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This always bothered me so much. Innocent until proven guilty? Who cares... The fact that no one cares is so infuriating. Even if they all believed Sirius to be guilty, don't they see that this course of action pushes the door wide wide open for institutional abuse of power? They’re creating a precedent here (not technically speaking). It's not about this single suspect, it's about the society you want to live in; this sets a dangerous tone on a general level, and it shows throughout the series (like with Fudge not giving a damn about 'innocent until proven guilty' in Harry's trial and not caring about his right to call witnesses. Actually, that whole trial is a reversal of 'innocent until proven guilty' – they assume Harry is guilty, and he has to prove his innocence? With the whole authority of the Ministry against him? Cool.). The right to a fair trial is one of the most important pillars of a democratic society – it has to be more important than your urge to lock away a specific suspect as quickly as possible. If you destabilize that pillar it all crumbles down.

And then the last sentence is literally 'All was well' – Are you fucking kidding me??? No, it wasn't. How narrow-minded is that? Just because Harry wasn't in immediate danger of being murdered by some fascist anymore... Like, this one racist dude has been defeated and all the other issues dissolve magically (magically, hah). As if all the problems of wizard society were rooted in Voldemort. Making him the scapegoat, or at least implying so (out of laziness or whatever, I don't care) That's a very very dangerous way of thinking and it's true to the real world, which is why her way of dealing with it is super problematic.

There's tons that's left in the open, plotlines the author started but never finished, like with S.P.E.W. What's with the house elves, huh? All was well, my ass.

Because - the judicial system as a whole? Massive joke. The people holding trials are the ones who pass the laws in the first place and who also enforce them (Fudge, Umbridge...). Not at all problematic. Checks and balances? Never heard of it.

And still, they deem themselves superior to Muggle society. Hah.

It was too much for JK to handle the different plotlines, obviously, to go down all those roads; it wasn't her focus. But JK has obviously been drawing parallels between wizarding society and N*zi Germany (and simultaneously post N*zi Germany/Nuremberg trials, which is...).– and that's important – even before Voldemort took control of the Ministry. She's done it with the way Fudge leans on the Prophet, with all the power being concentrated in one person, with trials being a farce, with educational decrees punishing anyone who so much as questions authority, with Fudge being based on Chamberlain. Maybe this is why this bothers me so much - especially as a German who studied law. Because our history is so dark, and if you're using it as a blueprint to base your fictional story on (don't get me wrong, we deserve all the criticism in the world), don't leave it hanging like that. Don't make a point of how messed-up society is even before Voldemort took over, only to later say 'All was well' without explaining how all the things worthy of criticism have been changed for the better in the new order.

The system was massively flawed even before Voldemort. And she wants us to realize that, she's making a point of it. But then she's too lazy or too bad a writer to follow through because the 'main story' is finished. She doesn't clear anything up. Does Kingsley (oh, and how is the Minister of Magic even elected?) enforce a new system? A better one? No one knows (I don't care if she's said anything in an interview or on Pottermore; most readers don't bother with either). She just acts as if now that Voldemort's gone, everything's good. It's not. So yeah, you could argue 'All was well' means that everything is indeed better now, but sorry, I'm not having this. This is not only lazy writing but also dangerous. Critical thinking or not.

Don't start this if you're not going to follow through. It's too important a topic (says me, sitting in Germany with a far-right wing party on the rise again, with a top politician who used to be a history teacher – yes, that's right – but took part in Neo-N*zi rallies and uses SA speech, whom you can legally (court-ruled) call a fascist... you would’ve thought we’d know better). Okay maybe I'm getting a little emotional...

But don't say 'All was well' ffs.

cant believe jkr created a prison that forces you to relive all of your worst memories, put a fairly major character in that prison for twelve years without a trial, and then just... didnt make it a commentary on the justice system OR the prison system. just like "lol thats a quirky thing that happened just for plot reasons, no bearing on reality tho"

#do better #don't 'all was well' me #It made me want to throw the book against the wall

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I appreciate the rationality in all of this.

Why don’t you like tonks?

well first and foremost because she's just a badly written character. her motivations and actions make absolutely no sense with her backstory even in OotP. she's a half-blood, the product of a marriage that is a rebellion against dominant wizarding power structures, and she's inherently trans. and yet her job involves upholding the most toxic and problematic parts of wizarding institutions. there could be reasons why! maybe she wants to make change from within, maybe she's carrying a lot of internalised shame (and with the way Andromeda has berated her about her clumsiness, I can imagine it.) but we never get any explanation for the contradictions and it just does not work.

then all of that gets wiped anyway in HBP where her character literally becomes 'woman who pines after Remus'. it's boring, it's embarrassing, it's painful. she's literally a different person from OotP and so obviously a tool for jkr to push her comphet agenda onto Remus.

the character she is in HBP is also so problematic. she is guilt-tripping and manipulating someone into marrying her. that person is not only grief-stricken, but he's also poor, unemployed, disabled, and marginalised by wizarding society, which means Tonks holds a huge amount of social and economic power in comparison. and she's also literally an Auror!! there's honestly an argument there that Remus was intimidated by her or afraid for his safety. but even more so, it's just a brazen disregard of someone's agency and desires. if someone says they don't want to be with you that's just... it? you don't argue, you don't spend months trying to convince them otherwise, you don't rope other people into pressuring them to be with you.

I honestly think Tonks is a fun character when she's written as she should be - queer in every possible way, and not obsessed over Remus. I write her like that in most of my aus when she happens to feature there in the background. but I'm always going to be mad about what she represents and all the painful, fucked up echoes that have to real life comphet

#anti remadora

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I always saw it the exact same way - except for the photograph being Remus's idea, but I love that hc.

Sometimes (read: almost always) I question my head... I have this hc that it's Sirius who convinces James not to add Remus to his will, thinking Remus is the spy and not being able to stand the idea that Remus will have a financial incentive for James' death on top of everything else.

Like I KNOW this is BS. Canonically it makes perfect sense for James not to think about what would happen if he died - despite the fact that he's got Voldemort after his family. Yes, he knows he is financing Remus, but he will always be alive to do that. It's James and Sirius' arrogance and complete faith in their abilities/intelligence to trick Voldemort that makes them to the foolish thing of using Peter as Secret Keeper. When Voldemort shows up at the door, James is completely unprepared.

But no, my brain went: what can we do to make the fate of two of the most tragic (in my view) characters in the HP series, even more tragic. They are already going to have to work through a huge amount of guilt after POA: let's just add a bit more for good measure...

#this is canon as far as I'm concerned

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just saw a post in the jily tag that said “you know Lily and regulus would hit it off” he’s literally a death eater like wtf he wanted her dead

#his parents didn't force him to put up those newspaper cuttings

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Thank you, @myheadsgonenumb. Like he didn't use his mother's last name specifically because it was 'Prince' - cashing in on the important vibe it puts out. Don't tell me he'd called himself 'The Half-Blood Finnigan' had his mother's last name been different.

your half-blood prince post really says "Tell me you don't know the meaning behind the half-blood prince nickname without telling me you don't know the meaning behind the half-blood prince nickname" 💀

allow me to enlighten you. He calls himself half-blood prince due to his mom's last name (Eileen Prince), because he started feeling more connected to that side of his family after enduring the constant abuse of his muggle father. More than calling himself a regular prince, he's calling himself a member of the Prince family

If you had read the tags you'd know that I know that... :)

#anti severus snape

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'because the person who tells us James would consider it the "height of dishonour" to mistrust a friend is ... Remus.'

True.

It's one of those statements that I think JKR probably intended to be taken at face value

Agreed. But that doesn't solve the problem if you're intent on making it make sense from a canon perspective (not that you say it does).

I think there are actually various options that align with canon...

