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#wooah stunning #paula badosa #tennis

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don’t let the term rpf confuse you into thinking celebrities are real people

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this is so cute

#😭 #idk if you guys know but i'm in love with aryna sabalenka #also i kept waiting for jannik to like make his hands touch and instead he just. stood there awkwardly like that #i fucking love when he's so awkward like 1) felt 2) cute #tennis

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verified ways to send aid to gaza directly

Help a Palestinian family directly:

gazafunds.com - Donate directly to a Palestinian family in urgent need of evacuation, medical attention, food, rebuilding homes/businesses etc. (Spotlights 1 verified gfm at a time so if you don't know who/where to donate to just go here and donate to the one they show you!)

Help provide tents (urgent):

The Sameer Project: Currently providing tents for displaced families in Gaza (emergency bc tents in Rafah are being burned as we speak) (paypal) (gfm)

Food, cash & essentials:

Care for Gaza: Working on the ground in Gaza to distribute food, cash, medicine & other essentials to displaced families. (paypal) (gfm)

Direct Aid for Gaza: also working on the ground in Gaza to distribute food, cash & other daily essential suppliess to displaced families. (paypal) (gfm)

Water:

Gaza Municipality's water project: The official Municipality of Gaza needs help rebuilding the water infrastructure in Gaza City to restore access to clean water and waste management services for the people of Gaza. (This campaign only has a couple of weeks left but it's still only at 15%!)

eSIMs (urgent):

guide to buy & send esims for gaza

crips for esims for gaza: If you don't know how to buy esims or don't have the capacity to manage them (e.g. topping up regularly), this team of volunteers are collecting funds to buy & manage gaza esims regularly

Medical Aid

Palestine Red Crescent Society: Provides emergency medical and ambulance services and humanitarian relief on the ground in Gaza e.g. rescuing and treating the wounded.

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“when i get on the floor and i see number 11 suited up with me, i feel good about our success and our chances to win a game…”

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#could we possibly Not #nba #tag later

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#prev grace mi è venuto mal di testa solo a leggerlo #(27-2)+(48+2) quindi 25+50 = 75

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hii, hope you’re doing well 🫶🏻🩵

- shapovalovvs

grazie cara 🥹🩵 diciamo che è un momento parecchio difficile ma sto cercando di uscirne, di chiedere aiuto e lasciarmi aiutare. quello che sto capendo sempre un po' di più in questi ultimi tempi è che ci sono più persone di quanto non pensassi che si preoccupano e sono disposte ad aiutarmi come possono e che non è così una brutta cosa lasciare che gli altri si prendano un po' cura di me, specialmente adesso che sono in un momento di difficoltà

non è così facile essere sempre consapevole di tutto ciò, quando è un momento/giornata no sembra ancora che sia io solo contro i miei problemi... però piano piano mi convincerò pienamente che non è così

sorry per il rant, comunque apprezzo l'ask e i hope you're doing well too, buona serata 💕

#asks #loena

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specifically for suggesting that they check the faq/guideline, usually if i am directing someone to another source rather than trying to help them myself, i pose it as a suggestion, like "you could try checking the faq, i think that might help you out!" or "have you taken a look at the guideline? you should be able to find some help there!"

even though i still feel guilty for saying no, this feels a bit safer to me because i'm proposing an option rather than telling them explicitly what to do (though there is nothing wrong with that either, i just find it harder). and this way, if they really need my direct help, it sort of leaves the door open for them to ask again if they can't figure it out.

you could also give timeline along with it, like "i can't help right now, but if you're still suck in 15 minutes, i might be able to!" depending on the task, some people might be able to either figure it out in that time or find someone else to help them!

idk exactly what people are asking you to help them with so i don't know how helpful any of this is, but yeah, i would say usually what helps me the most with getting better at saying no is trying to redirect people rather than outright refusing. i think outright refusing is also a good skill to develop, but unfortunately it's mostly a matter of "training" yourself to do it (practice practice practice). but there are sort of "in-between" steps that you can take that will still allow you achieve your goals without having to always push yourself to say no directly.

anyways, sorry for talking so much, i hope there's at least some part of this that is useful, and if not then i hope someone else is able to help you!! <3

hi anon, sorry i took so long to answer this, been a rough timee.. but i wanted to say that this was in fact helpful! i've slowly been trying to use the tactics/advice you and other people shared with me-

(and little intermission. taking this opportunity to say sorry to everyone who dmed me with advice on this that i never replied to: you were all very helpful and kind and i appreciate your help so so much; conversations are just hard lately)

