lesbiansandco

[lesbiansandco]

[ oc ] Nacht, the last of the angels in this series! This one is my favorite.

#angels #art

[lesbiansandco]

One of the things I'm super grateful for is that after I had gay sex for the first time, I knew that they were wrong, that I had been wrong. There wasn't anything unholy about gay love. It was resplendent with beauty. I felt my lover's arms around me and I knew the wrong thing, the terrible thing, would be to continue to deny myself the joy of being held. I still had a lot of work to do to change my views and deconstruct Christianity, but it became completely and utterly untenable to believe that any justifiable moral code would prohibit gay love.

And I had been so afraid to go that far for so long, convinced that god would punish me in some way. I thought that if I ever had sex with a man I would be lost entirely and sink deep into a horrible misery. I thought it would destroy me, but instead it gave me what I needed to build a whole new life entirely, outside of the grip of what actually was destroying me.

#exmo #lgbtq #fuck purity culture

[lesbiansandco]

It's really fucked up how Christianity teaches that some people can only be reached for Christ when they hit rock bottom. Christians will pray for people to endure tremendous suffering simply so that the non-believers can hear the voice of god. Truly an abysmal failure in imagining a loving god.

"he's so loving because he caused me to experience the greatest pain of my life so that I could finally listen to him"

Absolutely insane move on the part of an all powerful, all knowing, all loving deity. You're telling me the ONLY WAY was the road of agony? Unrelenting love, kindness, and divine revelation weren't options?

#exmo

[lesbiansandco]

Kids who were called "one of the most deep spiritual thinkers I've seen" by their pastors are all apostates now

#little me be like #exmo

[lesbiansandco]

We were never broken.

We were given a broken mirror.

When I was a Christian I thought that I was born broken and that by the grace of God I would be fixed. And when I looked at myself I saw something broken. But then I opened up my world a little bit and looked at my reflection again and saw that the brokenness that I'd seen before was a product of the stories that I'd been told in Christianity.

We don't have to be broken in order to be loved. We don't have to be completely transformed in order to be good. We don't have to make ourselves small so that a jealous god feels big. We don't have to wait around to be saved because we can save ourselves from people who would want to make us feel broken.

links, glorious links

#exmo

[lesbiansandco]

The double bind of "if bad things are happening to you it's because you're not a christian and god is punishing you" but when you are a christian and bad things are still happening it's "bad things are actually a gift from god because trials make your relationship stronger" is actually wild. If a romantic partner was like "I'm going to cheat on you and treat you badly so we can overcome it together and strengthen our relationship" we would rightfully call it abuse. If you punished someone for the grave offense of *checks notes* choosing not to engage in a relationship with you, people (hopefully) wouldn't be like "just get in a relationship with them to stop the abuse". You don't owe a relationship to anybody, but especially people who are abusive and harmful!

#exmo

[lesbiansandco]

my favourite Bernini statue isn’t a real statue, but the damaged clay and straw angel that was the model for the bronze statue.

#art #angels #exmo

[lesbiansandco]

actually im not a christian so if u try to say “but the bible says..” one more time to control what i do with my life, i will take a bible, a kjv bible, with study notes and apologetics lessons, and shove it so far up your ass that you will actually know the scriptures you claim to be quoting

#exmo

[lesbiansandco]

Idk call me crazy but I don't think you should worship a god who says you can't kiss someone before you're married. Like you'd think he'd have his hands full with the wars and the famine and the fuckheads causing them, but no for some reason the lord god above is PRESSED about where and when you're pressing lips together. I feel like if we just take a step back for a moment and look at the world, all presumably a result of the divine plan, we might be able to start weighing the divine planner's opinion on kissing a little bit less. Let's get this universe a little peer review

#exmo #fuck purity culture

[lesbiansandco]

Sometimes people demand you justify being an atheist with a 200 page well-sourced thesis on biblical scholarship but one of the reasons I am not a Christian anymore is so fucking simple. It made my life worse. It made me unhealthy mentally. I’ve grown one thousand times more as a person without it. If it were really the one true wisdom from an all knowing infinite god, it would make my life better. And that’s enough proof for me. And it’s a valid reason.

#exmo

[lesbiansandco]

Okay, so God loves me whether I like it or not, and he saves me from a sinful/limited nature/death (hell) without my consent (except if I don't accept him as my personal savior consent I go to hell/death/brokeness/depravity). Except he's as gentle as a lamb, so he won't enter into me unless I consent. But he will try his best to break me down and soften my heart so that I'm ready to hear his message (and if I don't give in to him, I will never know true happiness/never have a life worth living/die/be tortured for a billion billion years or until I give in).

I don't care how good your message is. This is not how you treat someone you love. This is coercion.

#exmo

[lesbiansandco]

#art

[lesbiansandco]

I never like it when people make blanket statements about DID, this is such a complex disorder and in making blanket statements for everyone with DID you're probably going to be wrong.

DID is mostly covert but there are overt presentations of the disorder. Some alters have similar personalities, some have very different personalities. Sometimes alters feel close together and like there's not a lot of separation between them. Sometimes alters feel completely different from each other and like their own people. Some switches may not be noticeable and other switches may be very obvious.

There are so many different ways of experiencing this disorder and they're all valid.

#plurality

[lesbiansandco]

(for the purposes of this poll, there is no monkey's paw situation: the chore you pick stays the same level of difficulty/grossness/etc. as it normally is for you, and you only have to do it as often as you want to. the chores you don't pick are magically done for you exactly the way you'd want them to be, just with zero effort on your part.)

#making the bed #it takes me almost no spoons and then I get to be comfy

[lesbiansandco]

#can that be 20 k 🥺 #<- prev yes

[lesbiansandco]

on this day, 6 yrs ago, bruno mars was surprised to see pete wentz

#fall out boy

[lesbiansandco]

#counterpoint: shamelessly gay and openly gay are definitely not the same #I’m fucking proud of being a lesbian but I’m not openly out because it’s dangerous right now #shamelessly gay? yes. openly gay? hell no #and I know I’m not the only fucking one #lgbtq