#i think that is VERY aroace

[confusedsiewmai]

Sometimes, I don't like looking at Frieren fandom things is because it feels so alienating as an aroace person sometimes.

I relate to Frieren in a lot of ways. The way she goes through life at her own speed, the way she has a certain way of doing things that is hard to change, the way she struggles to fully understand others but is still compassionate and tries, and last but not least, the way she doesn't feel romantic or sexual attraction the way most people do.

So when a fan posts something about how elves like Frieren don't really feel romantic or sexual attraction and it's wonderful that Himmel's unrequited love with her is still portrayed as something beautiful, healthy and valued, but the comments section is just filled with people being like: No!!!! That's not true!!! Frieren loves Himmel even though she doesn't realise it!!!!

Or even the more "generous" ones are like: No!!! She is just falling in love with him years later!!! The whole story is about how she regrets not pursuing it until it was too late!!!!

And like, every person has their own interpretation and ships. But it really is a bit saddening as an aroace person that sees Frieren also as an aroace who probably would never feel as much romantic love for Himmel EVER. People have almost this... need to correct people that Frieren loves Himmel romantically.

#sousou no frieren #frieren at the funeral #talking to myself #aromantic #aroace #asexual #of course. i have only watched the anime. but the source material itself has said that elves are not in touch with their romantic feelings #i think that is VERY aroace #and should therefore make frieren's feelings up for interpretation #and less of smth ppl rush to correct. like its AWFUL that frieren doesnt return himmel's feelings #and it hurts me a bit... because i see so much of myself in frieren #why r ppl ok with her living her life at mostly her own pace and struggling to understand ppl #but not so much with her aroace-ness.... u know? #and if anyone is interested abt my interpretation of frieren's feelings #frieren sees himmel as a pillar and closest friend. her entire journey is her grief over losing such an important person in her life #the only other person like that for her was flamme. and she managed to spend time with her till her death #but she miscalculated this one and ended up only staying with him for ten years #((another reason why i really connect with frieren is definitely her grief and regrets))

[redysetdare]

All this aroace character shipcourse has proven to me that a majority of people that interact in fandom cannot actually interact with characters and media outside of shipping and genuinely I believe you need to learn how to interact with media outside of shipping.

#text #fandom #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #this became extremely obvious with Encanto - where the main message of the movie was ignored #and people were so desperate for shipping they started shipping background characters or even the family members....eugh #like at some point you must understand your inability to interact with media outside of a narrow romantic scope is an actual problem #at some point you need to accept you don't ACTUALLY like the media you're interacting with #like genuinely can you say anything else that you like about a piece of media besides the fact you want two characters to kiss? #genuinely i do believe the way some of you interact with things needs to change because it's made fandom spaces literally unbearable #also it has severely limited some of your guy's critical thinking skills #if you want content based around shipping then look at the romance genre it's literally right there for this very reason #shipping just needs to stop dominating fandom discussions and interactions. shipping should not be the main focus of every genre ever ffs #that or y'all need to literally start tagging your shit so that people can actually block it out and find the posts that they want to see

[fleetwood-cheese]

How long do yall think its gonna take the anime only dungeon meshi fans to realize that not only is marcille not the fanservice character, but that several different characters think shes outright ugly/unsettling and that senshi is canonically so hot to half-foots that chilchuck refuses to introduce him to his daughters?

#dungeon meshi #dungeon meshi spoilers #i guess we have to tag this now?? #marcille donato #senshi dungeon meshi #i still think laios is very attractive but im aroace and an autistic bio major so… #aroace but would risk it for an earnest biology man

[toytulini]

okay

#toy txt post #toy poll post #polls #flowers #i dont think i have ever beem able to smell specific flower scents but i think i just never noticed it? #but i Definitely noticed it when i was posting pictures of the lemon tree blossoms and ppl were like 'ohhh those must smell amazing!' #and i was like. idk they smell like flowers to me. #and other ppl were like ohhh they smell like. a little hint of lemon essential oil and so sweet and light and nice and i was like #sniffs again. yeah not getting all that bud. but i let everyone have fun imagining that in the comments #but idk they all just kinda smell to me like. i would describe it as a pollen scent? #it gives pollen vibes #and like i can smell Plenty Of Other Things like i feel like im very susceptible to noticing the smell of this sat in the washing machine #too long. etc. and its not from the One Time i caught covid either. cos it was before that #seems largely fine but you know how we aroaces like to make posts like man i thought yall were just exaggerating about this for yrssss #thats how im feeling about the flower smell i think. are yall really smelling differences or is this some wine tasting placebo shit

[killrisma]

I don’t understand the concept of sex as the natural progression of romance. I understand having sex, I understand how it can be romantic, I just don’t understand how it is seen as the only course that romance takes.

Like love confessions immediately turning to sex is always so ???????? to me. Like ok get it I guess but how did we get here???