-and i think it will take a while to practice and get better at handling this kind of thing but i feel like i'm starting at least. rn i'm especially trying to follow your advice of saying i can't right now, i'll get to you later. not exactly like you said bc i still feel bad going "i'll be able to help in 15 minutes if you're still stuck" bc in my mind it feels like telling them "try to solve it on your own". which like.. as someone else pointed out in dms (and as our coordinators at work say too) it's not even a bad thing to do bc it actually helps to try and solve problems on your own as much as possible, it's a useful skill to practice (i have too, i didn't just Know How to Do and Handle Things from day 1) so i should start seeing it more as also doing them a favor? bc hey our coordinators really appreciate when we take initiative and responsibility and just make a choice. even if sometimes it's not a good one, if you put some thought into it and decided a course of action on your own, with the knowledge you do have (bc we aren't given tasks we don't know how to do - or when we are, then it's different bc there's a process of being introduced to and explained the task by someone who knows how to do it well and that's a time when it IS encouraged you ask questions to that someone) and the skills you've developed so far, that's always a point in your favor. but eh in my mind it still feels like i'm gonna make them feel bad and like they can't ask me questions in the future (which isn't what i want). baby steps i guess, i've still been trying to say "give me 5 minutes, 10 minutes, i'll come to you when i've got the time" stuff like that. i guess in some way the fact i had a huge mental break down has "helped" by kinda forcing me to do this. like, especially last week i had moments where i just could not listen to people's questions and requests for help/advice bc i was doing really badly and had to fully focus on my tasks. so i did say "sorry, i can't right now" and well in those cases they could probably clearly see i wasn't well so even with little explanation they got the message but it did still kickstart the process lmao

but yeah sorry i talked a lot. point is i'm taking in all of your advice, anon and everyone else, and trying to practice and find the best ways for me to handle this issue

#thank you so much dear anon you were so kind <3 #the try to check the guidelines thing is trickyyy .. a whole other rant would have to happen to explain lmao #but yeah much love to you if you see this i'm sending a hug 🩵🩵 #asks #anon

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ho fatto la carbonara per la prima volta in vita mia secondo me è buona #masterchef

#food cw #food tw #la cosa migliore di dover cucinare solo per me medesimo è che io non ho aspettative né pretese né sono difficile da accontentare #se è commestibile è già abbastanza perché non sono un granché in cucina e lo so #però no è buona per me #alla fine non sono così male datemi solo istruzioni precise perché se no non so che cazzo fare #già che devo adattare la maggior parte delle dosi nelle ricette a quelle per una persona mi mette in crisi sempre #nico rambles

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um just so y'all know they terminated my old account (main and sideblog) bc of copyright infringements lol very beautiful moment in my life everything is wonderful etc lmao but mh all my gifs gone

#i can always haunt down rbs #also i mean not GONE gone i save all my gifs on my external hard disks #just gone from the site you can't find them if you search and all that #on one hand i have more important things to worry about #on the other i had those blogs for years and i wanted to keep them as archives especially for my gifs but fucking s*rie @ said no i guess #i could've maybe prevented it if i deleted all my s*rie @ gifs from the blog bc those were the issue and i got warnings but uh #i was kinda busy with killing myself and all that #i'm trying to cope with humor 😭😭 not working #i'm getting a coffee at the café and maybe taking a walk

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Hello princess 🩰🎾♥️

#i had the frankly scary thought “i would probably dress like this” #if anyone wants to charge me with crimes against fashion honestly go ahead #daniil medvedev #tennis

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the moment seems right to share again this article about the domestic abuse charges of a player that the ATP circuit is currently allowing to play at one of the most prestigious tournaments, the same week his trial is supposed to take place

#abuse tw #domestic abuse tw #alexander zverev #<- for blacklist stay safe everyone as always lmk if you need this tagged in other ways

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hi!!!! love u!!!!!!!!! 🤍

i love you too liz <33 i'm so very sorry for being the worst at replying 😔

#does anyone know how to convey everything is hard i'm not even sure i'm a person anymore but i love you sorry for being so bad at life rn.. #in like. a way that doesn't feel like i am being the worst friend ever #anyway miss you and love you my dear!! #asks #liz

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milanisti will have one conversation with an older milanista about the good old days when we had van basten and everybody feared us and spend the next three hours crying over il cigno di utrecht's end of career

#i'm said milanista #don't even have the time to cry but i will anyway

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Israel's newest massacre in Rafah is dubbed مجزرة مخيم النازحين

"The massacre of displacement camps"

35 displaced Palestinians killed in makeshift tents. This is where we're at. This is Israel.

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Palestinian men are holding up actual beheaded babies for the world to see on their screens and nothing is done, while the world rallied behind Israel in its genocide for the sake of invented beheaded babies, a fabricated story that resulted in the killing of 15,000 children at least. Sick world.

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ok just one last thing why would you make kei go thru 5 sets on his first slam match in 3 years diallo you are my number one enemy from now on

#his last slam match he lost at uso 21 against..djoko