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transkirishima · 6 years

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sorry to bother you but uhh, i'm someone who regularly does bnha headcanons and i take requests, but recently i've gotten one for trans bakugo headcanons. i'm not trans, so i thought i should ask around and find out from a bunch of trans people whether or not to do the request, and things to avoid if i actually do them. you don't have to respond. i'm just trying to be cautious since i'm cis, but i really don't want to do something wrong without realizing it.

im gonna like, try to give the best answer i can with such a vague ask, but if you want more clarifications on things dming a trans boy whos up for it would be best, my mains dms are always open (i cant guarantee how fast ill respond though)

this ended up being longer then i intended cos i just kinda went off on things but, i hope its helpful

trans bakugou is my jam man, there are definitely ways to portray it wrong (such as the ppl who heavily fetishize/sexualize him) but the headcanon itself is fine. like while i definitely side eye cis ppl who jump to him for their trans headcanon (as hes violent and has a history of being a bully), its fine and basically all my other trans buddies love trans bakugou (well, trans boy bakugou, dont even dare do trans girl bakugou for the love of god. since youre asking abt transcanons, while youre here ill just say this: dont hc canon boys as trans girls and dont hc canon girls as trans boys, unless many trans girls or trans boys themselves have rallied around those respected hcs)

cis people making transcanons is fine- it helps in normalizing us, however when it comes to being cis and making trans headcanons, just know that your trans headcanons should not center around the character being constantly ashamed and in agony over things like their dysphoria (not all trans people have physical dysphoria) or their general transness; rather focus on their gender euphoria of how right it feels for them to be trans. it shouldnt all hinge and focus on their body. of course, hcing a character as trans and with dysphoria is fine, but dont make that the center of their trans experience. that seems to be what cis ppl take most from our lives when thats really only a section of it for those of us who have bodily dysphoria. but there are trans boys who dont bind- hell there are those you CANT bind, and if you want to discuss those kinda hcs, actually like dming a trans boy would be best.

most likely youll say something that makes a trans person uncomfortable or something bad because you dont fully understand us and just learn from those experiences. really the most important thing is listen to trans people if theyre telling you youre doing or saying something transphobic. if a trans person is saying smth you did or said is transphobic, dont take it as an insult, rather a “oh shit, what did i do wrong and what can i do to be a better ally?”

just talking to trans ppl abt these things through dms would be fine, and i bet talking to them you would learn more than you thought. like- one of the ways i project my transness onto specifically bakugou is how he wears primarily black clothes like i do, and thats how i hide my curves. lots of cis people wouldnt even think of that but its just small things like that that can go into a persons or characters transness. our daily way of living and our relationship with gender is varied and complicated. some people know from when they are young they are trans, some people dont figure it out and begin transition until well into adulthood- ive heard of people above 50 coming out and beginning transition. some trans boys love embracing masculinity to the best of their ability, and some still like wearing skirts and dresses. there isnt one true trans experience and all of them deserved to be portrayed with the utmost respect.

but something basically we’re all sick of: the whole “looking into the mirror and seeing ourself with the WRONG BODY!” trope. lots of us dont identify with that for many reasons. some feel a total disconnect to their body, some embrace their body for what it is, some see the beauty in what they can change in it. just DONT do the thing where they look in the mirror and are like “im really a girl :(” cause really like, personally for example, yeah i get discouraged when i see myself but not because i “look like a girl” but because im PERCEIVED by society as a girl. i fully see myself as a dude with who i am and really most elements of my physical transition can be attributed to survival and passing. lots of the things we end up doing are just so we can survive. this trope really just shows how cis people see our experience, its dumbed down and way to simplified to the point where it loses most if not all connection to trans folk themselves.

this has kinda gone into a long tangent and idk where else to go but. yeah. you can make transcanons, thats completely fine. i think the most important question you could ask yourself is why you see certain characters as trans, such as if any stereotypes are effecting your headcanons. making trans headcanons themselves is fine, trans bakugou is fine.

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rad asks: 3, 10, 16

ah hey!!!!!! thanks for asking 💕💐 sorry this took so long

3. Are there any parts of radical feminism, or beliefs commonly hold by radical feminists that you strongly disagree with?

im actually having a hard time answering this ahshskshdlska i wrote a really long rambly response but i ended up justifying what i was describing as disagreeing with LOL so like. idk no widely held radfem beliefs are coming to mind, sorry im just as disappointed as you are shdkshdlsjds i hope this doesnt sound sheepish or anything. So i’ll say what i do agree with, which won’t come as a surprise to anyone probably.

i’m anti porn, i think porn should be illegal, should not exist and all of it should be destroyed, pornstars should be given justice and compensated somehow for the govt allowing this shit, and all pornographers should be considered lower than dirt and killed publicly LOL. and i don’t feel bad about that, they don’t feel bad about filming rape and selling it, having the pornstars they abuse lie about how they love it when asked. i feel the same way abt prostitutes and their pimps, that paid consent is not consent and pimps can all drop dead.

i’m all for separatism, no it would not stop men from being men, but it would save women and girls a lot of grief, hurt and scarring.

i think gender isn’t real, is used to oppress women and helps no one, and that id rather it be abolished than exist to validate some people who like gender roles, ackshully.