It's just Remus's general impression of James as a person, because the James he knew was loyal to the core and that didn't change throughout the war (as you said)

Maybe Remus's impression comes from James declining Dumbledore's offer to become Secret Keeper. Maybe this is what cemented Remus's read of James's character (because let's be real - it was not the smartest decision to turn Dumbledore down. No matter how much you trust your friends (and even if a Secret Keeper cannot be coerced to spill the secret), Dumbledore would have been the safest option. Every other person could have been captured and, even if Sirius would have never betrayed James, he would have been tortured/starved/whatever until killed at last... so James was putting his friends at risk by choosing them. I get the decision, but I think it's a much more emotional than logical one and it fits with Remus's read of James as holding up things like 'honor' - and being a little naive).

Remus has reason to believe this - apart from any concrete suspicions about who was the spy. We don't know for sure how the whole spy thing was discussed within the Order. All we know is Dumbledore told Lily and James to go into hiding, and he knew that someone on their side, close to Lily and James, was passing along information... So, assuming James knew there was a spy in the Order, someone close to him, it's very possible that James discussed this with his friends. And Remus (always trusting Dumbledore's intuition) thought it naive to share that information - even with his friends. Or maybe he didn't back then, but this would still confirm why he would think James was too loyal as an adult.

Remus has reason to believe this - because Sirius later told him. Maybe adult Sirius told him that he had told James he was suspecting Remus. And maybe James reacted harshly to this. Maybe Sirius told Remus this in OotP/during 'Lie low at Lupin's'.

Also, I'm very confused about the timeline. Because we always discuss this whole topic as if they skirted around one another for a year or so... And yes, the Order deaths started way before James ad Lily's death. But the Fidelius Charm wasn't worked until a few days before their deaths,

'And then, barely a week after the Fidelius Charm had been performed-' (Fudge, PoA)

It's completely in the void when Sirius finally settled on Remus being the spy. Maybe they had drifted apart by 1980 already, or by the beginning of 1981. Maybe Sirius struggled and it was only shortly before the Charm was cast that he actually settled on his suspicion.

(I love your hc btw)

Sometimes (read: almost always) I question my head... I have this hc that it's Sirius who convinces James not to add Remus to his will, thinking Remus is the spy and not being able to stand the idea that Remus will have a financial incentive for James' death on top of everything else.

Like I KNOW this is BS. Canonically it makes perfect sense for James not to think about what would happen if he died - despite the fact that he's got Voldemort after his family. Yes, he knows he is financing Remus, but he will always be alive to do that. It's James and Sirius' arrogance and complete faith in their abilities/intelligence to trick Voldemort that makes them to the foolish thing of using Peter as Secret Keeper. When Voldemort shows up at the door, James is completely unprepared.

But no, my brain went: what can we do to make the fate of two of the most tragic (in my view) characters in the HP series, even more tragic. They are already going to have to work through a huge amount of guilt after POA: let's just add a bit more for good measure...

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Sorry, I'm fretting over this, so that obviously means you have to be fretting too! :)

The obvious answer is that JK didn't have her shit together, so why are we bothering with fixing her plot holes for her (rhetorical question)?

But yeah, Snape doesn't act like he knew Sirius wasn't the spy...

Sirius Black did not know that Barty Crouch Jr was a Death Eater! He didn’t know that Severus Snape was a Death Eater! He did not know that the dark mark was branded into Death Eaters (and could thus never have expressed the sentiment: Regulus got / took the mark). When Harry told Sirius about Karkaroff showing Snape something on his arm, it confused Sirius.

Death Eaters operated with masks and in secrecy of each other (that’s likely why Snape didn’t know Peter was the spy).

Nobody knew shits in the first war!

#speaking of plot holes... #let's not talk about the fidelius curse #or the house elves #or... #let's not get started #we'd never be done

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Thank you! Nobody knew shit indeed!

He did indeed not know about Snape being a Death Eater..

'But as far as I know, Snape was never even accused of being a Death Eater' (GoF)

and

'There’s still the fact that Dumbledore trusts Snape, and I know Dumbledore trusts where a lot of other people wouldn’t, but I just can’t see him letting Snape teach at Hogwarts if he’d ever worked for Voldemort.' (GoF)

So the imprisoned Death Eaters couldn't have mentioned Snape. We don't actually know when Sirius learns the truth, do we (Harry does in GoF through the Pensieve, but he doesn't mention it to Sirius, not that we know of?)? I'd so love to know how Sirius reacted when he learns about Snape being a Death Eater.

Still, I think this is curious:

'You haven’t been hiding from me for twelve years,' said Sirius. 'You’ve been hiding from Voldemort’s old supporters. I heard things in Azkaban, Peter… they all think you’re dead, or you'd have to answer to them… I’ve heard them screaming all sorts of things in their sleep. Sounds like they think the double-crosser double-crossed them. Voldemort went to the Potters’ on your information… and Voldemort met his downfall there. And not all Voldemort’s supporters ended up in Azkaban, did they? There are still plenty out there, biding their time, pretending they’ve seen the errors of their ways… if they ever got wind that you were still alive, Peter-' (PoA)

So obviously other Death Eaters knew about Peter being the spy? Like, plural, not just Bellatrix (and Sirius couldn't mean Lucius screaming in Azkaban, because he wasn't imprisoned). So multiple people in Azkaban knew and others who evaded capture, also? It sounds as if it was common knowledge among the Death Eaters that Peter was the spy... But Snape didn't know? Snape who told Voldemort about the prophecy in the first place? Wasn't he supposed to be in his inner circle, even back in the first war? Now I have no problem imagining that Snape would let Sirius rot in Azkaban even if he knew he was innocent. But he wouldn't just accept the person actually responsible for Lily's death still being on the loose...?

Sirius Black did not know that Barty Crouch Jr was a Death Eater! He didn’t know that Severus Snape was a Death Eater! He did not know that the dark mark was branded into Death Eaters (and could thus never have expressed the sentiment: Regulus got / took the mark). When Harry told Sirius about Karkaroff showing Snape something on his arm, it confused Sirius.

Death Eaters operated with masks and in secrecy of each other (that’s likely why Snape didn’t know Peter was the spy).

Nobody knew shits in the first war!

#Severus snape #sirius black #peter pettigrew

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your half-blood prince post really says "Tell me you don't know the meaning behind the half-blood prince nickname without telling me you don't know the meaning behind the half-blood prince nickname" 💀

allow me to enlighten you. He calls himself half-blood prince due to his mom's last name (Eileen Prince), because he started feeling more connected to that side of his family after enduring the constant abuse of his muggle father. More than calling himself a regular prince, he's calling himself a member of the Prince family

If you had read the tags you'd know that I know that... :)

#am not enlightened‚ sorry #I stand by what I say #tell me you're a Snape stan without telling me you're a Snape stan

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Anyone else think it's kinda funny how Snape gets on his high horse about James's strutting while calling himself...

The Half-Blood Prince

The Half-Blood Prince

The - Half-Blood - Prince

#what pretentious af nickname is that #hypocrite much? #James was a pureblood‚ Harry‚ and I promise you ‚ he never asked us to call him prince #I think Snape was indeed jealous #he wanted a nickname so badly‚ he wanted to strut himself #not making excuses for James's strutting tho #but this is hilarious #yes I know that his mother's last name was Prince #still #james potter #severus snape #anti severus snape #marauders era #marauders #marauders canon

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Okay, I'm definitely guilty of this one (and for once, I can't even hide behind the German translation, which seriously messed up the two chapters in the Shrieking Shack in POA. But despite Klaus Fritz's shortcomings, he translated that statement correctly... so this is entirely on me). There I am, having read the books hundreds of times (or listened to the audiobooks more like), thinking I have canon down. Obviously not.

I don't know why I just assumed, to be honest. Probably as you said, because the Ministry had already approved the kiss for Sirius, so it was already set in my mind that this was the course of action (regardless of whether it was Sirius or Peter).

That being said, I can easily see it happening (no matter what Remus, Sirius, or Harry intended or thought about it). The Dementors were already there, they were agitated (they had been for the whole school year), and in my understanding Fudge simply wouldn’t care enough about Peter's life (soul) to hold them back. Or he would want to prove a point, showing the public that the Ministry has everything under control again. Because Peter was an illegal Animagus who had evaded capture for over twelve years (which Sirius hadn't), and he was not just any Animagus but a rat (posing a higher risk of escaping again—either on the way to Azkaban or at Azkaban itself. Plus by now there had already been a break-out once, which hadn't been the case when Sirius was imprisoned. So different circumstances...). But of course, that has nothing to do with the characters' feelings on the matter.

