#rather than throwing yourself out as irredeemable trash

[cesium-sheep]

ugh, and then when I was double-checking my response to that email with a friend, they had the gall to refer to them in a really dehumanizing way, so that’s a whole other thing I also had to deal with today. yeehaw.

just a quick psa, there are lines we don’t cross, y’all. no matter how annoying or outright horrible a person is, there are lines we don’t cross. you are not personally obligated to put in the work to help a bad person become better, but you absolutely do not get a pass to lash out at them in awful and damaging ways, because that makes shit harder for those who will put in the work, including the people you lash out at.

a couple examples: direct dehumanization, slurs, misgendering, death threats/kys

I get that not everyone is viewed as capable or worthy of rehabilitation, even though I’m iffy on that. but that doesn’t make it okay.

#side note: assassination attempts don't fall into the same purview of death threats to me #my morality is just really weird sometimes don't worry about it #I suppose it's a question of using things we think are unacceptable when others do them #to maliciously create an atmosphere of fear #as opposed to putting your money where your mouth is #really think the world will be vastly better off without a specific person? #actions speak louder than words #this doesn't apply to suicide attempts btw because you're waaaaaay more biased against yourself than say #a genocidal fuckhead #like a genocidal fuckhead is probably as awful as you think they are #you on the other hand are extreeeeeeeeeeemely rarely as awful as you think you are #and you also have the option to put in the work to make yourself a better person #which you can't impose on a genocidal fuckhead in the same way #rather than throwing yourself out as irredeemable trash #(and tbh I don't think there is such a thing as irredeemable trash) #(I do think there are people who can't be helped fast enough to prevent atrocities) #(and I understand the trolley problem that gets into and I think the answer is to minimize harm) #(but minimizing harm also means only doing harm to others when it actually stops additional harm) #(rather than just cuz you're petty or hurt)

[fooljshgirl]

50 more interesting questions tag!

Rules: Fill this out and tag at least one person you’d like to know more about! Or just fill it out! Or don’t! Answer only some of them! Who am I to tell you what to do? Anything goes! tagged by @dear-mrs-otome (thank you for making this questionnaire!) and @slbp-owns-ayame! thank u for making me feel included, friends💓 i’ve crossed some questions out, mainly cos i’m too unfocused to answer them or cos i couldn’t think of an answer 😅

1. What kind of food can’t you stand?: 

indian food, sadly ): i’ve had it once or twice and have therefore concluded that the spice is too much for me. i like their roti and naan, though!

2. If you could choose one minor inconvenience to never have to deal with again, what would you pick?: 

shaving & waxing, definitely. i’m hairy as hell but i don’t want to shave any other part than my intimates and underarms cos apparently once you shave or wax, the hair grows thicker and i definitely don’t want to deal with that.

3. Have you got any useless talents?: 

4. If you could be really really good at one thing, what would it be?: 

i’d love to master how to counter being unproductive. this is a serious issue for me and i Don’t Know What To Do anymore.

5. Name a few people you think are extremely good-looking: 

Kim Namjoon, Nam Joo Hyuk, Lee Min Ho, Cody Ko.

6. What was your favorite way to pass the time as a kid?: 

drawing! i loved it then. my dad even got me a book on how to draw in anime style when i was around 10 or 11.

7. What is something you’re proud of?: 

i got paid for a few published articles recently! i wasn’t expecting to, but am really proud of myself for it anyway.

8. What’s one character flaw in people that you just can’t tolerate?: 

attention-seeking 100%. especially if the person is just doing it to ‘fit in’. i find it really cringey and frankly unsavory. don’t do things you don’t want to do just to feel cool!!!!!!! 

9. Do you consider yourself to be more of a leader or a follower?: 

a leader, tbh. i’d like to think i’m good at planning and motivating people to get moving on their tasks. as a follower, i always have suggestions as to how to make the plan more feasible, and eventually end up becoming the leader anyway.

10. What kind of student are/were you?: 

i used to be a great student, a teacher’s dream lmao but now i guess i’m still the same, it’s just overshadowed by my laziness and inability to recognize urgency.

11. Butterfly effect question! Has there ever been a seemingly minor decision you’ve made (at the time) that ended up having a profound influence on your life?: 

12. Name your most irrational fear/aversion: 

I HATE BUGS AND INSECTS THEY ARE THE ONLY THINGS IN THIS WORLD I WILL HATE apparently this is called entomophobia

13. Are there any fictional characters you find especially relatable?: 

14. If you drink, what kind of drunk are you? Alternatively, what sort of person are you at parties?: 

i’m a quiet, spaced out drunk. i look like the type to fall asleep at any moment, but i’d liven up the moment you talk to me. at parties, i’m usually one of those people at the sidelines, just watching the others at the beginning. at the end, i’m with my friends doing something we’d most likely get suspended for lol

15. Do you fall in love easily? Or does it usually take a long time for you to trust someone?:

it depends on the person, i think. i catch feelings fairly easily if i think you’re cute, but actually falling in love would take prob a year from me, at least. i give my trust out quickly, but it’s not the kind of trust where i’d tell you all my deepest thoughts. it’s more of a, “yeah i’ll take you at your word, i don’t generally think you’’re shady” kind.

16. Would you rather have one close friend or 100 casual friends?: 

aaaaaaaaaaaa i’m torn! talking to one person all day all the time can be tiring and draining, but having a ton of casual friends means not rly having someone to vent to, or someone to bounce ideas off of. i guess right now, i’m leaning towards the latter, simply because if you have a hundred casual friends online, it’ll be less awkward to talk about ‘deep’ things because chances are, you don’t know each other in real life lol

17. Do you consider yourself to be more of a slob or a neat-freak?: 

both!!! i can be very organized and clean in the beginning, but then i get lazy to put whatever it is back to where i got it and i end up having a moderately organized messy work table.

