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arguments that r no longer allowed in the “cAn TrAnS mEn Be LeSbIaNs” debate:

- but what about cis men (if a cis man feels a connection to lesbianism he’s probably not a cis man)

- they’re invalidating themselves (do u think trans men are stupid)

- lesbian is nonmen loving nonmen (literally a tumblr definition from like 2014)

- trans MASCS can but not trans MEN (there is no objective line between man and masc)

- trans men are just trying to invade lesbian spaces!!!!!!!!! (terf)

- why can’t they just identify as straight (relationship dynamic is different with straight women than it is with queer women)

anyway, shut up!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#trans men lesbians #butch #gender #I really want to go read these books

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Quick survey how old are you and do you care about your wedding like is it actually that serious for you

#late thirties #and I got handfasted to my spouse in an outdoor ceremony #facilitated by an enrolled member of the Comanche tribe #who was a professor of mine in college #it was a lovely small ceremony with like 20 people on Comanche land (a US state park) #we had a land acknowledgement and cake from a grocery store #food mention cw #also I'm demiromantic

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(Image description: four squares in various shades of red with white text, together the text reads "Support autistic trans people. Support autistic trans women. Support autistic trans men. Support autistic nonbinary people.")

#autism positivity #autistic positivity #red instead #autism acceptance

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I did a thing with some transphobic comments that I had the misfortune of seeing with my own two eyes on TDoV.

There are screenshots below, the usernames and profile pictures have been covered up with colorful scribbles, as well as most of the text of the comment, leaving behind only a few words with a very different meaning than the original intent of the comments.

(you are not your DNA You can be transgender)

(Respect and love means affirming someone's truth)

(Biological sex is a mistake.)

#tdov2023 #blackout poetry

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there is no such thing as being "behind in life" but it's okay to recognise that you missed out on some things whilst you were busy surviving

#positivity

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How do we create a world where survivors feel safe to share their stories? Where they will be heard, believed and supported? 

Digital illustration of an enby with tan skin and pink hair wearing a green halter dress. There’s text on their back that reads, ‘survivors deserve a world where they feel safe to share their stories.’

#sexual assault cw #sexual abuse cw #abuse cw

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[ @permanently-sprained-ankle ]

[id: a digital drawing of a disabled person. they have shoulder-ish length pink hair and they are wearing pink makeup. they are wearing a short pink strapless dress with black fabric visible at the end of the dress. they’re wearing pink leggings, and brown shoes with ribbons on them. they have three different pride themed tattoos on their arms, and a red heart on their arm as well. they have blue nail polish. the person is supporting themselves on their black cane. there are glitter details on the persons hair, dress and cane. the background is pink. the artist’s signature reads: “Lav” with a white heart next to it, placed on the end of the persons dress. /end id]

#yesss love seeing cane users! #disability positivity

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This post goes out to the disabled people who don't live perfectly healthy lifestyles. I'm talking about the disabled people who drink. The disabled who smoke. The disabled people who do drugs. The disabled people who don't exercise. The disabled people who eat junkfood. The disabled people who are angry, negative and bitter. The disabled people who choose to say no to a recommended treatment option for any reason. Considering that even fully abled people rarely manage to live up to the ideal for healthy living, it is both ableist and ridiculous to hold disabled people who are already struggling more to an even higher and more unrealistic standard. So if you're not the perfect patient, you're still valid and you still deserve support!

#disability positivity #food mention cw #drug mention cw #alcohol mention cw #smoking mention cw

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I gotta say, so much queer intra-community horseshit dropped off my shoulders when I decided to adopt a firm policy that everyone is the expert in their own identity, the single most knowledgeable person about what it's like to live life in their own skin, and that if someone describes their experience in ways I find contradictory or paradoxical I should do them the courtesy of presuming that they are striving to express something very specific and nuanced, rather than leaping to the conclusion that they're just dumb and using words wrong.

Sure, there are some combinations of identity terms that I look at and go "hmm, I don't get how that works." I'm still a human being. But there's a big difference between not getting how something works versus insisting that it doesn't.

#autonomy #queer positivity

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[ Image Description: Two screenshots of Jonathan Van Ness, wearing white, talking to Alok Vaid-Menon, who is in a teal button-down with their hair in an up-do. Van Ness asks, "What is it about non-binary people and trans people that is so threatening to these systems of power?" Vaid-Menon answers, "We represent possibility. We represent choice, being able to create a life, a way of living, a way of loving, a way of looking that's outside of what we've been told that you should be." Description Ends ]

Edit: Thank you to everyone who identified the other person as Alok Vaid-Menon!