As for Remus and Sirius's emotions on the matter... honestly, I can see both of them being 'okay' with it or not caring (enough), but that's just my personal intuition. I know that Sirius criticized the Ministry for fighting 'violence with violence' (in GoF), which is allegedly a strong argument against it. But then again, Sirius isn't always consistent with what he says and how he acts (like with his statement about Crouch and Winky, but then he proceeds to treat Kreacher horribly even though he is 'inferior' to him. I know Sirius doesn't view it this way and that he never gives him actual orders other than to go away, I think, but that's part of the issue, isn't it? He doesn’t even realize their imbalance of power).

Anyway, to me, both Remus and Sirius appear completely callous towards Peter in that scene in the Shrieking Shack. There’s no compassion towards him—zero. Not even from Remus, who is usually very diplomatic. Remus's hesitation has nothing to do with caring for Peter's well-being but because he feels they owe Harry an explanation first (but then, let’s proceed to kill him in front of three teenagers, okay). They’re both so completely out of it, they're beyond morality (let's kill him in front of three teenagers!!!), I simply don't think they would have cared. And I think that makes sense; this ambiguity is what the author wanted to convey in that scene. It fits with the whole vibe of the scene: the 'good ones' ready to do something bad, swayed by a crime that is beyond imagination. Showing that everybody's morals are 'corruptible' (for Peter it was his own life being at threat that had him forget about morality, for Remus and Sirius it is Peter's betrayal - I think the author was trying to draw a connection here) or maybe that sometimes the end does justify the means?

I don't think James and Sirius would have argued for Peter to receive the kiss if the Ministry had 'just' decided to send him to Azkaban. But I don't see them stopping it or caring too much about it either. And yes, I agree, it does sort of go against their characters, but they're both ambiguous throughout the series, so I think it's fitting. Again, to me it just fits with the vibe of that scene.

But maybe that's just my 'wishful' thinking (that sounds so wrong) that has me projecting. Because I want them to be fucked up even beyond their own realization of how much actually.

Peter would (likely) just have gone to Azkaban

Continuing my streak of posting about things people treat as canon (either because of the movie or fanon), but which isn't... today, let's talk about Peter's fate if he had not escaped in POA.

I don't know when it became 'canon' that Peter would receive the kiss in POA, but it's actually stated that Peter will just go to Azkaban, which is the same punishment Sirius initially received:

'I know,' Harry panted. 'We'll take him up to the castle. We'll hand him over to the Dementors. He can go to Azkaban.... just don't kill him.'

But maybe he would get a kiss and then be put in Azkaban? It's possible. We never learn what happens to Crouch Jr. However, Severus directly threatens with NOT going up to the castle, because they can just take Sirius straight to a Dementor. Sirius and Remus never make the same threat and personally, I think it does both their character a disservice to suggest they would want this for Peter - even though they hate him. The entire point of the Dementor's kiss is meant to be worse than death, and something our heroes oppose throughout the series.

I suspect the confusion comes from the fact that the ministry has approved the kiss for Sirius, but that's because he's been on the run AFTER having escaped Azkaban. (Crouch Jr also was never meant to get the kiss. The kiss is a BIG deal!)

I've put 'likely' just because I can see people arguing that this is just Harry's beliefs or that even if that's what they all think will happen, Fudge might just give the order for the kiss anyways or lose control of the Dementors and they give the kiss (as happens in GOF). The Fudge argument I care less about, because Peter's fate is mostly discussed in the context of the choices Harry, Remus and Sirius make for him, not what Fudge might end up doing afterwards. The former, I don't see it. But obviously I am not the author.

#I'd like to keep pretending I'm the ultimate hp authority #so could you please stop proving me wrong? #that'd be nice thanks #Just kidding #it's so cool to have other people geeking out like that

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And wasn't Tonks like the only grown-up female character that was at least a little fleshed out that wasn't paired off already?

nothing against the ship but I really feel like jkr pulled lupin and tonks out of nowhere to counteract wolfstar. i mean usually the romances have at least some amount of setup a book in advance but i just read book 5 and there is NOTHING in there. not one throwaway line. really feels like it was thrown in at the last minute.

#well I guess Arabella Figg would've been even more random #or sb we only knew the name of #meet Remus's love interest Mafalda Hopfkirch lol #jk was desperate #bc Wolfstar crept up on her #bc she's as subtle as a brick #in her world it has to be shoved in your face for it to be real #meaning it has to be TOLD in capitals #so if it's not it can't be a thing

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When headcanoning Remus as a person of colour next to a white Sirius, be mindful that:

• Remus is not tall

• Sirius is not short

• Remus is not aloof or dominant

• Remus is not rude

• Sirius is not dainty. He was only skeletal during his time in Azkaban. He was emaciated, not a twink. He is not physically weak even when severely malnourished. He’s also a head taller than Peter, and utilises his tall stature to intimidate Snape. Harry mentions that he is tall multiple times in the series. Remus’ height is never mentioned, while James is stated to be tall, and Peter short. Use deductive reasoning to come to a conclusion.

• Remus isn’t overbearing physically in comparison to Sirius. There’s utterly no evidence for that whatsoever and changing that to make Sirius white, short and fem and Remus darker skinned, dominant, taller, buffer, is very, very weird.

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People keep missing the point so hard and fast, nobody is saying you cant find normal looking loser men attractive. It is wonderful that you do, they deserve all the love. The thing is that there is a very presistent subsection of fandom doing this "actually Remus is so ripped under his sweater and has a huge cock and dreamy curls and he looks like a male model and he is the smartest most suave man ever" and that is what all these "Remus is ugly loser" posts are fighting against.

#this

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Do we all remember that song?

'They keep on saying they're not gay, but yeah I really doubt that

This can't just be a bromance, who would write a show about that?'

“this ship isn’t canon” to YOU. I, however, am delusional

#I ship it #every fandom ever #the subtext tho!!!! #don't tell me to calm down #lol #my otp #wolfstar #destiel #Youtube

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Why Wolfstar makes sense canonically

Call me delusional but welcome to my TED talk

Most of this has been said repeatedly by others over the years. I don't mean to steal anybody's credit, so if you feel like I have, please reach out.

This is me 'defending' Wolfstar, I'm not hating on another ship here and I won't engage in a discussion about which ship makes more sense. I'm just trying to elaborate why I can 'see' Wolfstar - even from a canon perspective.

I'm trying (and hoping to succeed) to be respectful and I'm not attacking a specific person here. This is just a general post with all my thoughts on the matter and all the arguments I've heard against it.

Brace yourself because this is going to get really really long, and there'll be a lot of quotes from the original source material.

The original source material

I feel that many people who claim the ship doesn't make sense fail to see that we're in this fandom because it did make sense to us after reading the books. The fandom exists, because many people saw it. Because it's possible to see it. It's not the other way around.

The thing with Wolfstar is, that it's all in the 'show not tell' which I suppose makes it 'easy' to overlook. Obviously it is, with the author not intending the ship - I'm not saying wolfstar is canon, but it makes a lot of sense with what we have in canon.

Their nonverbal communication

They have a lot of nonverbal communication going on, which shows a great level of understanding for one another. But they're not only able to read one another, they're actively (and both of them) communicating via eye contact - a lot. They're searching for the other person's eyes and are passing along 'thoughts', are reaching silent understandings just like that. That hints at a great emotional connection.

