#that 1% is the little rabid chimp in my brain that's biting through the wiring and I know it

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Gonna be real with you the gender studies degree made it MORE complicated for you probably. (This is not a bad thing)

I tend to go with vagina-haver or penis-haver myself tho if I'm angling for a specific genital setup ngl.

Yeahhhhhhhhh 😔 ngl so many of my professors in that degree were terfs who didn't know what intersex people were that I have like... an instinctive contrarian reaction to these things. And I've done so much research into sex and gender and sex assignment and the language used around them that my brain feels like a fried microwave when I try to come up with a simple answer for my silly fun blog that is meant to be stress free.

I absolutely prefer part-specific language like... in general. Just in general life, I think it's more important when talking about sex (the body configuration, not the act) to reference specific parts than to try to use gender language to describe it. Amab and afab come with all sorts of assumptions about the body that are often untrue for intersex people or trans people who have had surgery or disabled people whose disabilities altered their primary or secondary sex characteristics or hormones. And like, probably also a bunch of other people I'm forgetting too. Because people are complicated and the medical ideal of what a perisex cisgender man and woman look like don't account for a significant percent of the population.

But yeah, like ideally people would specify pronouns/gender/body parts if they care about any of those and want something specific. But then there's also the inherent idea that someone with a penis won't have breasts, for example, when plenty of bodies have both. Or the assumption that someone who has a penis also has a pair of testicles, or someone with a vagina doesn't also have a penis or clitoromegaly, or that they haven't had medical intervention (consensual or nonconsensual) to change sex traits. It's messy!! It's all so messy and confusing and we don't have the right language for it to be concise and clear because our whole language was developed by a society that actively wants to pretend these variations don't exist and/or make sure they don't exist.

And this doesn't take into account the innate assumptions that have to be made to write a reader insert story with any level of detail. Assumptions about the number of limbs someone has, whether or not they have hair, whether or not they can walk and talk and hear and see. But if you completely scrub a reader insert story of anything that might make an assumption about the reader, then what are you left with? Nothing worth reading, that's for sure.

Idk idk sorry I think I might just be going a lil insane tonight? That scrupulous OCD is hitting hard. But yeah, my brain feels like maybe its exploded a little or possibly been submerged under water.

#sunshine #asks #sorry about this I'm just a lil bit crazy :3c #only a tiny teensy itsy bitsy little bit mentally ill #I'll probably just ignore the requests that specify these things until my brain isn't running in circles like a chimpanzee with rabies #*through gritted teeth* this is a FUN blog I do for FUN and it DOESN'T MATTER if it's not 100% inclusive of everyone all the time #99% of the time I'm like 'I write for myself first and everyone else second so it doesn't matter if not everyone can relate to it' #and then 1% of the time I'm like 'actually if I'm not inclusive of everyone all the time then I shouldn't be writing at all' #that 1% is the little rabid chimp in my brain that's biting through the wiring and I know it #which is worse cause I'm shaking my brain going 'WE KNOW WE'RE BEING CRAZY SO MAKE IT STOP' and it Doesn't Stop!!! #contrary to what it may seem I do actually love writing reader insert #it just makes me a lil nuts sometimes when the rabid brain chimp comes out to play #maybe I'll just make every reader insert from now on hyper-specific to my own experiences #I'm joking but it Would save me a lot of chimp wrestling