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I'm also sex repulsed ace! I'm asexual panromantic which means I would love to date anyone regardless of gender, but I don't want to have sex with ANYONE, also regardless of gender.

Some people are attracted romantically to both women and men, but only sexually attracted (as in wanting to have sex) to men. That would be heterosexual biromantic.

The ace spectrum is a fascinating place, I recommend research! Super cool place to be :)

Hugs not fucks 👍

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yes!! there are a lot of us in this community from all different ends of the ace spectrum. if anyone has any asexual feedist/sickfic accounts to recommend, please do share. i’d like to make a comprehensive list someday.

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For me, as a severely emetophobic girl, being emetophobic but loving sickfics also comes from comfort.

If someone puked or even just said their stomach hurt in reality, I'd be so scared. I'd panic, I'd be shaking, I'd run away, I'd be uncontrollable.

So reading sickfics kind of gives me a place to be where I want to be: helping people when they're sick instead of running.

I would love to rub someone's upset stomach until they feel better. I would love to shower a sicky in kisses and make them soup and hold them and wash them when they're weak and just be there for them.

But right now I can't.

So I go to my sickfics.

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this is so valid!!! in fantasy we can do the things we wish we could do in reality, or separate both entirely and never want to engage with what we fantasize about irl. both are good and valid :)

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thank you so much for the advice, i really appreciate it <3

also I was in the library late last night doing my essay which got me thinking about a guy forcing himself to stay up and work in the library even though he’s got a tummyache. Like, typing with one hand so he can rub his stomach under the table, making little moans and complaints under his breath. Maybe the library is almost empty and the last person in there has headphones on but he still wants to be polite and so he holds it all in and keeps going, until he submits his work and stumbles back to his room where can lie down and take care of his tummy. Maybe you’re there, too, half-asleep, waiting for him to come back. When you see the state he’s in you quickly get him to lie down and put on the kettle for some ginger tea. While that’s brewing, you can sit down next to him for some nice cuddles and tummy rubs :)

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of course, ☂️ anon, anytime!!

at my college we are only a couple weeks away from finals, and the library is already filling up with people studying. i can imagine a guy in a packed, quiet library, absolutely FIGHTING for his life with a loud stomach ache. he keeps his head low and clenches his stomach muscles to keep the organs inside from burbling loudly, but when he least expects it his stomach starts acting up, and people start looking over or turning their music up to drown it out.

with his face heated and red, he can’t even focus on studying. he starts frantically texting you about how embarrassed he is, and what his stomach is doing to him. you tell him to come back and he reports home and collapses face down on the bed.

“god it was awful,” he bleats. “it just wouldn’t stop growling.”

you tell him to lie down and pull up his shirt, and you start rubbing the knots out of his stomach 💝

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Okay can I ask a genuine question? Ignore this if it’s uncomfortable.

What does it mean to be asexual but romantically and physically attracted to someone, per your pinned post.

I thought being sexually attracted to someone was a combination of romantic and physical attraction. Is there another component?

I’m starting to wonder if I’m asexual now because I only feel romantic and physical attraction. But I thought those were the only types?

I’m not trying to be mean or anything I’m just genuinely curious.

no worries, i can explain my perspective.

asexuality is spectrum, so i can’t speak for everyone, but i am a sex repulsed asexual. there are asexuals who are indifferent to sex, and asexuals that are more sex favorable.

growing up i never had any interest in sex. i found myself physically attracted to men and men’s bodies, but had no desire to have sex with men. i also do not experience romantic attraction or physical attraction to women, or anyone else.

for me “physical attraction” means enjoying the sight and feel of men’s bodies. i have always loved plus size men and their bellies, chests, legs, etc. i like to engage in fantasy and role play. i want to kiss and cuddle with men, i want to date and marry a man—but sex is completely off the table. i have no interest.

hope that clears somethings up!

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Usually when guys wear shirts they fold and wrinkle with movement.

But when a little bit of the front of a guy's shirt is beautiful smooth thanks to his perfect little belly... oh that takes me somewhere.

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ughhh and when the lower buttons make those little crevices where you can see peeks of skin…a surprise for the eyes to be certain.