Let's do that 'chronologically':

It doesn't take more than a single look from Sirius to convince Remus that he is innocent. At this point Remus doesn't know shit about what really happened. He admits so himself later on, he keeps asking Sirius questions later on. And yet again he's so ready to believe Sirius,

Professor Lupin came hurtling into the room, his face bloodless, his wand raised an ready. His eyes flickered over Ron, lying on the floor, over Hermione, cowering next to the door, to Harry, standing there with his wand covering Black, and then to Black himself, crumpled and bleeding at Harry's feet. 'Expelliarmus!' Lupin shouted. [...] Lupin caught them all defty then moved into the room, staring at Black, who still had Crookshanks lying protectively across his chest. [...] Then Lupin spoke, in an odd voice, a voice that shook with some suppressed emotion. 'Where is he, Sirius?' [...] Black's face was quite expressionless. For a few seconds, he didn't move at all. Then, very slowly, he raised his empty hand, and pointed straight at Ron. 'But then… Lupin muttered, staring at Black so intently it seemed he was trying to read his mind. “'Why hasn’t he shown himself before now? Unless...-' Lupin's eyes suddenly widened, as though he was seeing something beyond Black, something none of the rest could see, '-unless he was the one… unless you switched… without telling me?' Very slowly, his sunken gaze never leaving Lupin’s face, Black nodded.  [...] Lupin lowered his wand. Next moment, he had walked to Black's side, seized his hand, pulled hm to his feet so that Crookshanks fell to the floor, and embraced Black like a brother.

And then he says, still without having received any explanation, just like that,

'I haven't been Sirius' friend for twelve years, but I am now... let me explain...'

They are so in synch with their actions without even having to talk about it; they're forming a united front (I'm getting to that later on), they're again reaching a silent understanding just by looking at one another (again),

Both Black and Lupin strode forwards, seized Pettigrew's shoulders and threw him backwards onto the floor. [...] Black and Lupin stood shoulder to shoulder, wands raised. [...] Black and Lupin both looked staggered. [...] Black and Lupin were looking at each other. Then, with one movement, they lowered their wands.

I think it's also important to note that they do not just look, but look to check for each other's opinion on the matter. Harry asks them not to murder Peter and of course they listen to him, but they first look at each other as if checking to be on the same page. So - they've just reunited after over twelve years and immediately take the other person into consideration (I'm getting to that later on).

Then in OotP there's the famous fourty line stare where Remus is just intently staring at Sirius while he and Molly are arguing, as opposed to the others who are watching the conversation (who does that?),

'Lupin, who had been about to take a sip of whine, lowered his goblet slowly, looking wary' [...] Lupin's eyes were fixed on Sirius. [fourty lines of back and forth between Molly and Sirius] 'Personally,' said Lupin quietly, looking away from Sirius at last.

And it's not just Remus doing it. It's mutual. They act like a unit (again, getting to that). They care for each other's opinion and they do know each other so well that a single fleeting look is enough for them to check in with the other,

He [Harry] thought he saw Sirius and Lupin exchange the most fleeting of looks before Sirius answered [...]

And again when Harry contacts them via floo to discuss Snape's Worst Memory, they do it again,

They exchanged a look of great surprise [...] Lupin glanced sideways at Sirius, then said, [...]

They communicate via touch, too:

Black's wand arm rose, but Lupin seized him around the wrist, gave him a warning look, then turned again to Pettigrew, his voice light and casual [...]

So - Remus does not only convince headstrong Sirius to back down nonverbally just by looking and touching him, no I think it's also important to note that Remus, who isn't a 'touch person' (he's awkward when comforting Molly, he (as far as I recall) never hugs Harry, always just shakes hands), doesn't even seem to think twice about touching Sirius. No, he immediately pulls him into a hug, then is restraining him physically when he tries to launch at Scabbers, then continues to communicate via looks and touch. After twelve years of separation he's immediately comfortable enough to initiate it.

They're super in synch - also with how they say things

It carries through the whole of OotP, really. Sirius says something just for Remus to say something immediately afterwards or the other way around. When they're together in a scene, the vibe is always them carrying the conversation together, one adding to the other's thoughts.

It already starts in PoA,

'They didn't say what they thought they saw !' said Black savagely [...]. 'Everyone thought Sirius killed Peter,', said Lupin nodding.

But in OotP it's taken to whole new levels. It's too much to put here, but in that conversation where they tell Harry about the Order it's basically:

said Sirius / said Lupin /said Sirius /said Lupin... throughout the whole scene. One of them says something and the other one adds. And again. And again. And again.

And it happens again (though not to that extent) before Harry's Ministry hearing. In the Boggart scene. And then again when they discuss 'Snape's Worst Memory'.

They're also portrayed as being close to one another (distance-wise) repeatedly throughout OotP.

Like when Remus is there chances are Sirius isn't far. That doesn't have to mean anything of course but the frequency puts out a certain vibe to me,

'I said - shut - UP!', roared the man [Sirius] and with a stupendous effort he and Lupin managed to force the curtains closed again

Honestly, I think it's kind of funny that even when there're a number of people the two of them are always mentioned right after one another. Before Harry's ministry hearing, at Ron and Hermione's party, when Mrs Weasley is battling the Boggart, in the Department of Mysteries,

He pushed it open and saw Mr and Mrs Weasley, Sirius, Lupin and Tonks sitting at [...] Sirius, Lupin, Tonks and Kingsley Shacklebolt were already there Lupin had come running into the room, closely followed by Sirius [...] [...] and five more people sprinted into the room: Sirius, Lupin, Moody, Tonks and Kingsley.

And then when Harry floos to see Sirius after he has seen 'Snape's Worst Memory' Remus is there again-, casually sitting at the table and reading and Harry mistakes him for Sirius even (because he's looking so at home?). But Remus immediately knows where to fetch Sirius and comes back with him quickly after. That just has such a domestic vibe to me.

[...] long wooden table where a man sat poring over a piece of parchment. [...] 'Sirius'? [...] It was not Sirius, it was Lupin. [...] 'I'll call him,' said Lupin. [...] And Harry saw Lupin hurry out of the kitchen. [...] Lupin returned with Sirius at his heels moments after.

Remus and his relationship to his friends

Remus mentions Sirius first when he speaks about his friends, although in every other occasion it's always James who's mentioned first. He always says 'James and Sirius'/'your father and Sirius'; it's always James first, Sirius second, but when he's talking about him finding friends for the first time in his life, it's suddenly Sirius first,

'I had friends, three great friend. Sirius Black... Peter Pettigrew... and, of course, your father, Harry - James Potter.'

I don't think that necessarily means anything though, but I felt like adding it just for the sake of it... (I know the author stated James supported Remus after Hogwarts, not Sirius, implying they were (always) closer, but - and that's just my general personal approach - I don't care much for what she said in any Interviews/on pottermore/wizardingworld.com or whatever. She's contradicting herself so often there (see below). To me it's always books first and the books show that Remus and Sirius are close as adults whereas we don't have much information about Remus/James).

Then Remus is very obviously operating on double standards when it comes to Sirius as opposed to Peter. In his conversation with Harry it's insinuated that he doesn't want Sirius, who he believes to have betrayed Lily and James and killed Peter and twelve others, to receive the Dementor's kiss.

'He deserves it,' he [Harry] said suddenly. 'You think so?' said Lupin lightly. 'Do you really think anyone deserves that?

Yet later when he learns the truth he has no qualms whatsoever about killing Peter. He doesn't stop Sirius, he doesn't hesitate, he's joinng in. Why's this so different suddenly? Selling away your friends lives and framing your other friend (Peter) isn't worse than selling away your friends' lives and killing your other friend (allegedly Sirius), is it? So if their 'alleged' crimes are comparable, why is Remus acting different about Peter's than he is about Sirius's?

'Shall we kill him together?' 'Yes, I think s,' said Lupin grimly.

It's not about him thinking the Dementor's kiss was worse than death either. Because he as no qualms to bring Peter to the Dementors when Harry stops them from murdering him. So... why the double standards again?

Sirius/Remus also so do 'relationship behaviour'. I mean the whole nonverbal communication already, but also,

'Sirius, sit down.' [...] Sirius sank slowly back into his chair, his face white.

