#meanwhile every unisex bathroom I've ever been to has been a haven of cleanliness and peace

[dinosaurcharcuterie]

I just realized I don't want gender neutral bathrooms and changing rooms just for gender reasons. I don't even want them just for practicality reasons, or just for economic reasons.

I want gender neutral hygiene spaces because, in my experience*, women who are bursting to get out of a sports bra and/or pee are wont to say unkind things and excuse it as "between us girls", and men do not wash properly if they think the bro code protects them.

#gender equality #equal rights #diversity #trans rights are human rights #chronic pain #chronic illness #*a shocking number of venues think having one bathroom per gender operational in an entire massive building is good enough #even if all the elevators are broken #this includes my own employer #and the one before that #on the upside #I've checked in five european countries #very very few people continue making a fuss about you being in the wrong bathroom if you say “I need to PEEEEEE” and keep walking #we're all human #we all get the urgency of the moment #including that one bathroom attendant in Amsterdam Main Station #thank you for not making me pee myself in public sir #yes I noticed the men's stalls were also all occupied #I've learned to work around such things on days my mobility is limited but thank you for your concern #that being said #transphobes have a lot of stuff they're weird about #them insisting we should strive to limit our options to piss-scented cave or grotto walls literally smeared with blood is just extra yikes #I don't care what silly fairy tales the cishets have dreamt up about you #you are in public and what you're doing is nasty #wipe your ass #think before you speak #meanwhile every unisex bathroom I've ever been to has been a haven of cleanliness and peace #every unisex changing room has been an oasis of pleasant conversation with a 70% reduction in noxious deodorant clouds #gender was invented by big bathroom to sell more bathrooms #and it made bathrooms worse for everyone