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I was once with a guy and we had just got back from McDonalds where he’d eaten a fair bit. And we get to our hotel room and he turned to me and said “god I feel really bloated. Do you feel bloated?” And I nearly melted. Hearing him say those words? 🥵🥵

GODDDD they are always teasing us, aren’t they? what a delicious word choice, bloated. all that fat and salt and carbs left his tummy a little puffy…tee hee.

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I adore the term "cradle" for when someone's stomach is hurting...

Please tell me all about how you clutched the lower bloated pouch of your tummy and everytime you rubbed it it gurgled angrily and you had to hold it with both hands.

Talk to me forever about it

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ugh, clutch, cradle, grope, pat, hold, cling to, etc. all fantastic.

i think my favorite will always be “hold.”

“i saw him groaning and holding his stomach”

“he held his stomach”

i love this one because to me, hold is very limp and sleepy. he’s so tired of his tummy acting up that he just limply has a hand on it and is moving slowly.

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to respond to your pinned post, I’m the same about being super emetophobic but loveeee reading sickfics or seeing my fave characters sick. do you think there’s any explanation for this??

certainly!! i have theories!!

i think it has to do with safety. vomiting is an uncontrollable and uncomfortable act, so fantasy can be a safe place to process that anxiety.

as for why some emetophobes don’t develop fetishes—i think it’s just two different branches of coping. most emetophobes are avoidant. vomiting evokes anxiety and fear, so they avoid it. we are a little more complicated. we typically avoid it in reality, but find fantasies and role play exciting. i think there is an overlapping layer of taboo. emetophilia is extremely stigmatized and not very accepted, and often “socially unacceptable” things are fetishized for their taboo nature.

anyway, that’s what i think!! 🦢

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Hihi! Just wanted to drop in and say I love the imagines you and others in the community have been coming up with! On that note, would it be possible for you to create a tag specific to the imagines/scenarios (both yours and the ones submitted by various anons)? There's quite a few of them and it's starting to take a pretty long time to scroll all the way down to the older ones :')

thanks for stopping by!! i appreciate it!! :^)

i can do that!! im a Tumblr newbie and still learning how to navigate tagging.

my own fantasies are now tagged “fantasies from the duchess 👑” and fantasies from everyone in my inbox are tagged “fantasies from friends 💌”

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When a guy's eyes are bigger than their stomach and they end up eating way too much... but they're out at a fancy event with friends, which is a beauty and a curse: No one notices the heavy burps he's muffling into his dress shirt sleeve, but at the same time, there's no leaving. At one point something is gonna happen and his cover will be blown.

And they're only two courses in! How on earth will he make it through the whole dinner? And then something he never thought was possible to dread... dessert?

Guess he filled up on bread and hors d'oeuvres a little too much...

By the time all of the plates are cleaned away, his stomach is in hell. He's shocked but thankful that no one can hear the consistent bubbling.

You excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and touch up your makeup and he takes that chance to stand up (making his stomach slosh sickly) and follow you to the bathrooms.

The only thing he does when you ask him why you followed him is burp into his sleeve again, whining out, "I ate too much..."

This is gonna be a long night.

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another banger from 🎀 anon!! this is WONDERFUL. i was at a dinner recently where there were multiple courses and couldn’t help but think about scenarios like this ugh

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I could probably translate the vid at some point if you want :)) ☂️

we would love that for sure!! woot woot!!

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Wanted to add to 🍰’s post; it sounds so nice but I would be so embarrassed to do that IRL 😭😭 Even without the kink part I have a weird relationship with vulnerability and talking about when my physical body goes a bit haywire, even when second hand (like the guys at my college talking about their hangover headaches, even, makes me feel awkward even though they act so normal about it). Didn’t mean to turn this into a mini vent but if anyone has any advice for this stuff I’d be really grateful 💞

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i totally get that!! i also have a weird relationship with vulnerability on account of the OCD/emetophobia. i think this fetish can sometimes be a coping mechanism because it’s a controlled, safe environment. i hardly ever talk about my own body and its problems because it makes me feel weird. i don’t want to be in the role of the people i fantasize about. i fare a bit better when people talk about themselves, but it always catches me off guard and i too feel awkward.

anyone feel free to chime in, but my therapist/psych class in college has really restructured how i think about this fetish. we learned a couple chapters ago about how memory works, and i found it kind of comforting so i think you might, too. my personal struggle is that all these stomach ache events MEAN something, if that makes sense. why do people seem to tell me so much about their stomachs??