'[...] I think Molly's right, Sirius. We've said enough.' Sirius half-shrugged, but did not argue. 'I'm coming up there to have a word with Snape!' said Sirius forcefully, and he actually made to stand up, but Lupin wrenched him back down again. 'If anyone's going to tell Snape it will be me!' he said firmly

Remus understands Sirius and is looking out for him

Remus gets Sirius even after over twelve years of being separated. Sirius is impatient in PoA, because he - finally - wants to take revenge on Peter. Remus not only sees that but tries to stop him. To me it reads as if he knows that Harry's opinion is important to Sirius, will be, once he sees clearly again and that he doesn't want him to destroy his chances with Harry by acting too impulsive. Because his intervention isn't rooted in his concern for Peter's life obviously, because he's ready to kill Peter once they explained everything,

'Sirius, NO!, Lupin yelled, launching himself forwards and dragging Black away from Ron again. “WAIT! You can’t do it just like that - they need to understand - we’ve got to explain -“ 'We can explain afterwards!,' snarled Black, trying to throw Lupin off, one hand still clawing the air as the tried to reach Scabbers, who was squealing like a piglet, scratching Ron’s face and neck as he tried to escape.  'They’ve - got - a - right - to - know - everything!,' Lupin panted, still trying to restrain Black. 'Ron’s kept him as a pet! There are parts of it even I don’t understand! And Harry - you owe Harry the truth'

And then again he's stepping in when Sirius is not doing himself any favor with Harry (again),

'And why did he fake this death?' he [Harry] said furiously. 'Because he knew you were about to kill him like you killed my parents.' 'No', said Lupin. 'Harry-' 'And now you've come to finish him off!' 'Yes, I have,' said Black, with an evil look at Scabbers. 'Then I should've let Snape take you!' Harry shouted. 'Harry,', said Lupin hurriedly, 'don't you see? All this time we've thought Sirius betrayed your parents, and Peter tracked him down - but it was the other way around, don't you see? Peter betrayed your mother and father - Sirius tracked Peter down-'

And then Remus is stepping in - again - when it's getting too much for Sirius,

'Harry... I as good as killed them', he [Sirius] croaked. 'I persuaded Lily and James to change to Peter at the last moment [...] I was scared. I set out for your parents' house straight away. And when I saw their house, destroyed and their bodies - I realized what Peter must'v done. What I'd done.' His voice broke. He turned away 'Enough of this,' said Lupin, and there was a steely note in his voice Harry had never heard before.

And in this scene in OotP he's also looking out for him,

'I'm coming up there to have a word with Snape!' said Sirius forcefully, and he actually made to stand up, but Lupin wrenched him back down again. 'If anyone's going to tell Snape it will be me!' he said firmly

They're forming a united front - not once, but it's a recurring motive.

Both are ready to handle the whole Peter thing together. They haven't seen each other for over twelve years, they didn't part on good terms and still they're immediately including the other. Even Sirius who's (in this situation) either failing to see how his behavior isn't doing him any good with building a relationshio with Harry or is incapable of stopping himself, is including Remus,

'Ready, Sirius' said Lupin [...] 'Together?' he [Sirius] said quietly. ‘I think so', said Lupin [...]

And then again, they're ready to kill him together, too,

'Of course,' said Black, and the ghost of a grin flitted across his gaunt face. He, too, began rolling up his sleeves. 'Shall we kill him together?' 'Yes, I think so,' said Lupin grimly.

And also non-verbally they're an united front (see above),

Both Black and Lupin strode forwards, seized Pettigrew's shoulders and threw him backwards onto the floor. [...] Black and Lupin stood shoulder to shoulder, wands raised. [...] Black and Lupin both looked staggered. [...] Black and Lupin were looking at each other. Then, with one movement, they lowered their wands.

Then they're portrayed as 'shoulder to shoulder' (figuratively speaking) in other situations as well. Remus is taking Sirius's side in the argument with Molly although he has no business doing so, although he usually prefers to stay in the background. He's usually keeping quiet, usually not speaking up - Molly even thinks she's getting an ally when he joins the conversation,

'Personally,' said Lupin quietly, looking away from Sirius at last, as Mrs Weasley turned quickly to him, hopeful that finally she was about to get an ally. 'I think it better that Harry gets the facts - not all the facts, Molly, but the general picture - from us, rather than a garbled version from ... others.' [...] 'Molly you're not the only person at this table who cares about Harry', said Lupin sharply.

Remus is always taking Sirius's Side - he keeps making excuses for James and Sirius's behavior at Hogwarts, he keeps playing it down - even as an adult. He's damn biased, he doesn't move an inch - as long as they're in public at least,

'Sirius thought it would be - er - amusing, to tell Snape all he had to do was prod the knot on the tree-trunk with a long stick and he’d be able to get in after me.'

'a schoolboy grudge' [Remus to Snape]

Lupin looked sideways at Sirius, then aid, 'Look, Harry, what you've got to understand is that your father and Sirius were the best in the school at whatever they did - everyone thought they were the height of cool - if they sometimes got a bit carried away-' 'If we were sometimes arrogant little berks, you mean',, said Sirius. Lupin smiled.

And I think it's important to point out that Remus does this even though it's not his real stance on the matter,

'[...] it would be - er - amusing, to tell Snape [...]' 'We were in the same year, you know and we - er - didn’t like each other very much. He especially disliked James. Jealous, I think, of James’s talent on the Quidditch pitch…'

The 'er' and 'I think' is a speech pattern of his that indicates he's not being completely honest/doesn't truly believe what he says. ('So he - er - accidentally let slip that I am a werewolf this morning at breakfast.' / 'Er - perhaps it will be best if we don’t revive him until we’re safely back in the castle.). He doesn't truly think they were as harmless as he's portraying it ('Did I ever have the guts to tell you I thought you were ought of order?').

So - united front on the outside, no matter what. But it's insinuated that behind closed doors Remus is taking a different stance. He's blaming himself for not stepping in with the whole Snape thing, because that's just who he is - blaming himself for everything (sometimes rightfully so, sometimes not) While I do think he didn't say anything outwardly, there must have been something that made it clear to the others that Remus didn't approve of their behavior,

'Of course he was a bit of an idiot,' said Sirius bracingly, 'we were all idiots! Well - Moony not so much', he said fairly, looking at Lupin.  But Remus shook his head. 'Did I ever tell you to lay off Snape?”' he said. 'Did I ever have the guts to tell you I thought you were out of order?'  'Yeah, well', said Sirius, 'you made us feel ashamed of ourselves sometimes… that was something….' 

Remus is suddenly living at Grimmauldplace

So at the end of GoF Remus obviously has his own place (or is living with his father again, although he didn't want to because he didn't want to disturb his quiet life according to the author? But then again I don't care what she said on Pottermore).

'Sirius, I need you to set off at once. You are to alert Remus Lupin, Arabella Figg, Mundungus Fletcher —the old crowd. Lie low at Lupin's for a while, I will contact you there.'

So that's at the end of June. And then at the beginning of August when Harry arrives in London, just six weeks later, he's living at Grimmauldplace already,

Lupin, who was staying at the house with Sirius but who left it for long periods to do mysterious work for the Order [...]

And then rhey give away joint Christmas presents,

Sirius and Lupin had given Harry a set of excellent books entitled Practical Defensive Magic and its Use Against the Dark Arts, which had superb, moving colour illustrations of all the counter-jinxes and hexes it described.

They act differently with / because of one another

Sometimes they even defy their core character traits.

Remus's primal drive in everything he does is to be liked/fit in/be seen as good by others (and not as the monster he sees himself as deep down). He's even sometimes manipulative and hypocritical because of it. For example he doesn't tell Dumbledore about Sirius's animagus form because of it (or at least it's part of the reason, or he believes it to be). But when Snape enters the Shrieking Shack he doesn't care about himself getting into trouble for - allegedly - helping a supposed mass murderer break into the castle and everything. Even though he stated before that he didn't tell Dumbledore about Sirius for fear of losing his respect, all he cares about suddenly is Sirius's safety:

'Severus, you're making a mistake,' said Lupin urgently. 'You haven't heard everything - I can explain - Sirius is not here to kill Harry-' [...] 'You fool,' said Lupin softly. 'Is a schoolboy grudge worth putting an innocent man back inside Azkaban.'