18. Describe a place (imaginary or real) that you would find incredibly cozy: 

sunlight pouring in through the slits of the window shades, making the room less dim. a white comforter on white sheets and black pillows, my laptop on top and hot tea on the bedside table, along with my phone. the air conditioner is on, the temperature matches perfect sweater weather. alternatively, cold wind blows in through the window.

19. Do you have kids? If not, do you want them someday?: 

i don’t, and sometimes i think i want two of them! but who knows, everything changes.

20. What was your favorite book as a child? 

it’s more of a series; the Berenstain Bears! Mercer Mayer’s Little Critter is a close runner-up. 

21. Name one thing you just don’t get what all the hype is about: 

buying official band merch! while i understand that it’s because they’re your idols, coming from someone who’s been a hard stan of a particular band for more than two years, once you grow out of them, you’re going to realize how much money you’d spent that could’ve gone to a better place. i just realized this still applies to me cos of slbp shut up

22. Name one thing that you think is tragically underrated: 

it’s more of a person, actually; Cody Ko! i find his YouTube videos extremely funny, plus he’s cute lol

23. If you had to be glued to a person for a month, real or fictional (who you have never met), who would you choose?: 

24. What’s something you’d like the chance to do someday?: 

get into medical school and get my license, despite our financial stance. i always thought being a doctor or a lawyer was boring, but now being a doctor has a certain appeal to me. i’d love to help people through their sicknesses and help them feel and be better.

25. Do you typically speak your mind when you have a controversial opinion? Or do generally prefer to not rock the boat?: 

i almost always speak my mind, and generally push aside any hesitance if it’s ‘controversial’, except of course if i don’t know much about what the issue is. i only choose to stay quiet when i know my opinion isn’t going to get through to whoever it is i’m talking to.

26. What’s the dumbest fad you’ve been caught up in?: 

the grunge, all black hype of 2014 kjfjkdkjfdkjdfs i still cringe

27. What’s something you thought was cool as a kid/adolescent, but now cringe at yourself for?: 

my answer @ #26 )))): 

28. What’s a trait you consider to be very admirable?: 

being able to still be yourself or stand up for your morals despite getting shit on for it, definitely.

29. Is there a particular kind of item people always tend to give you as gifts? (For instance, people always get you things with ducks on them because you like ducks, etc.): 

it’s usually either clothes or money, which i am 10/10 grateful for every time 

30. Do you speak multiple languages? Which ones?: 

i speak two, mainly; english and my native language!

31. Would you rather live in the big city or the countryside?: 

big city, no hesitation.

32. Has there ever been something you were certain you’d hate, but ended up loving?: 

kpop tbh. i used to be a lowkey hater when i was in elementary (but would jam out to them when i was alone), but loOK AT ME NOW

33. Do you mind being the center of attention, or do you prefer the spotlight to be on someone else?: 

i’m alright with either, but prefer being at the back making things work for whoever’s on stage.

34. Favorite holiday?: 

my birthday duh

35. Are you a more go-with-the-flow type of person, or do you need to have things planned meticulously?: 

i like going with the flow, but would feel much more comfortable if there were some constants in the said flow.

36. Is there something you loved so much you wish you could forget it and experience it all over again? (A tv show, book, series–anything.): 

37. What hobbies do you have?: 

i LOVE reading and learning more about astrology. i’ve gotten into tarot recently because of it!

38. If you could have a superpower, but it was only mildly useful, what ability would you want to have?: 

being able to shoot trash in the bin with 100% precision every time. imagine throwing your waste five meters away from where the bin is? less walk time, amazing

39. Something people are always surprised to learn about you: 

“she’s not a bitch after all...” sike i am 

40. Something that took you way too long to figure out: 

pretending to be someone you aren’t only hurts you in the end.

41. Worst injury you’ve had? 

i don’t know if this counts, but i swallowed a fish bone when i was in elementary and almost had to go into surgery to get it out of my throat lol

42. Any morbid fascinations?: 

i am and always will be in love with crime shows like Criminal Minds or CSI. 

43. Describe your sense of humor: 

honestly i laugh at almost anything. i can find something to laugh at during someone’s funeral 💀

44. If you had to be born in another era/place, which would you choose?: 

45. Something you are irredeemably bad at:

F O C U S I N G❗️❗️❗️❗️ i always have at least three things on my mind at all times it’s exhausting 

46. Something that sucked but you’re glad you went through: 

i was able to get out of an abusive relationship late last year and i am extremely grateful it happened. i’m still hesitant to continue contact with the other party, but we’re getting there.

47. Would you rather have a really godawful ugly tattoo in a place that is only slightly inconvenient to conceal with clothing (upper arm, thigh, etc.), or the coolest, most beautiful tattoo ever in the middle of your face? (Neither tattoo can be removed or concealed with makeup, and the ugly tattoo will deeply offend anyone who sees it.): 

i’d have freckles around my nose and cheek area as the really pretty tattoo on my face, so joke’s on you!!!!!!!!

48. Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist?: 

optimist, for sure. i can always see the bright side of things.

49. What would be the most flattering compliment someone could give you?: 

“you really put your all into this and did a great job, you deserve this!”

50. Something you feel people often misunderstand about you: 

i think it’s more of some people underestimate how smart i am, and it doesn’t bother me at all lol think me dumb all u want let’s see who’ll be laughing when i get ur ass beat

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