#with rhe transphobia sometimes

[blondbirb]

i think it's ep 90-ish or so !! its suuuper short n barely noticeable but YES he was so pretty in his black clothes SOBS

OH THANK YOH SO MUCH BLESS UR HEART

I only read op n I havent watched much of the anime tbh it has its ups and downs and the animation quality changed a lot in earlier years BUT wano arc looks gorgeous nowadays they put their whole dick and balls in some of those scenes anwyas enough rambling from me

i like one piece a lot ace is my first anime husbando

AND PLEASEEEEEE E HE LOOKS SO LOVELY AAAAAA I LOVE AND MISS HIM EVERYDAYYYHHHHH black looks so good on him dnsnnsnsn

#ask #no one usually talk me about one piece around here but i adore this series so much #oh i could go on and on about how flawed this series is too not even mentioning the usual shounen sexism BUT IT TREATS THE WOMEN #one piece women r gorgeous n strong #but oda does all the trans women dirty though jesus christ sanji tone it down #with rhe transphobia sometimes #then again they also forced sanji to wear dresses n do shit he didnt esnt to but still was a traumatizint time for him #anyways im so normal about one piece

[pillarsalt]

hi Im the same ex transmasc anon who sent you that aask about rhe tumblr ban thing, I did a lot of reading without forcing myself away this time. (I used to look at radblr sometimes bc I got curious, but when it started making too much sense i would make myself stop reading and tell myself I was being manipulated and try to forget about it..looking back that probably wasnt normal haha,)

I have mixed feelings tho. I don’t regret looking closer, the amount of sexism in the trans community was horrible. I think even radfems don’t understand how bad it was because it was all subtle styff. But seeing it constantly irl and online was terrible for me as a female. It gave me so much internalized misogyny, it made me hate myself and I felt worthless and stupid! and whiny! and annoying! all the time!! unless I was able to be perceived as a man. I felt like I had to be a man to have any respect in the community. I remember being so amazed to see abortion be covered by trans people I followed in even a reblog because it was the first time I saw people in the community talk about female issues at all. Even then it was covered with disclaimers and terfs DNI banners. male,opinions were always prioritized.

I thought this was dysphoria and a sign I was really a man. then I started reading radfem things and its like that feeling instantly lifted. I felt respected, listened to, even though I wasn’t speaking. It was also like all this stuff I’d internalized from being female, all the trauma around sex based oppression, was actually being addressed. in trans circles you get called a terf for acknowledging females face any kind of oppression (they acknowledge sex when it’s to talk about how hard male loneliness is on young trans women, and how the incel to trans woman pipeline happens, though…)

but the reason I have mixed feelings is bc I now feel….dumb? And afraid. And angry. I spend well over a decade being part of this community, half my friends are in the community, I’ve been trans since I was 9. My typings not the best… dyslexia sucks lol. But I like to think I’m smart. Now I don’t know,

And it makes me think totally different of these people I saw as progressive cis male allies, who were so loud about trans rights and hating JKR and terfs. Now they just feel like the same flavor of anti-feminist man I hate.

And the community is so huge and it’s so widely accepted and I don’t know how to deal!

But I am happy to be a woman now. In a healthy way I haven’t been for a long time. thats all that matters.

I'm sorry for everything you were put through. Many girls and women have been sucked into this thinking it will provide a solution for their distress at the social ramifications of the body they're born in, only for more people, namely men, to take advantage of their distress and gain power over them. As you mentioned, even "cis" men get in on the action when they justify intimidating and threatening women with violence in response to perceived transphobia. It's a terrible situation to be in. Made worse when you can't openly talk about with people you're close to for fear of alienating them.

I think you should give yourself more credit. You ARE smart. You questioned what you were told was never allowed to be questioned and realized you were being misled. And what you said about trying to make yourself forget the realizations you've had, that is normal. It's a difficult and scary thing to hold opinions that conflict with those of the majority of your peers. I think it's like the climax of cognitive dissonance -- when what you know is true clashes so hard against what you want to believe, you find it impossible to justify anymore, so you just resort to pretending you never learned the information in the first place. Been there.

I'm just being a stereotype now, but there's a classic Dworkin quote for this:

"Many women, I think, resist feminism because it is an agony to be fully conscious of the brutal misogyny which permeates culture, society, and all personal relationships."

Anyway my point is, don't beat yourself up. I'm really happy to read that you're accepting your womanhood, it's a hard journey but it's worth it to have a good relationship with yourself. And in my experience (at the sage and wisened age of 25) that it gets easier as you get older. You work through mistakes, and that prepares you to handle the next mistake better. You're right, your health and happiness is all that matters, keep striving for that and it will steer you right.

I wanted to give you some reading recommendations, you mentioned you have dyslexia but I believe these two are available in audiobook form if that's up your alley:

Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine

Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez

There are tons more great books on feminism but these two are my go-tos for hard facts on gender, socialization, and the systematic discrimination against women worldwide through biases that are built into society.

Well uh; TLDR thanks for gracing my inbox, anon :) Hope you keep well.

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[v-anrouge]

go off queen about the trans Vil headcannon

It just completely ignores the whole thing abt vil which is him not following gender roles and finding them stupid and it's LITERALLY just pushing gender roles because just cuz vil likes to dress feminine and calls himself a queen he's a woman??? fuck off. and they always come w the Japanese pronoun thing and them themselves talk abt how the pronoun is gender neutral but mostly used by women like bro it's gender neutral PLEASE 😭😭😭 yall need to leave my boy alone hes just living and yall keep trying to push him into the gender role box do y'all not see how damaging that is both to trans woman AND trans men??? not only trans but cis too actually because ur saying that to be a certain gender u have to dress up like it and that's just so fucking stupid and as a trans man that likes dressing up in dresses/skirts sometimes seeing ppl call vil a woman just because of the way he dresses hurt so much cuz it's as if u were looking at my face and telling me that since i dress up feminine and wear makeup im also a woman plus rhe ppl that headcanon his as that usually push the headcanon into others and call the ppl that disagree w the hc transphobic like yall have no idea how much weight the word transphobia holds y'all just throw it around.

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