#it’s just very confusing to me #i don’t quite get how romance and sex are connected #to me those are two very disconnected things #like yeah i could probably hook up with a hot girl at a club #but i don’t think id ever confess my love to someone and immediately #jump their bones or whatever #what even is love actually #might be aro #idk #asexual #aroace #cw sex mention #asexuality #cw sexuality #arospec #acespec #my txt

[sandeewithtwogaye]

Happy Valentines Day! Ink is asking Broomie on a date

Ink belongs to comyet/myebi

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#art #utmv #ink sans #ink x broomie #they got married the same night #everyone was invited #Reaper was the pastor #ink probably ate his ring #his dads were confused but very proud also #i still think is ink is aroace #but specifically cupioromantic and asexual #dating Broomie was supposed to be a joke but then he took a step further and married it

[stiffyck]

"this show has great lgbtq+ rep" okay do you mean just like casual gay couples or are there trans people too. are there any ace and/or aro character? intersex character? or are there just lgb characters

#no shade to the lgb part ofc #gay and lesbian and bi and pan etc. rep is also very important #i just wish there was more trans and aroace rep too... like i cant think of more than. 4 character off the top of my head who are trans or #aroace #lgbtq #stiff talk

[macksartblock]

putting off my angst wips to push an agenda lol

#dungeons and daddies #dndads #sparrow oak garcia #lark oak garcia #rebecca oak swallows garcia #normal oak swallows garcia #get it? swallow like the bird sparrow-weaver like the bird idk it's 5am and i think its fun #this is purely for a target one (me) #sparrow & rebecca feel very 'dated romantically in hs but woke up one day and just stared at each other in the kitchen like huh interesting #im on the aroace spectrum so this is just me claiming both of them bc they amuse me #also for flag context we got greyromantic demiromantic and greysexual (& bi but we all know that one lol) #my artwork

[omgjolras]

i think that Grantaire being canonically attracted to men can hardly be disputed because he's very explicit in his attraction and love for Enjolras, to the point where i hardly ever see anyone deny this (even outside of the fandom i mean), but i do think that it's actually very very clear we're meant to interpret Enjolras as homosexual?

of course it has always been interesting to me how Victor Hugo chose to introduce Enjolras as a wild Antinous (emperor Hadrian's gay lover), only to tell us a few lines later tells us he wasn't aware that there was a being on earth called woman and like, yeah i guess that's pretty gay but there's still some space for debate. how on earth are we supposed to interpret the following sentence though

"Evadne's bare bosom would have moved him no more than Aristogeiton; to him, as to Harmodius, flowers were good only for hiding the sword"

so in his first introduction, like in the same fucking PARAGRAPH he's compared to not one, not two but THREE different gay men, and one of those comparisons is there to explicitly say that he wouldn't care if a woman showed her tits to him. it's an INSISTENT analogy that only gets stronger when we get to grantaire's part, with them being pretty much two sides of the same coin, getting compared to even MORE gay men

#les mis #les miserables #the brick #enjolras #like all i'm hearing is: he's gay and pure #i do think that vicky was explicitly saying he's a gay man #the heart of the revolution is gay #and the climax of their revolution (e and r's death) is gay #it's so funny to me how repetitive i can get like it's the same 10 pages that get analyzed all the freaking time but i can't help myself #i think aroace enj is still very valid btw

[soaked-ghost]

the three genders: butch dyke, man fag, and grandpa

#made something for pride month after all yippee!!! #it's the perfect way to share hcs I think dream is aro as fuuuuuck #nightmare is asexual (he's more of a romantic) #and ink is an aroace lesbian wahoo!!!!!!! #also! despite dream being genderqueer he is very much still a boy! he transcends gender in more ways than one #while we're at it. did u know that dream's and nightmare's whole thing/story is supposed to be a transgender allegory? (my canon I mean) #they both hate being called 'sans'. and they both hate how they're a clone of him. dream a LOT more than nightmare #they both try to be their own people far away from sans and I find that very gender in a way #ink just likes women. and when he figured out he was nonbinary he was like 'huh'. and that's about it. #ink sans #dream sans #nightmare sans #sans au #utmv #undertale au #art #myart

[dreamsy990]

some of the less nice thoughts about being aroace

extras below the cut

sketch

closeups on my favorite panels

bonus: adios

#doodles #kingdom hearts #roxas #axel #olette #aromantic #asexual #aroace #do i tag pence. hes in the background of one panel #ehhhh sorry pence no tag for you #also not tagging soriku and namixi #i mean by the logic of 'theyre in one panel so i wont tag them' i also shouldnt tag axel but. he has dialogue so #anyways i have a very irrational love of olette whenever i need a random side character in a kh comic? olette #i think she uses webmd. anyways im done talking about olette #so let me clarify about this comic #im aroace. this is all just things ive thought before #im not saying in any way these thoughts are real. theyre just thoughts #thats why it ends with 'but there isnt. its just me.' there IS nothing wrong with being aroace. even if it feels like it sometimes #im not trying to send a message im just trying to express a feeling ive had for a while #anyways. the aroace community is super positive and i like that. but not everything i feel about it is that positive #sometimes it feels like im missing something yknow #this comic seems like its about roxas. but its about me. congrats youve been fooled #drafted something similar to this for aro week but didnt finish it in time so this is spiritually part of asaw 2024 #btw sorry im not posting as many drawings lately #schools kinda stressful im pretty tired and busy most the time #i am throwing this drawing to you like a slab of meat to a pack of hungry dogs. take this meager ration in these trying times #alright i think thats it bye now

