#people on twitter talk about the safeword like its just a way to voice discomfort but uh. no its a full revoking of consent

[mintbees]

its easy to go "haha he had a weird fetish" and have that be the take-away of wilbur soots whole weird biting thing but i'm serious here if you ever decide to do anything with a partner that involves aspects of kink or BDSM, the safeword is not a suggestion.

Saying the safe word isnt a "slow down" or "do this a bit different", its a full stop. The only good response to the safeword is to end the whole "scene" you're playing out and go into aftercare.

Everything that happens after the safe word is rape. No ifs and buts. the safeword is someone saying "i am no longer comfortable with what we're doing, its not arousing anymore, its painful/scary and i want it to stop". If it needs to be called at all it should make you and your partner discuss what happened and how to avoid it in the future. The fact wilbur bit down so hard that the safeword was routinely needed and eventually ignored entirely makes me so fucking mad.

It doesn't matter how deep into the headspace of the scene you are you have to keep in the back of your mind that if someone says the safeword the whole scene ends. And if you can't do that then don't have that kind of sex because you will hurt someone

to me wilbur soot isnt just an abusive dickhead, he's a rapist too.

#wilbur soot #its ten am i WOKE UP mad at this ive been fuming since last night #people on twitter talk about the safeword like its just a way to voice discomfort but uh. no its a full revoking of consent #the fact she even needed to use the safeword is insane to me that man was for sure drawing blood