#this blog isn't for fighting anonymous assholes anyway

[xoxratedkitten]

I virtually never post or ask questions. And if I do it's anon cause I don't like attention. But I'll do this just to say I am so sorry you have to deal with freaks like that oh my word! I'm not really one to go on the offensive, but they had some serious issues to talk to another human like that. Insecure, immature, lacking common decency, or all the above.

Not that you need me to tell you, but don't let them get to you! Very understandable to remove turn off anon. Either way, your blog is fun and you seem very much respectful! Hope you are doing well!

Thank you for reaching out to let me know <3

I really don't WANT to have to turn anon off so often. In case I made it seem otherwise to those who aren't complete asshats, I do actually enjoy a lot of the anon asks I get. But I also really don't want to leave the door open for unwanted attention cause they're not worth getting mad over so I'm not interested in giving them the power to do that at all. The way they shut up when I take that away says a lot.

#you didn't mention if you'd rather me answer privately so I hope it's okay #I can delete later if you'd like just let me know #this blog isn't for fighting anonymous assholes anyway #but again I appreciate you uwu #ask

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

okay. i'm the anon with the normal story that ended up getting to an "i don't care i'm not the asshole" because of the other person turning out to be part of an odd otherkin cult but it genuinely doesn't matter. am i the asshole for killing off a player's character after they said they would leave the game if their character died? this happened a few years ago (2019-2020).

i (19NB) was the DM for a d&d game. i had made a friend who we'll call Max (20F) at college who liked d&d, and i had wanted to run a game for my friends of several years, so i wanted to invite her. Max got along pretty well with my friends during D&D for the most part, but there were some slight disagreements, but regardless, Max and my friends of several years did not talk much outside of D&D and scheduling D&D, and I wasn't going to force them to.

Covid starts, so we all sort of switch to discord and continue playing because the easiest place for us to play at (local library) is closed. One session, we have to end early because Max and another player started fighting about a rule, and wouldn't give me (as the DM) the space to come up with a compromise. Another session, we had an issue where she (after being given the floor to describe a kill she made) got way more graphic than any of us were expecting. I quickly wrapped up the session after and had to let Max know that she had went too far in her description. I spoke to everyone outside of Max after these occasions, and they had all admitted they were very uncomfortable with her behavior, but were willing to keep playing with her if she stopped. So, we play a few more sessions. After we started a boss fight and her character had taken a good bit of damage due to some unlucky rolls, she made a comment to me that was along the lines of "if [x] dies i think i'm just gonna step out of the game"

I had my out, and by the end of the boss fight (about 2 sessions[they were short]), I killed her character. Obviously, I made it seem like it was just a really unlucky day by fudging some rolls, but whatever.

But she changes her mind and doesn't leave the game, and rolls up a new character. She had no further major issues with anyone after her first character died.

The game finishes mid 2020, and before it ended, Max revealed she'd be moving by fall, so I would also never have to see her again in real life if I cut her off right as the game ended. Once it did, I acted as if my friends had just come clean to me about being uncomfortable with her behavior and I no longer wanted to speak to her because of it.

That's the AITA of it.

Anyway, early this year, after all of us have basically forgotten about this, I get an anonymous DM on twitter. It's a page run by Max actively detailing a spiritual cult that her and one of her friends and their boyfriend ran. They detailed several gods they worshiped, some of which were just characters I knew she or her friends liked, some were the more traditional witch gods and they spoke of a spiritual prison or something where her D&D character was now trapped in after I had cut her off. I look into it further. I found a tumblr blog of people claiming (with screenshots, photos, and videos) that Max financially, emotionally, and psychologically abused them. Anyway, does this addition change anything?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #otherkin cult anon #cult cw

[isa-ghost]

What does tea blogs mean?

I'm gonna assume you're in the Jacksepticeye fandom since you're asking that so if I say something under the assumption you understand it, reply to this with further questions. I saw tea blogs for Markiplier & a couple of their other friends but generally speaking afaik, it was mainly a JSE thing.

Anyway

"Tea blogs" were hate blogs back in 2019-2021 that would claim they were posting constructive criticism or "hot takes" about Sean, his community, his friends, etc. but really it was nothing but anonymous hate, straight up rumors, and other vile shit about both Sean AND members of jseblr.

The ringleader of it all stalked my blog for a long time because I was so outspoken about hating the blogs. I made a block list of blog urls for people and everything. They retaliated by making a side blog stealing my pfp at the time, which was my friends art, putting clown shit over it, and doing other stupid shit to harass me. And anyone else who spoke against them for that matter. Blogs I once admired turned into these repulsive asshole people spewing the most untrue, disrespectful bullshit I've ever seen.

It got so bad that throughout the time the blogs were a trend, jseblr genuinely fucking died. And in my opinion, never really fully recovered. People left Tumblr for Twitter or elsewhere. Or left the community altogether, be it because they fell for the lies being spread by the blogs, or out of fear of being harassed by them and their supporters. My dash got so quiet I eventually went radio silent on here through a lot of that time span too. There was no use in fighting the blogs so I just went silent so they'd go away. Blocked any new ones I found and moved on.

When the tea blog trend blew over, a few of my really close friends came back, but the community still isn't the same these days. Whether people found other interests to focus on, just didn't come back to the fandom, didn't come back to Tumblr, or something else, jseblr is still a ghost town more or less. At the very least, in my corner (which mind you I follow/am mutuals with a lot of "big popular blogs" in the fandom, this shouldn't be this way) it's quiet.

Between being stalked, harassed and witnessing the genuine, long-lasting damage the blogs inflicted on the community, I will NEVER forgive anyone who ran a tea blog, sent asks to them, or participated in their bullshit in any other way. I hope they're all absolutely miserable, because what they've done to the fandom was and still is devastating.

I fucking miss my friends and favorite blogs that aren't active here anymore.