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The argument that has existed for so long, is that “men will” (rape, molest, abuse, wound, kill) “therefore women should” (mould our behaviour around attempting to avoid this inevitability). The new argument against it aspires to a future time where “men won’t”, but turns a blind eye to the men that will. The answer is actually to make it so that “men can’t”. No matter how much they want to, or how women behave.

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Also, on the topic of drag queens - they prance around dressed as women, but the money they earn from it doesn’t actually benefit they women they imitate in any way. Look at the famous drag queens - who do they employ as assistants? Men. Who do they buy their costumes from? Men. Who do they hire as backing dancers? Men. Violet Chachki created a digital show over lockdown with credits a minute long and there wasn’t a single woman involved. He didn’t hire a female choreographer or a female camera person or even a female coffee-getter.

They’re men, they’re male oriented, and they have male class consciousness.

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I think also the way that patriarchal messaging insists that women are solely receptacles of desire, that women don’t experience arousal or attraction because we exist as objects to be fucked and our choices and desires don’t matter, has a huge impact on women identifying our own sexual orientations, preferences, and urges.

The number of women in my life who are somewhat to completely alienated from their own experience of physical arousal is terrifying, and I have no doubt it contributes to women being unable to accurately identify their own desires.

Like women who can’t tell they’re hungry and therefore can’t express what they want to eat.

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A woman was one of the discoverers of the Epstein-Barr virus (Yvonne Barr), a woman synthesised the first pertussis/whooping cough vaccine (Leila Denmark), and a three woman team combined the pertussis vaccine with diphtheria and tetanus vaccines to create the combined DTP vaccine (Grace Eldering, Loney Gordon, and Pearl Kendrick).

A woman proved HIV causes AIDS (Flossie Wong-Staal), a woman discovered the coronavirus group of viruses (June Almeida), and a woman lead the team that identified the structure of poliovirus (Rosalind Franklin).

Just saying.

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“Feminism is in crisis. Choices must be made. Will the Women’s Movement be an authentic liberation movement for women, a force for the egalitarian redistribution of power, resources, and opportunity; or will feminism be a polite nudge toward superficial reform, mostly of manners, sometimes of social or legal codes or practices? Will feminism be a political movement that confronts the power of men over women in order to dismantle that power; or will feminism be a ‘lifestyle’ choice, a post-modernist fad, a cyclically noted fashion?”

- Andrea Dworkin, Letters from a Warzone : Feminism Now, written in 1987

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The fundamental power imbalance between male and female bodies wouldn’t be as noticeable if men didn’t take advantage of it so much

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‘Woman of colour is murdered’

Internet: “if this was a white woman you’d be talking about it more!”

‘White woman is murdered’

Internet: “if this was a woman of colour you’d be talking about it less!”

… you realise in both these situations you’re still not actually talking about the woman who was murdered, let alone the man who murdered her?

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Men and boys don’t commit sexual assaults because they’re uneducated or ignorant. They commit sexual assaults because the benefits to them outweigh the costs to them. The way to decrease the number of sexual assaults is to change this balance by creating and maintaining meaningful consequences.

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“We want women to feel safe”

That’s nice. I want women to be safe.

“We want women to feel listened to”

That’s nice. I want women to be listened to.

“We want women to feel valued”

That’s nice. I want women to be valued.

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This is a message to bisexuals that I (a bisexual) have often really needed to hear -

There may be times when you don’t relate to straight people’s experiences of opposite sex attraction. This doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to the opposite sex. It just means you’re not straight.

There may be times when you don’t relate to gay/lesbian people’s experiences of same sex attraction. This doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to the same sex. It just means you’re not gay/lesbian.

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Holy shit I just worked out my problem with the ‘we need to educate men not blame women’ thing (besides the obvious ‘they know it’s wrong and they do it anyway, because the evil is the point’):

It is just another form of hyper individualism.

Ok, in some quarters we are slowly moving past the ‘what was she wearing, why didn’t she leave’ point, and towards the ‘he shouldn’t have done that and it’s not her fault’ point, and that’s wonderful, but by focusing exclusively on the behaviour of the individual, whether victim or perpetrator, you are very neatly removing the rest of us from the equation, and (most likely) doing so out of laziness.

Yes, we need to talk about men who commit violent acts, and seek to prevent them, but that doesn’t just involve telling men not to do them - it involves changing the rest of society to protect women and children from the men who don’t want to change. It’s a collective effort.

Rather than saying ‘men need to do better’ and then patting ourselves on the back and calling it a day, we need to start enacting large scale change. Most abuse takes place in the home? Ok, let’s overhaul our approach to domestic life, the nuclear family, and social isolation. Some abuse takes place in the streets? Ok, let’s redesign our streets to make them safer, let’s create community protection groups with only women, hell let’s move towards a 24 hour society with no empty streets. Would any of those interventions work? I don’t know, but if we really care about protecting women and children from male violence, anything has got to be worth a try.

Move past individualism. Move towards true community. Step up.

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I’ve been musing about the idea that men and women often receive the same socialisation, and its impact on our behaviour is due to the different angle we experience it from. We’re both socialised to believe that “men are people and women are objects”, for example, or “men are sane and women are crazy”. But boys and men hear “you are sane people and women are crazy objects” and women hear “you are crazy objects and men are sane people”.

So if a woman thinks “well, I’m not crazy or an object”, the cracks begin to show. She begins to see through the lie, because she knows it’s not true of her. She then has two paths. She can extend that self-knowledge, through class consciousness, to include other women and all women - or she can declare that this socialised belief is not true of her, but is of other women.

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I’m just thinking out loud here, but there’s something about women (en masse) responding to patriarchal ideas of womanhood with improvisation-style ‘yes, and…’ rather than ‘no’. Like a sort of hedging positivity, defence without denial.

Patriarchy says ‘women are objects with no interiority, they exist to be looked at, so their value is their beauty’ and women say ‘yes, and all women are beautiful and therefore have value’, not ‘no, women are people and our appearances are irrelevant to our worth’.

Patriarchy says ‘women are unintelligent and animalistic, they have no grasp of logic and rely on emotion’ and women say ‘yes, and women’s intuition can be accurate and therefore has value’, not ‘no, women are intelligent and capable of logic’.

Patriarchy says something terrible and untrue about women, and women say ‘yes, and’ to try and find a positive spin on the negativity, rather than deny or reject it outright. Because patriarchy says ‘men are right and women are wrong’ and we internalise it.

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An excerpt from the trial of Elinor Crane, who was arrested in Middlesex in 1693 on suspicion of burglary. A witness claimed one of the burglars was a woman in men's clothing, and Elinor had previously been seen in the area dressed as a man.

"But the Court asking her why she went in Mans Apparel, the Prisoner replyed, She went to Wooe a Widow. Upon the whole Matter the Jury brought her in not Guilty."

(source: Old Bailey Proceedings: Accounts of Criminal Trials, April 26, 1693.)

#one woman went to woo #went to woo a widow #one woman wearing trousers #weeeent to woo a widow

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#prev I remember the first time a woman told her child to be ‘careful of the lady’ about me #(rather than ‘careful of the girl’) #I felt simultaneously like an Adult Human Female and like I should be wearing a very grand hat

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#orgy

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weird how people think that bisexuals are half straight half gay. personally i think the straights and gays are just half bisexual