#((another reason why i really connect with frieren is definitely her grief and regrets))

[confusedsiewmai]

Sometimes, I don't like looking at Frieren fandom things is because it feels so alienating as an aroace person sometimes.

I relate to Frieren in a lot of ways. The way she goes through life at her own speed, the way she has a certain way of doing things that is hard to change, the way she struggles to fully understand others but is still compassionate and tries, and last but not least, the way she doesn't feel romantic or sexual attraction the way most people do.

So when a fan posts something about how elves like Frieren don't really feel romantic or sexual attraction and it's wonderful that Himmel's unrequited love with her is still portrayed as something beautiful, healthy and valued, but the comments section is just filled with people being like: No!!!! That's not true!!! Frieren loves Himmel even though she doesn't realise it!!!!

Or even the more "generous" ones are like: No!!! She is just falling in love with him years later!!! The whole story is about how she regrets not pursuing it until it was too late!!!!

And like, every person has their own interpretation and ships. But it really is a bit saddening as an aroace person that sees Frieren also as an aroace who probably would never feel as much romantic love for Himmel EVER. People have almost this... need to correct people that Frieren loves Himmel romantically.

#sousou no frieren #frieren at the funeral #talking to myself #aromantic #aroace #asexual #of course. i have only watched the anime. but the source material itself has said that elves are not in touch with their romantic feelings #i think that is VERY aroace #and should therefore make frieren's feelings up for interpretation #and less of smth ppl rush to correct. like its AWFUL that frieren doesnt return himmel's feelings #and it hurts me a bit... because i see so much of myself in frieren #why r ppl ok with her living her life at mostly her own pace and struggling to understand ppl #but not so much with her aroace-ness.... u know? #and if anyone is interested abt my interpretation of frieren's feelings #frieren sees himmel as a pillar and closest friend. her entire journey is her grief over losing such an important person in her life #the only other person like that for her was flamme. and she managed to spend time with her till her death #but she miscalculated this one and ended up only staying with him for ten years #((another reason why i really connect with frieren is definitely her grief and regrets))