Also Remus is able to get through to Sirius even in a state of utmost agitation. Sirius is trying to murder Peter and Remus stops him and Sirius listens, even though his goal is finally in reach. Although, up to that point, he didn't exactly act very sensible (slashing the Fat Lady, breaking into Harry's dorm with a knife),

'All right then,' Black said, without taking his eyes off the rat. “Tell them whatever you like. But make it quick, Remus. I want to commit the murder I was imprisoned for…' 

And he continues to listen to Remus, Remus continues to be able to get through to him even when he's getting emotional. And Remus, who's always trying to appear mild (for fear of being perceived as aggressive which he can not afford because of the werewolf-thing), who even spoke quietly before in that very same conversation, is losing parts of his composure when Sirius is attacked,

“Molly, you’re not the only person at this table who cares about Harry”, said Lupin sharply. “Sirius, sit down.” Molly’s lower lip was trembling. Sirius sank slowly back into his chair, his face white.

Remus is letting loose around him (and the other marauders). He quips,

'Did you like question ten, Moony?' asked Sirius  as they emerged to the Entrance Hall. 'Loved it,' said Lupin briskly. 'Give five signs that identify the werewolf. Excellent question.'  'D’you think you managed to get all the signs?,' said James in tones of mock concern.  'Think I did,' said Lupin seriously, as they joined the crowd thronging around the front doors eager to get out into the sunlit grounds. 'One: he’s sitting on my chair. Two: he’s wearing my clothes. Three: his name’s Remus Lupin.'

'Well, as everyone thinks I’m a mad mass-murderer and the Ministry’s put a ten thousand Galleon price on my head, I can hardly stroll up the street and start handing out leaflets, can I?,' said Sirius restlessly.  'And I’m not a very popular dinner guest with most of the community,' said Lupin. “It’s an occupational hazard of being a werewolf.' 

[As @remusawoooo put it: let's form a comedy duo <3]

And Remus is obviously very comfortable with Sirius. He's always restraining himself, Harry narrates his way of speaking as 'mild' or 'quiet' so many times, but apparently he's different when he's alone with Sirius. That hints at a great level of trust. He doesn't bother to keep up his act around him, because he doesn't worry about being perceived as mild with him and just speaks his truth ( e.g. about Umbridge). He can just be and oh boy, thinking about Remus's character that has to be the greatest fucking deal ever.

'I know she's a nasty piece of work, though - you should hear Remus talk about her.'

And then Remus, who is so good at appearing restrained, is losing his composure when Sirius dies,

'He can’t come back, Harry,' said Lupin, his voice breaking as he struggled to contain Harry. 'He can’t come back, because he’s d-' [...] Lupin's face was pale. [...] Lupin turned away from the archway as he spoke. It sounded as if every word were causing him pain.

In this moment Harry himself is in huge (emotional) pain, but he still notices - must've been rather obvious, then?

Their mutual respect for one another

So, I've read how Sirius wouldn't/couldn't possibly respect Remus / see him as an equal. How they wouldn't fully 'trust' one another. No matter if you 'see' Wolfstar or not, that is just plain wrong.

Sirius respected Remus already as a teenager. He (and James, too), cared for his opinion, otherwise they wouldn't have been affected by whatever he thought about their bullying. But they were ('you made us feel ashamed of ourselves sometimes').

The whole Sirius thinking Remus was the spy thing also shows that he respected him. He saw him as capable - not just as capable of betraying his friends, but also as a capable person in general, a person with an own agenda, not just a copy of him or James. He didn't see Peter like that.

Sirius lets Remus take the lead in the scene in the Shrieking Shack even though the whole taking revenge on Peter/avenging James (James!) thing is most important to him. He does not only let himself be swayed by Remus and lowers his wand instead of killing Peter right after they forced him to transform, he also let's Remus lead the conversation. To me that shows a huge level of trust. He only joins in after Peter accused him of having learned tricks from Voldemort. But before that it's just Remus talking for some paragraphs?

And Sirius listens to Remus not only in that scene, but also in OotP. First he sits down again in his argument with Molly simply because Remus told him so. Then he's waiting for Remus to come back to the room before he even starts telling Harry about the Order business.

Lupin hurried of to the portrait to restore calm. It was only after he had returned, closing the kitchen door behind him and taking hs seat at the table again, that Sirius spoke.

Then he just accepts when Remus says they've said enough without arguing,

'[...] I think Molly's right, Sirius. We've said enough.' Sirius half-shrugged, but did not argue.

Headstrong Sirius, who's even challenging Dumbledore's orders by insisting on telling Harry stuff, who's challenging Dumbledore's orders by accompanying Harry to King's Cross (as Padfoot), who's willing to challenge Dumbledore's orders when he suggests meeting up at Hogsmeade (as Padfoot). But Remus says we've said enough and he is just like 'okay'. Remus says 'sit down' and despite him having been attacked personally he just does. He clearly respects him a great deal.

On a more subtle note (and maybe I'm reading too much into the source material here, but it makes sense to me)... The Prank was not a big deal in canon. At least not initially. But adult Remus tells us in PoA,

'That was still really dangerous! Running around in the dark with a werewolf! What if you’d given the others the slip and bitten somebody?' [Hermione] 'A thought that still haunts me,' said Remus heavily. 'And there were near misses, many of them. We laughed about them afterwards. We were young, thoughtless - carried away with our own cleverness. I sometimes felt guilty about betraying Dumbledore’s trust, of course… he had admitted me to Hogwarts when no other headmaster would have done so and he had no idea I was breaking the riles he had set down for my own and others’ safety.[...]'

And he's still making excuses for the prank in this scene and Sirius still says how, 'it served him [Snape] right'

But then in OotP when they discuss Snape's Worst Memory with Harry, Sirius obviously has some introspection and to me it easily reads as if they had talked about that behavior - as adults,

'I'm not proud of it,' said Sirius quickly. Lupin looked sideways at Sirius, then said, 'Look, Harry [...] if they sometimes got a bit carried away-' 'If we were sometimes arrogant little berks you mean,' said Sirius. Lupin smiled.

He cuts him off and to me it reads like, 'okay Remus, you can stop making excuses for me'. Maybe adult Sirius came to that conclusion himself with being out of Azkaban for almost two years at this point. He's certainly emotionally intelligent enough to do so. But then again, he's incredibly blind when it comes to Snape in general, even as an adult, so I'm not so sure about that.

Other things

Sirius was lounging in his chair at his ease, tilting it back on two legs. He was very good-looking, his dark hair fell into his eyes with a sort of casual elegance neither James's nor Harry's could ever have achieved, and a girl sitting behind him was eyeing him hopefully, though he didn't seem to have noticed. And two seats along from this girl - Harry's stomach gave another pleasurable squirm - was Remus lupin.

I personally think that's over-interpreting the source material, but I've read someone pointing out how it reads like,

'Hormonal male teen doesn't care for the attention of a teenage girl, why could that be, why could that be... oh, here's why: ...'

(let's not forget about asexual people though)

The Original source material getting ridiculously obvious without the author intending so

Okay, so I personally don't set great store by this, but I think it's funny:

Their names being the biggest cliche ever

Remus 'Moony' Lupin and Sirius ' the Dog Star' Black. Moon and stars, come on. All this from an author who's taking the name game to ridiculous levels. (I mean Remus Lupin = Wolf-son Wolf?, even Lyall = Wolf. And Sirius = the Dog Star Black. And he's a black dog.... really?)

Nearly matching Patroni

They have (supposedly) nearly matching Patroni. Remus's is a wolf while Sirius's is supposedly a dog because it usually aligns with the caster's Animagus form. Anyhow, it's supposed to reflect the caster's personality. Matching Patroni are a huge deal in HP. And a wolf and a dog are pretty damn close, meaning that even if they're not 'matching' technically speaking, they (the caster) are pretty damn close character-wise?

But what about...?

All your 'proof' doesn't necessarily mean they're a thing romantically

No, that's right. I'm not saying wolfstar is canon, I'm just saying it makes sense, even from a canon perspective. Obviously the author didn't intend them to be canon. My point is that it's no stretch to read them as being a thing (whatever that means - being together or just having some sort of unresolved feelings) even in canon.

