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Okay, but if someone wanted to record a video just for you to cater to your personal tastes, and that person looked exactly like me, what could that person do to give you butterflies? 👀

Asking for a friend. Obviously.

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Jades perfect video formula:

-Very XX Large Meal. Something that really pushes you to the limit. Filmed being eaten from start to finish (or at least cut and edited to show the good parts if the video will be too long)

-Really tight shirt being worn throughout the entirety of the meal. Bonus points if its a button up and a button pops 🥵

-Lots of commentary about how excited you are to get fat for me, what you fantasize about, what you’d want and do if i were there with you

-Desperate breathlessness the fuller you get

-Lots and lots of belly play. Jiggling, wobbling, etc

-Casual talk. Tell me about your day. What you’ve got planned for the weekend, etc

-Stand up, show me how full you are and how fat your getting.

-Dessert 🥰

I rarely get really full videos like this so it is a really huge treat for me when i do ❤️ 100000% guaranteed to make me swoon

#unff #Jade with the great taste #💅🏾

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In my FA memes creation era.

#looooooooool #peak feedist humour

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Sadistic feeders who get off on the pain you feel from overeating, who always enable dumb fat piggies to stuff themselves to bursting 🤤🥴

#me and who??

[wallflower-feeder]

my controversial opinion is that sexualizing fat bodies isnt a bad thing bc a major part of fatphobia and self hate is this idea that fat people are ugly and unfuckable

like we can talk all about tolerance and respect but like, if people are still commonly believing that being fat makes you less desirable, that matters whether we want to acknowledge sexuality or not

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I am so unbelievably stuffed rn... I had to show you guys I feel massive

(sorry for quality idk why it's so LQ)

#swoon #fat bhm #ffa #female feeder

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I. WANT. A FAT BOYFRIEND.

#fr

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little soft feedism doodles! I might fill out the story later, but a handsome man gets fattened and spoiled by local baker 🥰☺️ I had fun with these!

#omg this is so cuuuute #goals #😩😩😩

[wallflower-feeder]

It's Women's History Month, and FFL is looking to hear from FFAs (female fat admirers) about their experiences! Responses may be used for a post highlighting women's experiences in feedism, but you can choose to stay completely anonymous if you'd like!

Be sure to reblog and signal boost so we can get a good sample size of responses! 💛

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(I'm just rambling no need to read)

It's crazy how much feedee content is reblogged by people with "fat fetishists/feeders/feedees DNI" in their bios

Like, I think lots of people in the world are tummy lovers and fat admirers (bc it's inherently lovely as are all bodies) but the label of feedism (or specifically FEEDERISM) is seen as this manipulative and sick kink when... it's rly not. So many people seem to really be into soft feedism, but think that if gaining to immobility and health problems aren't involved that means it's no longer feedism? They don't see that extreme feedism is not what the majority of the community partakes in.

Not that extreme feedism is manipulative or bad either! But they're just so repulsed by the concept that they won't take any time to approach it and learn what it is. So they think there's no way for feedism to be practiced ethically and write it off entirely.

I think feedism and fat admiration in kink is something that people are going to need to evaluate and accept if we are ever going to get true fat liberation. It's okay to want to be fat, it's okay to be turned on by your fat body, and it's absolutely okay to be aroused by eating and/or getting fatter. Food and fat and body worship is the basis of feedism (in its simplest form) and I think none of that is inherently evil. If being fat makes you happy and horny, get fat.

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Date a girl who gets wet at the thought of her man crushing her with his huge belly.

It’s me. I’m the girl.

#dang i feel called out #legit the dream 💦

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Everyone could use a little percussion in their life 😏

Bongos Built In

#ffa #female feeder #male feedee #bhm

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hhhhhhhhh thinking about rutting against someone's thigh as I rub their belly and make out with them

#well good lord guess what I’m thinking about now too

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if you could give only one piece of for beginner feedees, what would it be?

I’m assuming you want one piece of advice! Here’s my response:

You have to be okay with being fat on your own.

I think some feedees get caught up in the fantasy of having a partner that is a feeder that will stay with them forever and never leave them. While that is the case for quite a few people, you still have to keep your relationships grounded in reality. People break up, people die, people move on and grow apart. A feeder is not bound to you just because they helped make you fat. A feedist relationship is still a relationship. That’s why, if you decide to enter a feedist relationship, you need to seriously consider what will happen if your relationship doesnt work out. Will you be okay with being significantly fatter without a partner in the picture? Will you be okay existing as a fat person without the validation of a partner reassuring you how attractive you are? Will your mental health remain stable?

