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Logged in to find the notes filled with a self identified “queer” being wildly homophobic. What a surprise.

There is really no solid determining factor to decide whether one is bi or pan.

When one tries to figure out if they’re gay or straight, they try to figure out if they’re attracted to men or women. They try to figure out what their biological attraction is.

There is no biological difference between bi and pan like there is gay and straight—because both bi and pan people are attracted to both sexes. The “I like all genders” argument only applies to those who believe in more than 2 genders. Even if you do believe in more than 2 genders, it is still sex characteristics that people are attracted to.

Plus, and I’ve said this before... “bisexual” means “attracted to both sexes”. Therefore pansexual would mean “attracted to all sexes”. How many sexes are there? Two. Making pan and bi exactly the same at base level.

The “I don’t have a preference” argument is something bisexuals have repeatedly expressed as something bisexuals can experience too. The “I see hearts not parts” argument has been rightfully criticized as something most people can agree with, and not a pansexual exclusive thing.

Every single way to determine if you’re pan or bi, is based on determining whether or not you fall into biphobic stereotypes and misconceptions. Those who fit them are bi, those who don’t are pan.

It’s equivalent to a homosexual man deciding he’s not gay, but something else, simply because he’s not hypersexual and wants to get to know his partners instead of having flings.

Tl;dr:

Pansexuality is not a unique sexuality. There is no way to differentiate it from bisexuality like we can differentiate homosexuality and heterosexuality, because pan and bi are biologically the same. The only difference between the labels is that one is based off of enforcing harmful stereotypes.

#I do not miss discourse Tumblr because of this

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Ok but I was just thinking about this because the opposite happens with North Americans? We start singing and sometimes end up sounding British? Probably because we’re taught to sing with open vowels and such, so we end up sounding vaguely British.

So does the opposite happen when Brits learn to sing? Is it like “pronounce the words as they’re written and don’t you dare open those vowels”?

It just dissappears

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So… did you miss the part where this was about people calling others queer/forcing the term on others, instead of just calling themselves queer?

Unless you mean they’re the ones who need to mind their own business and not call people slurs?

Don’t call me queer.

#it’s ok you don’t need to bow down to the slur users #could’ve just stopped at ‘don’t call me queer’ they’re gonna hate you anyways for just that much #I mean I agree with you—to each their own #it’s just that isn’t what this is about lol

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@castielscollection then what the hell does lesbian mean? When somebody says they’re a lesbian, what does that mean? What are they saying?

And if lesbian is not the word for women exclusively attracted to women, then what is? What word do we use to communicate our sexuality clearly and concisely if not lesbian?

#I’ve been taking a break from discourse but this is just too good #lesbian has never meant women attracted to women. okay sure bro #glam’s

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This is a random jokey thought I had that I thought you'd wanna hear (??)-

I was thinking "man it seems like the majority of lesbian/bi women are feminine, where are all the masc/androgynous wlw at?" But then I answered myself-

"... they're convinced that they're actually non-binary, that's Where."

It sounds dumb but it makes sense? Especially now a days, teen girls and young women are being convinced (by eachother) that they're actually non binary or trans for their gender non-conformity ((and their same sex attraction)). I am constantly finding "non-binary lesbians" online, and on tumblr practically every butch or masc wlw based blog has "they/them butch" or "he/him dyke" in its bio :( Does this make sense to you or am I just ranting

No that makes perfect sense, and I agree!

There’s a very clear message online right now that women are feminine, and comfortable with the expectations placed on women. So if you’re masculine or uncomfortable with sexist expectations, you’re obviously not a woman and are some form of nonbinary.

It’s frustrating because we should be removing stereotypes and expectations, not just piling them on with each new thing that supposedly makes one nonbinary instead of a gnc woman (and often it’s not even that gnc because the standards for women are just so strict)

#asks #sshii-bi

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Both are a problem, but online it’s recently been more common to see people talking about “genital preference” and shaming people (mostly lesbians) for being unable to be attracted to a certain sex. It started as a popular conversation because people started making videos about how you’re transphobic for not being bisexual, and obviously people want to push back against that.

I’d assume that chasers are more of a topic for conversation irl, since that’s where it pops up most. Like dating apps where you have people seeking trans people out not for a relationship but to fulfil a fetish. It doesn’t surprise me that there’s more of a focus on the opposite online though, since it’s currently a more prevalent problem than chasers online.

It's interesting how "trans people, you aren't entitled to sex" became a wider discussion topic online. In real life, the sexual boundary disrespecting is more often done by cis people towards trans people, but I really haven't seen that being talked about.

Right?

Trans people are seen as a fetish. They're treated like objects to fulfil a desire and not people who want to be themselves.

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#have a dumb meme that’s probably been done before lol #it’s about choosing where you want the red underlines to be #I usually pick UK because I can handle being told I’m spelling things like realize wrong #and I’m happy to spell it realise because whatever they both look good and I’ve probably alternated without knowing #depending on what autocorrect tells me #but I cannot handle seeing a red underline under colour or any other ou word because DAMNIT I AM RIGHT #I will not budge on ou #glam’s bullshit

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They’re certainly less stigmatized than gay and lesbian. I don’t actually give a shit about ~inclusion~ when people typically do everything in their power to avoid the words gay and lesbian. In this case, they should be used. This situation is specifically creepy towards lesbians, not all wlw. IMO it minimizes the impact this attitude towards lesbians has, when we make it about all wlw and not just lesbians. I admit that it’s nitpicky, but I’m really tired of people finding ways around saying gay and lesbian.

(And per your tags about gay men and not lesbian women, I just say that because gay can mean just gay men or all homosexuals, so I’m just specifying who exactly I’m talking about. I don’t need to do that with lesbian because it’s understood that lesbians are women)

#glad we can agree that Derek is an asshole though lol

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Reading the notes, lots of people are saying that the person who posted this originally is a lesbian. So yes, Derek is a creep.

Also, it’s ok, you can say gay men/lesbians. They’re not dirty words, no need to use wlw and mlm when this only applies to gays

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DID isn’t just “alter disorder” it comes with a huge amount of severe dissociation (detachment/depersonalization/derealization) on a regular hour to hour basis, c-ptsd (flashbacks, panic attacks, severe anxiety, depression, etc) a warped view of time (or time passing), as well as a loss of time / memory (amnesia), migraines or psychosomatic pain / feelings (pnes can be comorbid), can come with symptoms of psychosis due to severe trauma, can cause catatonic dissociation, etc etc. It’s also not uncommon for systems to have comorbid / other disorders like OCD, BPD, etc.  DID isn’t just “having alters” it’s so much fucking more than just that, and I’m sick of people only thinking of the “alters” aspect and not the parts that just as hard, if not sometimes harder, to deal with. 

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gay irl

#low key? high key lol #they don’t want these gay men to be people they want them to be objects

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hey what are some other internet inventions like pansexuality and empaths where people think that normal average human experiences like “i like people for who they are and not just their gender” and “i experience empathy” make them exceptional and Not Like The Other Girls?

#my mom has recently taken up trying to convince me that I’m an empath #and that’s why social situations drain me #no it’s not introversion or overstimulation it’s #‘absorbing other people’s emotions’ #send help lol

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