#and my coworker responding

[salarymanwaka]

late for work...

#orv #omniscient reader's viewpoint #omniscient reader #yoo joonghyuk #kim dokja #joongdok #중독 #my art #joongdok adult roommates #just two guys who have been living together for 10 years with no other romantic relationships #they have never made anything official and don't refer to each other by any titles other than roommate #however when inevitably asked by neighbours/coworkers/friends if they ever plan to get into a relationship or marriage they always respond: #....i guess i've never felt the need for that' #it is because they have been functionally married for over a decade thank you for coming to my ted talk #no scenarios au

[cafephan]

the audacity of dan and phil announcing the revival of the gaming channel on a sunday knowing most of us have to face society tomorrow and pretend we had an uneventful weekend

#how do i respond to “did you have a good weekend kirsten’ tomorrow #YES COWORKER I WAS BROUGHT BACK TO MY COLLEGE DAYS AND DUG OUT MY TATINOF MERCH HOW ARE YOU #dan and phil

[pippenpaddlopsicopolisthethird]

For everyone who wishes they spent more time doing Events and Activities with their friends - planning is a Skill!

Knowing where to learn about potential activities and events, being the person to reach out to invite others, being the one to ask the "when" and "where" questions, reminding people about it: they are all skills!

If you, reading this, are the person who often does this legwork: your actions are appreciated. These skills are less commonly practiced than you think and it can be a fantastic skill to have in your pocket. It can be frustrating trying to step back from planning, or tiring to be the only person in your circle practiced at it. I know. Take my hand. We'll get through this together, maybe Saturday afternoon, for coffee?

If you, reading this, are never the person to suggest or arrange plans: it's a skill, which means that it's something you can get better at. Anxiety can be a bitch, but your friends aren't gonna be as mean as your brain already is.

Give it a shot. Look up a cafe you haven't tried, or search your local paper for events. You can't go wrong with "I was thinking of going, would you want to come with?". Ask when. Ask where. I believe in you.

#I'm watching a group chat full of my coworkers who never plan try to arrange something without my help #they're all responding passively nobody's offering a day or time or place to meet #just a lot of 'sure sounds fun any day is fine alright' #babes somebody offer something for people to respond to it doesnt have to be perfect it just has to be an offer #i will not save them they have to learn somehoe #my posts

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is having not a single fucking clue what to say when your coworkers start talking about relationships. Like how am I supposed to contribute to this conversation. I can’t tell you about my nonexistent partner. I can’t whine about how I haven’t found anybody I don’t want. I can only say “oh that’s cool” and “damn sorry about that” so many times. And now I look awkward and standoffish.

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod kee #honestly i think the best way to add to that #is like... ask about plans and things they like to do together #talk about details #like... say ur coworkers are talking about a date night #you can ask where they went for food and respond with stuff about like. oh have you been to such-and-such place - they've got the best #[similar food style] #or like. just... find a point of connection to the topics that aren't just the relationships #though i'd generally advise leading with a question that includes the relationship so it feels less like an intentional topic change #and for the 'damn i'm sorry about that' types of convos #consider if you've ever had a similar situation in some way. #like... 'wow ngl if i were doing a project with him i'd be losing my damn mind. is he always like this?' #also sometimes it helps to create a topic #like... bring in homemade food and talk about how you found the recipe and thought they'd like it #or like... if u have some sort of hobby you can talk about how you've been working on a project or w/e with that recently #you can also redirect to that stuff! like ur coworker is talking about having a date night -> oh that's neat! personally i'm really excited #to work on my embroidery project - have i shown you any pictures? #or say they're talking about a fight in their relationship - 'that's so stressful! you should do something for yourself - do you read? #i've been reading xyz book - maybe you'd like it?' #overall like. acknowledge their topic and validate their emotions -> handshake it to a similar but more relatable topic

[ducktracy]

yet another reprise of the same post i’ve made dozens and dozens of times before but GEEZ! i am so incredibly lucky to be doing what i’m doing! to think i spend hours and hours and days and weeks and months and years and hopefully DECADES pouring over animation history, lauding the masters and studying their work so intently and absorbing it and feeling and identifying with it, and the fact that i get to walk the same turf they did. that i get to be a part of this business that they established. that i get to carry the torch and that, some day, no matter how small or insignificant, my own work and contributions will be regarded as “animation history” because i work in animation and all history is history. i just can’t believe that i’m privileged enough to indulge in some of the same practices that The Greats did, that i get to study their work and, if i’m so lucky, channel and make homages to it where possible.

this isn’t to say “i’m just like Tex Avery because i work in animation TOO!!!!”, but, rather, an expression of my sheer GRATITUDE and amazement that i get to do what i do at all. i’ve met so many nice people. blossomed so much as an artist and cartoonist. get inspired each day by the talent i am constantly surrounded by. and to think that i get to be a part of it!!!!! that i get to carry the torch! i know this sounds so conceited and pompous and i really don’t mean it that way at all because i don’t WANT to be known as someone who people are only interested in because i work in cartoons. i just wanna be known for me! what “me” is i guess is for you to decide! but, regardless, i’m just feeling extra thankful tonight that i’m able to indulge in my passions and SPREAD my passions and have said passions fostered. that i’m lucky enough to tread the same ground as some of the greatest creatives that gave me this ground to tread on. there will never be enough words to properly articulate just how deeply and passionately my gratitude extends.

