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for an aro person, I fantasize a lot about intimacy. but not in a romantic context like smoochy ooky pooky boo-boo...hell no.

intimacy as in being completely emotionally open to/with someone, being so comfortable with them that you just feel safe and warm. I want to have that type of closeness with someone without having to feel guilty that I won't be able to give them romantic love.

it can be something so very deep within my core, but it's just...not romantic. is that so bad?

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i made some evil aromantic flags

#THESE ARE THE BEST

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your happiness matters. if transitioning makes you happy, go for it. if not transitioning but understanding your gender identity makes you happy, go for it. if you just want to be genderfuck whatever as an expression, go for it. if you don't, go for it. you are important! being happy is so valuable and when you can be you and be happy that's where it matters the most. your identity is something you should find joy in, and no one should damper that. if you can't express it in that happy way yet, you'll get there. i know you'll make it on the better end of that and you can do it.

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hey you!

yea you!!

your gender’s looking great today!!

whatever you identify as

however you prefer to present yourself

however you look

it looks great on you!!!!

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The funniest thing about being aroace is growing up in middle school and thinking to yourself “…you guys are too young to be dating. We’re kids right now.” And then as you get older and reach college you’re still like “…you guys are too young to get married, how do you even know you like them like that?”

Like no that’s just how allo people are.

#this is so real

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Thank you @elliseleven and everyone who got me to 1000 reblogs!!

WOWZA! 💛💛💛 !!!

Kisses can be platonic!!!!!! Cuddles and handholding can be platonic!!!! Physical affection isn't inherently romantic!!!!! You get to decide what is/isn't romantic for you!!!!! And as always, consent is key!!!!!!!

#1000 reblogs #tumblr milestone #thank you

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*kisses you platonically*

#lgbtqia #queer #lgbtq #my lonely thoughts #aroace

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if I could be cupid for a day I wouldn't shoot people with those fancy love arrows. no no. I'd use just regular arrows

I'm turning your relationship into a Shakespearean tragedy and you can't stop me

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qpr where they’re both super silly and whimsical

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I'm sorry- sex is the GOAL?????

#asexual #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtq #asexuality

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"being queer is about love" hmm actually being queer is about defying societal norms about gender and sexuality and does not depend on feeling love at all

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trans people are not exempt from having transphobic opinions or ideals. everyone and anyone can have internalized prejudice toward groups they occupy

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Accepting that I don’t have any real desire to have sex, and not trying to reason it away as something else like just a low sex drive, or my antidepressants affecting me(which I haven’t been on in well over a year anyway) was like a weight off my shoulders. I genuinely felt lighter, less stressed. All it took was being around people that heard me and told me it was ok, and made me feel like it didn’t make me any less of a person or any less queer. The feeling was…elation. I felt more at peace with myself than I have in a long time.

Even now when I question my validity as ace or even wonder if I identify with it at all, it’s easier to put my anxieties to rest knowing that regardless there will be people who accept me under any label.

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What are you? A god? Something beyond even that?

wouwdn’t yoo wike to know, weathew boi UwU

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exclusively aesthetic attraction is so weird bc you’ll be looking at a nice person and you can barely think bc there’s sirens and whistles in your brain and you say “so what do we want to do about this” and your body says “absolutely nothing”

#so true 😭

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My sexual, romantic, and gender identities could all be honestly summarised as "absolutely not, but maybe, in this very extremely specific way that barely makes sense to anyone"