in psych, memory works on cues. certain things will trigger you to remember. if your roommate wants you to pick up milk at the store, you might be driving back from the store, see a cow in the field, and remember “oh shit. i forgot the milk.”

people talking about their stomachs and bodies is completely innocuous. most people do it openly because they don’t have the connection that we do to a fetish. so when someone mentions about having a hangover headache, it’s a cue that makes us remember “oh shit. i have a fetish where i think about stuff like this.” i think all of us are just really hyperaware of bodies and their vulnerability. i think the best advice i can give is just to remember that you’re just really in tune with people’s pain, and that it’s okay sometimes to not feel the greatest yourself and to share that with people close to you. we all have bodies, and they are bound to have little glitches every now and again :)

that was really rambley and might not have made a lot of sense but i hope it helps you!!

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(🍰) omgggg, you get me so well lmao. That little daydream blurb was so soft and cute 💕 Personally I'm in love with late night scenarios, waking up in the middle of the night to find him sitting on the edge of the bed cradling his belly and making as little noise as possible cause he thinks I'm still asleep ahhhhhh. Sitting up against the headboard with him on my lap so I can rub his tummy. Also, underrated: midnight convenience store runs! A little "please come back soon", or maybe him tagging along. Using one hand to hold onto mine and the other to subtly rub at his stomach as I walk around the store. Having to lean on my shoulder when we reach the check out cause he's so exhausted, he mutters "thank you..." when we're back at the car and leans in for a kiss on the forehead. Sorry for big rambling its been on my mind a lot lol 😔

WOWWWWW never thought of this midnight convenience store concept before!! that’s so wholesome and rich for whump—not being able to wait until morning and having to retrieve medicine at an unholy hour? picking up an extra treat to make him feel better? hurrying to get back to him as soon as possible? loveeee.

also please, ramble away!! 💝

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ask and ye shall receive!! https://youtu.be/vluGAC-0Uqw?feature=shared

this is one of my favs!! it’s only the first 7 or so mins that are the roleplay btw, the rest is him talking about his inspiration for it, rambling etc

this is really cute!! it’s making me wish i spoke fluent Japanese!!

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You're so sweet you guys 🥹🫶

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we always got each other’s backs 🫶🏻

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🍰 anon back again, all the tummy talk surrounding me lately has been driving me absolutely up the wall. Do any of you ever get the most feral urge to take care of someone? I keep getting one even when there's nothing wrong lmao. I just wanna rub an upset tummy at the crack of dawn and make nice warm soup that's easy on their stomach 😤 so raunchy of me, I know. But that's been the big daydream for me lately.

ugh im right there with you, 🍰 anon. even that phrase you said about somethings being easier on the stomach than others…

my favorite daydreams are usually centered around preparing chamomile tea and homemade chicken soup. i take them upstairs on a tray to my boyfriend, who stayed home from work and is propped up in our bed with a sore belly. i love the idea that even under a comforter i can still see the little hill that his stomach makes. i spend the entire day helping him sip tea while feeding him little spoonfuls of soup. i try to settle his stomach with gentle rubs. i watch his bare chest rise and fall. i watch him shut his eyes.

ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 💌

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IDK if this is something you like but I’m obsessed with the slight confusion / overwhelm that an upset and hurting tummy can bring. Like a boy sitting down suddenly in a public place (on a date?) and the person they’re with asking him if they’re alright, what’s up, do they need to go home? and he just furrows his brow and whispers, “I don’t know. I don’t feel- My stomach really hurts. I-”

(Bonus points if he’s then cut off by his tummy making sounds or feeling sick all of a sudden. It just makes me implode in a good way)

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NO BECAUSE THIS IS SUCH A NICHE TROPE THAT I LOVE. you pulled this straight from my brain.

i also always picturing guys with that furrowed, wincing expression, almost looking kind of pissed off that their stomach hurts. seeing that face and asking “what’s the matter??” to which he replies “i…i dont know…it’s just… my stomach…i don’t know what’s going on with my stomach.”

he’s trying to rationalize and assess it so bad. what’s happening in there? what’s making it hurt? i love that furrowed, confused face being overtaken by a wide-eyed one that indicates “oh no. im sick.” queue the sickly stomach gurgle.

just…general disorientation 💝

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