#not naming names because i feel weird bragging about them behind their back but one person who works on our show i look up to very very #highly. I MEAN I DO FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE. i am literally surrounded by some of the best in the business. but one person i particularly revere #said they were a ‘big fan of my work’ and when i was told that i legitimately went lightheaded for a few seconds #or again Ruth Clampett commenting that her dad would ‘love to see this cartoon live on’ on my art and making me bawl like an absolute baby #IT’S JUST SO CRAZY #i just. man #it’s really beyond words #and so many other kind words from bosses coworkers friends mutuals acquaintances total strangers #i don’t take any of your kindness or even just. awareness for granted #i know i’m not often vreat at responding but i do read every single tag every ask every DM! please know i never take it for granted #thank you for keeping me company and deciding i’m worth the company to keep #okay i think i have officially gone into word salad territory so it’s time to retreat #i’ve gotten much less candid for fear of maintaining some semblance of professionality but sometimes you just need to speak from the heart #(and i’ve gotten much less neurotic about that in recent months thankfully. Tumblr is my little safe haven) #so thank you for making it a safe haven at all

[corpus-chorus]

Almost wrote "the two genders: <company name> and star wars" in a group chat at work and I swear the hand of god came down to bat my hands away from the keyboard before I had to explain that one

#tumblr and discord have absolutely destroyed my ability to communicate #i already responded to a coworker's suggestion with 'gun' the other day #if i'm not in an hr file somewhere then someone's not doing their job #ryo rambles

[anotherpapercut]

does anyone else who works with children ever just want to come home and cry and also drink

#it was so much today. and honestly some of it isnt even the kids its how my coworkers respond to them

[wantbytaemin]

the fucking shitshow i experienced today…

#i won’t even get into the details of it but my work is being undermined and i didn’t say anything about it bc i was so taken aback and in #absolute shock. i have literally never Ever experienced something of this sort im not being dramatic i went into my office and told my #coworker girls what happened and everyone was staring blankly like ‘they said that to YOU??????’ bc it’s genuinely fucking unbelievable #got told some out of pocket shit that i willllll notttttt let slide but i need to get my shit together and think up the best way to respond #bc this wasn’t just undermining my work it was borderline humiliating. all from this woman who is supposedly my PhD mentor who NEVER #fucking helped me with anything and now she’s trying to tell me something that is SO insanely unfounded and just insane truly #as if i didn’t take over the entire goddamned (multi million) project and played the role of *drumroll* two phd students three #collaborators and TWO mentors one of whom was supposed to be the project lead. all that did so well that our ceo STILL praises me in #meetings and he never fucking praises anyone. as if i wasn’t offered two job positions in two separate labs while in one of london’s top #universities. as if i haven’t published 8 papers and a scientific book chapter which I’m the first author of #all without her help and now she wants to play mentor by trying to talk shit. oh my god im so miserable right now you have no idea #i can’t fucking stand her and no one in the company likes her anyway lmao but like #when i get out of this fucking state of SHOCK she just put me in im about to tell her to fuck off forever so politely and so wonderfully #that she will not know what happened to her. doubting MY capabilities ohhhh as if. as IF.

[elliesbelle]

the girl i’ve been talking to who gives me jock/gamer abby anderson vibes and i have been snapchatting so much the last few days that she’s already at the top of my snapchat list 💀

#my coworkers were making fun of me yesterday for being all giggly about it in the break room LMAOOOOO #blushing and kicking my feet in the air FR likeeee 😭 #but they’re all happy that i’m not likeeee crying in the break room about my ex anymore LOL #messyyyyyy #okay but she hasn’t responded in like 20 minutes and she needs to give me attention nyaaaaaaow #v #belle speaks

[ereborne]

What is a Monday? A miserable little pile of obligations.