I'm aware that the things I pointed out don't mean much if you look at them individually. I agree. Like, of course joint presents don't have to mean anything, maybe Sirius is just being 'nice', is including Remus. But it's the sum that give off that vibe—at least to me.

But hey, I'm not trying to convince anyone of Wolfstar; I'm just trying to elaborate. I'd be happy if we could all agree that, no matter any romantic feelings, they were very close friends. Because that, as I hope to have pointed out, is definitely canon.

They don't make sense because of the prank

First - they don't have necessarily to have been a thing back in fifth year already.

Second - the prank was no big deal in canon. I've already ranted about this in another post, so I won't repeat myself here. But canonically Remus didn't make a scene. Like it or not, think it's in character or not, but he didn't.

But Sirius disregards Remus's feelings in 'Snape's worst memory

So this is, what we're talking about, right,

'I’m bored,' said Sirius. 'Wish it was full moon.'  'You might', said Lupin darkly.

Again, they don't have to have necessarily been a thing back in fifth year already. Most of the 'show' we get from the original source material is from when they're adults.

And: Sirius being flippant is just how he is, it's not unique to his relationship with Remus, it doesn't mean he disrespects Remus or anything. He's sarcastic with James in that very same scene, too, even though James had just been insulted and turned down by Lily in front of numerous bystanders (maybe not the nicest thing to do?).

'Bad luck, Prongs' [...] 'Reading between the lines I'd say she thinks you're a bit conceited, mate.'

We - as a fandom - are turning the full moons into a much bigger deal than they were - or at least than Remus wanted them to be. ('And they didn’t desert me at all. Instead they did something for me that would make my transformations not only bearable, but the best times of my life. They became Animagi.')

But Sirius thought Remus was the spy - they couldn't have been close in 1981

'Being close' is a matter of definition, like, I can be super hurt and disgusted by someone's behaviour and still the person can mean a lot to me. So I think it's possible that they cared for each other even though Sirius suspected Remus to be the spy. But in the sense of them 'emotionally getting' each other I definitely agree. But - even if they weren't close in 1981 - what does that say about their teenage years? Or about them past PoA? Right, nothing.

But Lily's letter didn't even mention Remus and Remus isn't standing with them in the Order photograph

See above.

But you don't just move past something like mistrusting each other so deeply

Maybe you don't. They did. Because they did, no matter what you think about wolfstar. Btw, Sirius is asking for Remus's forgiveness, so there's that for the whole 'he can't forgive him for not having him gotten out of Azkaban'-thing.

'Forgive me Remus', said Black. 'Not at all, Padfoot, old friend,' said Lupin, who was now rolling up his sleeves. 'And will you, in turn, forgive me for believing you were the spy?' 'Of course,' said Black, and the ghost of a grin flitted across his gaunt face.

The ghost of a grin. Yes, Sirius is obviously very resentful.

And even if they had a chat about it during 'Lie low at Lupin's', even if they worked through some old baggage - by the beginning of OotP they're definitely super casual with one another.

Their whole dynamic is super toxic... The mistrust and everything. That's not a healthy basis for anything

Unfortunately, being toxic doesn't stop people from being in a relationship. But I don't think they are toxic, not necessarily. While I agree that they definitely have issues (I don't see either of them being good at healthy communication; how were they supposed to learn? Besides, both of them have problematic character traits), I do think, in general, they treat each other with respect. And there's no evidence whatsoever for either of them holding grudges about the spy situation. I know people want Sirius to be resentful because they feel Remus deserves it for letting him 'rot' in Azkaban, but there's no evidence for that.

But Sirius didn't seek out Remus's help in PoA when he was after Peter

That would have been risky, wouldn't it? And I don't think there was much on Sirius's mind except for the revenge thing. Sirius is usually quite calm and way less dramatic than fanon makes him out to be. But he loses it completely with the whole Peter affair. I mean slashing the Fat Lady and acting like the mad mass murderer everyone thinks him to be by breaking into Harry's dorm with that knife? (Stupid and also super risky with no wand)

But Sirius isn't with Remus in GoF but rather lives in a cave

Yes, to be close to Harry. Because Harry is his top priority (see below). So what does that prove? He's rather with Harry than with Remus. Agreed. But it's not like he was roaming the UK instead of being at Remus's before. He was somewhere south, far far away to evade seizure. He only comes back because of Harry.

It's understandable, because he feels responsible for Harry (and perhaps guilty because he blames himself for James's death). He doesn't feel responsible for Remus, who is a grown man - and Remus's safety isn't at stake. His own safety is more important than just being with his friend/lover/whatever, but it's not more important than Harry's safety. I think that's a pretty healthy dynamic actually.

Harry doesn't notice so they can't be a thing

Harry is great at noticing some things. Others, not so much. For example Harry thinks Tonks is in love with Sirius, so so much for Harry's perceptiveness. The books being from Harry's perspective is part of the point of Wolfstar making sense.

What about James?

What about James? Is this a contest? No one says Sirius and James weren't best friends (I won't step into the shipping James/Sirius debate here, I respect the ship eve though it isn't my cup of tea). We all agree they were super close. We all agree they were inseparable and that Sirius was devastated about James's death. Following this line of argument Jily makes no sense either (as @myheadsgonenumb pointed out). People are capable of loving their partners (or loving someone unrequitedly or loving someone without realizing) and having a close best friend at the same time.

Plus, who's to say he wouldn't have been devastated if Remus had died, too? People have the ability to care deeply about more than one person (and again, it's not a contest)

BANG! Thin, snake-like cords burst from the end of Snape’s wand and twisted themselves around Lupin’s mouth, wrists and ankles; he overbalanced and fell to the floor, unable to move. With a roar of rage, Sirius started toward Snape, [...]

Yes, Sirius is obviously completely indifferent to what happens to Remus.

BUT it does annoy me that a lot of wolfstar fics are erasing James / are turning Remus into everything James was for Sirius. Like James was just a side character for.Sirius. That's unrealistic. Sirius needs James, Wolfstar or not.

But it's stated Sirius and James only cared for each others opinions, no one else's

Is it really? I've basically already tackled that one above, but, while I agree that they were most important to one another, Sirius himself says to Remus, 'Yeah, well. You made us feel ashamed of ourselves sometimes… that was something….'

What about Harry - the books state he was the most important person to Sirius (and vice versa), not Remus?

Agreed and again - is it a contest? That line of reasoning would mean that parents aren't capable of loving their partners because they have children.

But Sirius wouldn't be with someone who let Harry suffer at his aunt's / who allegedly endangered Harry's life in PoA by withholding information from Dumbledore...

He wouldn't? The backbone of this argument is that Sirius would not trust/forgive someone who did these things. And wether you ship wolfstar or not, that is just canonically wrong. They were canonically close in OotP (see quotes above) - if you're negating this you're being delusional.

I don't think I have to deep-dive into Sirius's character here because it's obvious that he didn't hold a grudge against Remus.

Remus is too much of a loser for Sirius to want him as a partner

I feel like that's pretty much the same argument, so it get's pretty much the same answer: He wouldn't?

The backbone of this argument is that Sirius was too cool for Remus, had not enough respect for Remus, which is, canonically simply not true. No matter if you like it, no matter if you think it makes sense considering Sirius's character, it's fact that adult Sirius respected him very much. He listened to him, he cared for his opinion, he backed down because of him, he allowed Remus to take the lead. He doesn't treat him as inferior. Not a single time.

But Sirius is so much better than Remus, he has a better moral code, he's a better man, a better [insert statement here]...

Again - it doesn't matter much if you think so, or what I think about it. But Sirius didn't think so. Not a single proof he's resentful towards Remus, not a single proof he thinks Remus is inferior to him, not a single proof he doesn't respect him. The opposite actually.

But Remus is such a pushover, it just doesn't fit personality-wise. Sirius needs someone strong

Is Remus really? Because he isn't as an adult. At least not as long as he isn't concerned personally.

