#when I say I don't want a dog because it doesnt fit my lifestyle or I don’t know how to take care of one properly

[sowearecleariamhere]

What annoys me is when allos are so caught up in their amatonormativity (or just allonormativity) that any statement akin to "romance is not or less important to some/you don't need a partner to complete you" comes across to them as downplaying their own relationships, present or past, and then take offence, raising their pitchforks crying out about how they love their partner and for good measure throw in something like "being by yourself is selfish", "falling in love is what makes us human", "everyone wants a relationship"...

They don't though. That's the thing. There are people that are perfectly content without a romantic relationship, whether at all or just for the season of life they are in at the moment.

So heres my message to those people:

Me maybe not ever wanting a relationship is my preference and has nothing to do with you. Me stating that there are people like me does not devalue your relationship. If you perceive it as such, then that is on you and you might want to learn to not take shit that isn't an affront personally. End of PSA.

*awkward curtsy*

#aromantic #aro #aroace #fuck amatonormativity #seriously tiring #tired of this shit #when I say I don't want a dog because it doesnt fit my lifestyle or I don’t know how to take care of one properly #or because I JUST DONT WANT TO then no one bats an eye #can we do the same for relationships please #what do you care if I have a partner or not #and if you come at me for using a dog as a metaphor you're getting blocked #you know what I mean and of you dont then just ask #dont be rude #or else like I said youre blocked #i have no fucks to give today