semester turnover restructure

generate/send out error reporting

figure out how to separate out unique counts

create polite reply to Massive Dick Move email

finish the bad book >:(

bò kho (not an obligation. dinner)

laundry

lizard bath

#yapping tag #I spent my weekend trying to sleep and now all my chores are due today and I wanna complain. grump grump grump whine. #the semester turnover restructure actually is a pet project so that part I like! I wish I could take my time with it though #the error reporting is. well it's easy to generate (it's actually running now) and it's tedious but uncomplicated to send out #but then I'm going to spend the rest of the day getting passive-aggressive responses from everybody #in a just world my coworkers would respond to careful itemized lists of all their fuckups with 'thank you Alexis you're so helpful #we really appreciate you flagging our mistakes two weeks before the system final-saves them forever into stone. have a cookie!' #but alas #if I'd been any less stressed and frantic when I first established the error reporting I'd have set up a separate address to send them from #write up some template emails and let the reporting all come out of the mythical 'automatic system thing' #--every 'automatic system thing' in our college is me or IT on my behalf. even the people who hired me for this don't seem to realize #if only I'd known from the beginning that nobody would ever connect me and my systems! I'd be exploiting the shit out of it-- #the unique counts is going to be a headache. no idea how I'm going to structure the coding for it. might be fun to invent? we'll see #the Massive Dick Move email response also will be an invention. 'hello Mr Massive Dick I am karma here to smite you' but polite #the bad book >:( I don't want to read any more of but the deal I made with my friend is he sends me free books and I report back #we did not discuss a special 'get out of book free' card for when the main character is a godawful shit sibling. (should've done though) #beef stew is good! mostly it's on the list so I don't forget to set the timers #laundry and lizard bath can wait until tomorrow if they must but they shouldn't wait any longer than that. lizard and I will get stinky

[arsonforcharlie]

I've got reverse imposter syndrome, I keep getting told I'm doing a great job but it's for really simple things that any idiot could figure out so I feel like it doesn't count

#this post is like half a joke #but sometimes your boss rolls up like 'hey i cant find this file your coworker was working on' #and you open the folder it should be in and its just right there #and he just responds back like oh my god how did you find that and you can't just be like 'step 1: lookin'' but like you could

[curiosity-killed]

There should be a word for the specific hell of spending half your day waiting for people in leadership positions to reply to your messages so that you can do the actual work that needs done

#also one for when your coworker doesn’t have enough to do so keeps bugging you but you have #a shit ton to do and are running out of patience #personal #oh my god dude I can SEE that you have seen my message JUST RESPOND #ITS NOT A HARD QUESTION

[just-osgood]

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#Am I in the wrong for not responding to a text message from a coworker on my day off #They're a colleague and we have a manager #Like our manager can message me and we have a group chat #So why not utilize it #I don't need to respond #Like....wtf

[babyfairy]

i hate that i can’t even ride the high from my concert because my life is so consistently depressing and hellish lmao 🙃 it’s depressing to come back down to reality after such a good day. like it really makes me realize how joyless my life has become. everything just blurs together

#and i’m just tired of like everything around me feeling like it’s drifting away and becoming more unreachable #like i never even get to finish a conversation with half of my friends because they just forget to respond to me #thank god for sushi and asant consistently replying even when they’re busy lmao #no one else even bothers to really check in now unless i’m in like ACTIVE crisis it really sucks #not even in like a ‘i need people to hear me vent’ way #i just don’t feel important to the majority of the people in my life. at all #or maybe it’s just i feel like i care about and prioritize them a lot more than they do me #like? i had more coworkers text me on my birthday than actual friends #and i fucking hate my birthday so i get it to some degree #but it just hurts my feelings? idk? i feel like such an afterthought all the time to people. like a ghost #and i feel like i’m not interesting or good enough to keep anyone around or hold their attention #my own brother didn’t even wish me a happy birthday. at all lol #are my expectations just too high? #it’s just lonely. i wish i didn’t feel so alone

[hey-scully-itsme]

apparently they think I’m cool at my theater volunteering gig, bc i got volunteer of the month despite only having been there two months?? which means I get to pick a movie to screen and you would not BELIEVE how hard a choice that is. I have to get them a list of 3-5 options sometime in the next couple weeks and the best I’ve narrowed it down to is 7.

#i would bet so much money it’s bc i respond to their emails real fast lmao #genuinely tho it is such a nice place #everyone is cool and the work is just busy enough but also low-stress #with plenty of down time to chat with coworkers #my month might be June and if it is im gonna make a list of gay movies #they JUST screened master and commander last November but if it’s June i might put it on the list anyway lmao #even though I’ve already seen it in a (nicer) theater

[klavierforte]

ooc.

i am ALIVE i PROMISE

#[ ooc ] #[ out of chords ] #holidays were a lot and i wanted to make sure these things got out bc i lost my coworker last tuesday OTL #but i will make sure i respond faster with what little downtime i do have #during the workday anyway