Unfortunately, no matter how hot you think it is, there are real life social/health/political/familial/daily consequences to voluntarily becoming obese and/or gaining significant amounts of weight. You need to be prepared to face those consequences with or without someone at your side.

If you feel unprepared you either need to do some serious self reflection and research, or keep your feedist fantasies as strictly fantasy only.

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This chubby cheerleader is hungry 🐽

#she’s so cuuuute

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I would definitely agree with all of the above. I’ve had my fair share of newbie gainers who want a feeder to provide them comfort and hold their hand as they dip their toe into the feedee waters before disappearing into the ether. After so many interactions, I can tell from the get-go who is serious, who will likely flake on me, who is only interested in my feeder side etc. So, I think for the benefit of both fa’s and gainers, transparency is best where possible and you can quickly tell who is really looking to connect whether you’re an fa or a gainer. Try to see being left on read or ghosted as a sign that it wasn’t meant to be and don’t internalise it; what is meant to be, will be.

My cherished relationships on here have blossomed with people who from the start have been pleasant and polite and very human in their interactions. There’s always a lot of valuable talk on here about respecting feeders/fa’s and feedees/ gainers etc. as human beings over the fetish, but on top of that, communication is key. Like I would be down to engage in a feedism only relationship or a start-up project if that was stipulated from the onset. I have no personal quibbles with just putting my feeder hat on for a person and not delving much deeper than that. Equally, I’d love a chubby or tubby or even slim boyfriend as long as they’re happy. The key for me is just being consistent with messaging me showing me that I am more than just a funnel for your kinks and fetishes or someone you can just vent about life to every so often and ghost otherwise. And yes definitely make sure you know what you want. I love lifting people’s spirits but not when your entire contingency for gaining is having my constant reassurance.

It really isn’t about being big. I’ve had really sweet feedism relationships with guys around the 200 mark, which only ended because they got cold feet about gaining. The problem with meeting people online is that unfortunately size is often the only thing a feeder can go on to guarantee a person’s commitment to feedism. So yes I will often overlook smaller guys but only because I assume they aren’t serious, not that I don’t find guys under 300 or even 250 or 200 attractive. And honestly life can be intense sometimes and I can stop responding to messages just because real life has gotten really heavy. So sometimes it might even be worth re-messaging within a reasonable timeframe so you can put yourself back at the top of a feeder’s messages list for a little while.

So, my humble opinion is be yourself, be respectful, be consistent, and just be honest. And perhaps most importantly, try to always remember what you want and hold onto it so you don’t get taken advantage of. A good feedee is a good person first and foremost.

How did you get a feeder? I feel like it’s impossible 😭

🚨THIS IS WHAT EVERY SSBHM/BHM WONT TELL YOU!!!🚨

You gotta get fat fat! Prepare to do it on your own for a LONG TIME! You gotta gain over 150lbs you’ll need to post to get your name out there! Also dont lonely post or post from saltiness thats a mistake I wish I didn’t make! Dont try and come up with witty messages a good female feeder will approach you buh she wont until you are over 290-350lbs.

Honestly, from my experience, the women who are brave enough to message you first blossom into the best relationships because you know that they are into you. The issue with messaging a bunch of female feeders is that they already get crème blasted with 1 million messages and if they don’t automatically fall in love with you at first sight then you’re really gonna have to work extra hard when there’s already 2700 other dudes in DM‘s who are just as fat as you. I would also work on your life and be more interesting than just the fetish from my experience. Having some thing that you are proud about in life is extremely helpful. you will have to message other feeders and reach out to them. Just be prepared to be left on read almost all the time.

Be prepared to be just a fetish for most female feeders or FFA. A lot of them are still dealing with deep, seated insecurities, and often a can project that onto you and make you feel like you’re not enough I’m here to tell you when you do get this big that you are enough and you do deserve love don’t let ghosted texts other things get to you go and put that energy towards something productive and make yourself more interesting for the next person who comes along! I hope this helps you. I hope you listen to my advice. This is the game that no one’s gonna tell you and I’m glad to share this with you.

When you do find a feeder, I can tell you it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. There are ebs and flows and ups and downs be prepared to fight for the person that you care about regardless of how hard it gets no matter how complicated it gets. remember how much you love the time you spend with them, I hope this helps!

#ffa #female feeder #bhm #male feedee

[wallflower-feeder]

2024 is gonna be my most fattening year yet 😫😫😫😫😫

this is where I post

#such a cute tum!!!

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ITS THE LAST DAY OF 2023!

⚠️YALL KNOW THE DRILL! ⚠️

Reblog this post and show off your 2023 gains! Give us a chance to celebrate your progress to ring in the New Year!!

#oooooh great idea!! #show us the gains 💪