towards native issues and experiences #also like its hard to make your fuck the patriarchy movie when capitalism is a fundamental part of the patriarchy and your movie is also an #also the movie itself links gender with reproductive organs which is not only cisnormative and like fucking #radfem bullshit #but also completely ignores the fact that intersex people exist #...i did not mean to go on a rant #i didnt even like particularly dislike the film i just fucking hated how it was being discussed