Happy TDOV!

#tdov #tdov2023 #jonathan van ness #alok vaid menon #non binary #trans #non binary positivity #nonbinary positivity #trans positivity #transgender positivity #trans day of visibility

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Trans Day of Visibility

There's a lot of anti-trans stuff going on in the world. But this Trans Day of Visibility, I want to talk abut trans joy.

In my first poetry writing workshop class in college, the professor led a creative exercise. He had us imagine a body of water that we knew, and describe it and the area around it detail. Then, he had us imagine there was a dead body at the bottom of the body of water, and had us describe the area and the water again, but without actually referencing the dead body.

He wanted to help us learn how to convey feelings and meanings through our writing without necessarily stating them outright ("Show, don't tell," etc.).

Today, I've been thinking about that writing exercise, but with something else at the bottom of the body of water: an orb of pure joy. Incandescent. Shimmering. Pulsing with excitement and hope.

That is the trans joy I experience in my life.

I am like a lake, with an orb of pure joy resting within me. My trans joy. The thrill of using my chosen name for the first time with a stranger. The euphoria of doing what I wanted with my hair. The congruence of hearing other people use my pronouns. When @genderqueerpositivity sends me something in the mail addressed to "Mx" [my name], or something trans-related, and I feel so Seen in the best way possible.

Yes, the joy is seated deep inside of me. But it transforms the whole landscape of myself and the spaces I am in. I can't write about the lake and the area surrounding it in the same way, because the joy spills into everything.

I love being trans. I love being genderqueer. And I love sharing my trans joy.

Happy Trans Day of Visibility 💜🤍💚

#tdov #tdov 2023 #trans day of visibility #transgender day of visibility #trans joy #trans positivity #genderqueer positivity

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“When the language was imperfect or nonexistent, people still spoke, still looked for others like them. Connecting in new ways, loving in infinite ways, all as beautiful as the next. All because someone reached out and explained themselves, and someone else understood.”

— Harper-Hugo Darling

#quote #makingqueerhistory #making queer history #harper-hugo darling

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What makes something romance is internal, not how it looks externally. It's romantic if you intend it to be or you and whoever you're with have defined it that way.

#aromantic #aro

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I’m really sorry to bother you but you are one of the only queer blogs I feel comfortable to ask questions for and sense this blog seems to know a lot about queer history I would like to ask a question:people have been saying that pansexuality existed because of bisexualities transphobia is this true? Are there any sources to this claim about bisexuality? Sorry to bother you anyway

Thank you for the question, I will try to answer it the best I can, but I am not sure my answer will satisfy. There seems to be two questions here, first, was pansexuality as an identity created in response to transphobia in the bisexual community. The second is, if it was, is that claim of transphobia accurate.

Short answer to the first is, sorta, kinda, not really, and to the second is no. While I definitely did see posts floating around about pansexuality being a more trans-inclusive sexuality, most of them were individuals expressing an opinion rather than the pansexual community widely agreeing on the subject. Since then, most of these posts have been debunked, and from what I have seen pansexuality is accepted as a sexuality where gender is not a determining factor in attraction, whereas bisexuality is attraction to multiple genders.

Neither of these definitions explicitly include or exclude transgender people, and transphobia is not inherent to either sexuality. You will definitely be able to find examples of transphobia from the bisexual community, but again it is generally bigoted individuals expressing themselves rather than the bisexual community widely agreeing on the subject.

I hope this helps!

#bisexuality #pansexuality #bisexual #pansexual

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It might be tempting, and even necessary in some cases, to create what is seen as "normal" works of art, literature, etc. and forgo your own experience as a nonbinary person in the process.

Do what you must to survive, of course, but be sure to remember why you create in the first place.

Give yourself a space to be true to yourself no matter the pressures from a narrow minded, external society.

#nonbinary #non binary #nonbinary positivity #non binary positivity

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It's your choice if you want to act on attraction you experience or not. It's OK if you'd prefer not to.

#aromantic positivity #asexual positivity #aro positivity #ace positivity

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new game is to type one through ten in your tags and see what comes up. i think my favorite of mine is ‘my uncle told us he spent seven and a half hours in a sensory deprivation tank once’ but ‘gideon the ninth motherfucker’ is a close second

#i really need to make one of these #so i made the decision to put these two together #which is not that great because i think it's the least helpful out of the three #like... this is the fourth job i've been out at with my pronouns and being genderqueer #I don't have anything for five #six grandfathers #I don't have anything for seven #i am tired of dialing it down to an eight when they want a four and they will never be okay with my true self #I don't have anything for nine #it's one of the founding tenets of my activism