I see Remus as someone with deep-rooted self-worth issues, hence he's struggling to stand up for himself (his worst decisions are all linked to his poor self-esteem). But he has no problem in PoA to stand up to Snape (in the scene in the Shack), he has no problem to stand up to Sirius (multiple times in that scene), he has no problem to take the lead in the conversation with Peter. He has no problem to stand up to Molly when she's attacking Sirius and he tells Sirius to leave it to him to deal with Snape when they learn that Snape stopped giving Harry Occlumency lessons (and wrenches him down again). He's not as gentle/soft/pushover-y as people sometimes think.

Besides, we don't know much about how he really was as a teenager. He himself says that he didn't call them out for the whole Snape thing, but his self-perception isn't the best and he tends to blame himself for everything, so we don't really know how true that really is... As mentioned before, Sirius himself says,

''Yeah, well. You made us feel ashamed of ourselves sometimes… that was something….'

And also (before that),

'Of course he was a bit of an idiot,' said Sirius bracingly, 'we were all idiots! Well - Moony not so much.'

But Sirius is depressive in OotP - the long hair, the drinking, his moods...

Yes, of course, he's trapped in his childhood home without being able to do anything, he's feeling useless. No wonder he's depressed. Having a relationship doesn't save you from depression (although having no fulfilling platonic/romantic relationships at all can be a major factor for getting depressed).

If one or two pillars have crumbled that is possibly already enough for the roof to tumble down - even though the third is still standing (surprise!).

[On a personal note: I know what I'm talking about (although not everyone's experience is the same obvs) because I'm suffering from depression despite having a wonderful partner, great sisters and great friends.]

But Harry inherited all of Sirius's money/belongings when he died, not Remus.

I don't know about you, but I don't peg Remus as somebody who would've accepted it. Apart from that, Remus was an adult whom Sirius saw as an equal, just as capable as himself, whereas Harry was Sirius's godchild, whom he felt responsible for (and probably still guilty towards).

But Sirius had his wall plastered with pictures of bikini-clad girls

And I had a poster of my favorite (male) singer over my bed at the age of fourteen. Guess what, I'm not straight.

What about Remadora?

I'm not stepping into the 'Is Remus gay'/'Is Remus bisexual' debate right here because I don't think it's necessary. Remadora was after Sirius's death. Period.

And the whole Remadora ship is awful - for both of them. @lizlemonbennet wrote a beautiful post about that

Tonks deserved better - she was so unhappy pining after him, it was literally sucking joy and confidence out of her (her hair changed and her Patronus changed). Lets talk about her Patronus actually. Before Remus it was a rabbit, after she fell in love with him it was a wolf. If Patroni represent your personality, what does it say about you when your Patronus is your lover's literal prey? To me that's a pretty obviously unhealthy dynamic.

But you're erasing women from the story

No, we're not. Wolfstar was a thing before Remadora and Sirius doesn't even have a canonic love interest. Besides - I love Jily and doesn't Hermione get paired with just about anyone?

But the author stated on wizardingworld.com that Remus had never fallen in love before he met Tonks.

I think the whole killing off Sirius and marrying off Remus thing was just the author dealing with fans interpreting her story in a way she didn't like. Either way, I don't care much about what she wrote on Wizardingworld or elsewhere when it contradicts the original source material. Because the author contradicting herself in interviews, on Pottermore, with the films, and even within the books is really nothing new. Just a short list of her making no sense:

James Potter being a seeker, no a chaser, no a seeker, actually nvm

Saying that Snape was in a gang with the Lestranges ('a married couple') at school, when Bellatrix had already left school when Snape arrived at Hogwarts

Saying James was fifteen in 'Snape's Worst Memory' when he had to have been sixteen. It happened after O.W.L.s and students turn sixteen during their fifth year of school. With his birthday being stated as being in March in the very source material itself (DH), sorry, but that's just wrong.

The whole timeline of the Order deaths in 1981

Halloween 1981 being a Wednesday when it actually was a Saturday (Wednesday - Saturday, close, huh?). The story starts from Vernon Dursley's perspective who's on his way to work and Harry's been brought to Privet Drive the same evening. According to the 'real calendar' this means baby Harry spent over a day alone in the ruins of his parents' house? Cool

September first, 1993, being a full moon, meaning Remus has to have transformed on either the train ride to Hogwarts or during the Start of Term feast. Meet your need DADA professor, he's a werewolf, like, right now. Ups, I guess the jig is up.

Remus not transforming in PoA when he hurries to the Shack despite sun already having set just because the moon is blocked by clouds??? It's that easy to evade transformation, yes? Why not lock yourself in the basement, then?

.... (don't get me started on plot holes, I could rant about this to no end)

Other reasons the ship appeals to so many people

Friends to lovers (with a bit of enemies to lovers because of the spy thing?)

I don't have to elaborate on that do I?

Just the right measure of opposites attract / Like will to like - They're good together or at least have the potential to be

I didn't mean to turn this into some Remus Lupin / Sirius Black meta, but...

In some ways they are super similar. It's both very important for them to be viewed as 'good' by others (although their definitions may differ). Remus because he needs that sort of validation because of his poor self-worth. Sirius needs to be seen as 'good' as opposed to his family. They get each other partly because they know how it's to be reduced to a single trait. But then they act very differently about it - Sirius plunges into action while Remus retreats and masks.

They're both dark in some ways; they were both ready to kill Peter.

James didn't believe one of his friends would betray him. Both Sirius and Remus weren't so naive (Although drawing the wrong conclusions):

You think I'm a fool?" demanded Harry.  'No, I think you're like James,' said Lupin, 'who would have regarded it as the height of dishonor to mistrust his friends.'

Remus is kind/gentle but he's also passive-aggressive at times and sometimes manipulative. Whereas Sirius is harsh, sometimes even cruel, but that means he's also blunt. That has the potential of them dragging one another away from the extremes a bit, meeting in the middle (although Sirius probably would be able to do so on his own, I think most times he simply doesn't care).

While Sirius is much less dramatic and rash than parts of the fandom make him out to be, he has a tendency to act impulsive (acting like a mad mass murderer when he breaks into the castle / wanting to murder Peter without thinking about what that means for his relationship with Harry / jumping to his feet to immediately have a word with Snape when he hears about him dropping the Occlumency lessons). He can do with some sort of counterforce just as Remus needs somebody who forces him to crawl out of his shell.

The drama

They get each other without really getting each other. Sirius thinking Remus is the spy is super tragic because he's reducing him to the werewolf thing, which is the one thing that really hurts Remus.

But he doesn't do that for malicious intent - he does so because he sees Remus's struggle, because it makes sense to him and because he deems Remus capable. But he doesn't really *get* Remus. Because if he did, he would have realized that for Remus it was always most important to be liked/fit in. He'd never betray his friends' trust, because he's so grateful for having them in the first place. He would have rather died, - he doesn't think his life is worth much anyhow (as opposed to Peter). Remus would rather die than risk being shunned.

So he sees Remus but misses the point spectacularly. Which just breaks my heart. And still they're finding back to each other (as friends at least)

Goodbye

Thanks to anyone who's read that far. Again, I don't mean to bash any other ship, this is just about my 'love' for Wolfstar. Don't tell me I can't write a canon compliant Wolfstar story because I can and I will (read: am trying).

I'm also not saying that you have to read it the way I do, it's always interpretation anyhow. But I hope I managed to shed some light on the whole matter.

I didn't check the text because I didn't intend it to get that long tbh. I only had time to write it down because I'm sick at the moment. But I hope there's no holes or anything.

#Can we at least agree that they were close as adults? Bc that would already make me happy (and it's true) #wolfstar #wolfstar defender #remus x sirius #remus lupin #sirius black #marauders #marauders era

[casurlaub]

sending this as an anon because i'm really very shy, but I would like to say that I absolutely LOVE your posts.

This one (https://www.tumblr.com/casurlaub/750044243762036736/can-we-please-agree-that-liking-a-character?source=share) in particular simply sums up EVERYTHING I think.

you are incredible! ♥︎

Thank you so much, anon!!! That's so sweet you really made my day :) <3

#my first 'ask' yey #why does that sound so sarcastic? #I'm not being sarcastic I'm thrilled :)