[knifearo]

aspecs: i've been thinking a lot lately about the "ace people can still have sex in a relationship/aro people can still be in romantic relationships" sentiment and the logistics of being aspec in relationships in general. obviously, the predominant sentiment is that you should be able to have a relationship where the other person will be happy without having sex/being romantic with you. if you feel comfortable sharing in tags/replies/reblogs/asks/whatever, though, i'd really like to hear people's experiences with sex/romance in relationships as an ace/aro person. have you found it generally possible to have a relationship with an allo person when you're ace and don't want to engage in sex? what are people's experiences being aro and being in relationships (labeled romantic or otherwise) with alloros? reblogging for reach is appreciated and any related experiences you feel comfortable sharing are completely welcome <2

#aspec4aspec relationship experiences welcome too obviously. not specifically what i'm looking for here but i always love to hear ab it haha #please do pass this on if you feel inclined. i'm looking to get like. survey reach. y'know. #curious is the wrong word but i'm thinking a lot about aspec people in relationships after that last big post i made #and i really want to have a better idea of what it's really like for people. #not so much curiosity as desire to understand. material for better allyship to my aspec siblings who engage in relationships like that. #care very deeply for you guys i want to facilitate a better understanding of aspec experiences for everyone <3 #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aroace #aspec #talking #asexual #ace #asexuality #acespec #aro

[aterfish]

Being ace is an opposite of fuck around and find out:

Fuck nobody and never know for sure

#never knowing is actually a very important part #bc you learn that you dont care and you dont wait for that ✨special someone✨ #if something changes: cool #if nothing changes: cool #i dont need to be sure to be okay with my sexuality #and i dont need proof for others if i want to use one label or another #peace and love on planet earth #humans have too short lives for random people telling them they can't live their life how they want #asexual #asexuality #aroace #ater babbling at 2 am #hello new followers time to disappoint you 💖 #also im sex repulsed. but if you are not? then fuck and never know for sure ✨ #its literally 2am i really should stop and think before posting something. but dis a problem for a future fish #Right now fish wants to post their stupid post

[moo9395]

Guess who watched Newsies.

#newsies #newsies broadway #watch what happens reprise #this is my favourite song #the poor guys head is spinning #ben fankhauser #jeremy jordan #kara lindsay #davey jacobs #jack kelly #katherine pulitzer #les jacobs #I think this counts as a pride month post #this show is very gay #I am working on some aro drabbles for pride month #haven’t really posted anything so far #sorry #I’ve got a lot on and very little motivation #might post some aroace character stuff #:)

[bunnieswithknives]

Sorry I was compelled to draw these by forces beyond my comprehension. I just think they would be silly :3

#hazbin hotel #Alastor #hazbin hotel Adam #gore #guro #blood #cannibalism #autocannibalism #body horror #horror #alastor/adam #kind of?? #Alastor is very aroace 100% oblivious to the connotations #For Adam I think its like hatesex minus the sex #Theres probably a word for that but I have no idea #Enemies to still enemies but homoerocially #like an evil version of a QPR idk #ask to tag #rairpair #are these two a rairpair? I havent seen anyone else put them together #Man IDK how to tag this stuff #art #digital art #fanart #doodles #candy gore #This was inspired by a fic a read where Adam survives getting stabbed to death and is trapped in hell as an angel #I was sad at the lack of Alastor and Adam interactions so I um uhhhhhh #it was a very normal fic unlike me who is very un-normal

[angryducktimemachine]

I think what I personally really enjoy about AroAce Rudyard is that I know, in my heart, that he would not ONCE spend a single thought thinking he was broken. This man is fully convinced everyone else is just being unnecessarily weird, which really resonates with me, who also spend like 22 years of his life not even considering the possibility that there's something "wrong" with me and that everyone else is simply a little overdramatic over love and sex.

#i know it's a different experience for everyone but besides like one or two little 'oh god this will affect my adult life' realizations that #i only had once i REALIZED i was aro and even then that was less a 'this is problem with me' and more a 'this is a problem because of other #people's expectations #anyway Rudyard Funn i love you sgdhsgshdh #love looses #rudyard funn #wooden overcoats #i think if like Georgie tried to explain being aro or ace to him he'd dismiss it too #he'd be like that's ridiculous georgie #he might think about it some more later tho #who knows #younger me thought he was simply a better person for not being silly about love and sex like #and that's very Rudyard #(and i have since grown and realized that I'm not a better person I'm just aroace)