ive been agnostic for a long time; my mom and my brother are atheists, my dad is a deist. but i will sooner believe that the creator of everything is female, having given birth to the universe than a male. A man’s involvement in creation is his ejaculation. No more, no less. life does not begin in the testicles, or you wouldnt see all this anti abortion stuff, you would see more anti male masturbation stuff–if it weren’t mostly about using women as incubators, lol. that being said i’m pro choice clearly.

i am anti surrogacy, for similar reasons. same sex couples should absolutely be allowed to adopt, but no one has the right to have a baby except the woman who can use her own uterus for her own baby. even with infertile women, there is no justification for paying another women to rent out her uterus.

i currently am not vegan but i admire the ideas behind it, and i see the similarities between how animals and women are treated. i do know however that those who are farming this produce are not necessarily treated well either. disclaimer i know literally jack shit about it so i can’t really speak much for it either way at this moment.

i know there are trans identified, detransitioned or reidentified females who don’t like words like “mutilation” to describe the surgeries they have had to remove their breasts or to alter their privates to mimic penises, and while i don’t insist on mutilation being the word used, i don’t see how it is inaccurate and i find it hard to talk about it in a positive light, less i be endorsing that women get these surgeries to ease their discomfort with their bodies. that being said i don’t want tifs or detransitioned/reidentified women to beat themselves up and constantly regret it. it is not their fault that they were made to be so disconnected from their bodies. they did not want that, and with the trans movement there were not a lot of people telling them that there are other ways besides transitioning to deal with these feelings. i don’t see how this can be hard to believe seeing as we call it the trans cult all the time, which is an accurate name by the way.

i like the alternative spellings of woman and women. womyn, wombyn, wimmin, womxn, a mon, wom or whatever it is. i don’t currently use them myself but i love them and i don’t care how “stupid” you think it is. you know whats stupid??? the words “trans woman,” “trans man,” and “nonbinary.” “Cis woman.” yeah ill take wombyn any day rather than agree that i “identify” as a woman for not subscribing to the transgender religion.

political lesbianism is shitty, i understand some straight women don’t wanna be celibate, but dating lesbians to stick it to the men and not because you love that lesbian is selfish i think. if youre bisexual then you are also not a lesbian but by all means be a febfem or just a bisexual who does not fuck with men.

prostitution will never be empowering. make up, nails, impractical clothes, revealing clothes is not empowering, having men think you are sexy or fuckable is not empowering. you are not “doing it for yourself.” “Poly” relationships are not empowering or woke, making yourself more accessable sexually to men is not empowering in the same way that it empowers men to have sex with multiple women.

idk ive been writing this for a million years but thats some things off the top of my head that i know i Do agree with, i know that wasnt the question but i still wanted to say something lol. i realize now this answered multiple questions from that ask post so im sorry if anyone else thought of asking those things that i answered LOL

10. What’s your relationship with the term “terf”?

ah! i do jokingly call myself that occasionally, you can see it right there on my about page. but in all seriousness it’s horseshit and goes to show how narcissistic the trans movement is. I see people, newly self described radfems who haven’t figured out what the point of it all is, who try to say “there’s a difference between terfs and radfems! You can be radfem and trans inclusive!” or whatever. To which I say,

these are not two separate groups. Actual radfems are called trans exclusionary because they don’t think men who identify as women can be oppressed by women, and that having been born as a woman is not a privilege, regardless of how that woman identifies.

radfems aren’t even trans exclusive, really. While there are many detransitioned, reidentified women, there are also many who have transitioned and intend to stay that way, or who are even transitioning currently for their own reasons and comfort, while still confronting their womanhood and how they have been affected or are effected by being a woman in our society as well as how transitioning is dangerous. it’s male exclusive more than anything, and rightfully so. any problems men have are created by other men, and as one user on here put it, feminism should not be “all lives matter.”

i forgot to say this initially but being “trans inclusive” is interpreted by some to mean “trans endorsing,” that being trans is an innate thing just like homosexuality, that brain sex is real, and that there is nothing wrong with trans identified females getting surgeries they don’t need on perfectly healthy genitals, or getting hormones they otherwise wouldn’t naturally have that have life altering side effects. otherwise i would be called trans exclusive. LOL. so it really does not mean anything, ultimately.

16. How do you feel about the terms TIF/TIM?

i think they’re great. it says exactly what it means. it is much more appropriate than trans man or trans woman, and it makes it easier to talk about them with a little less word salad. the term trans man others tifs from females, and the term trans woman others tims from males. this is problematic. there is nothing differing tifs from females and tims from males outside of the fact that they are trans identified. the only differences they may have are if they have surgically and or hormonally transitioned, but it is not enough difference to make them the opposite sex, nor does it erase male or female socialization, and the benefits or consequences of being a man or a women, respectively. i worded this a lot better when i saved this draft last but tumblr seemingly ate it LOL so thats a drag. but yeah. tif/tim is great. i don’t think it should be offensive, there is nothing insulting or cruel about it. at best it is “invalidating.”

thank you for sending me these!!!! i’m sorry if my answers were unsatisfactory or hard to understand lmao i edited a lot of fluffy blabbering out of my responses believe it or not. i hope you’ve had a great day and that you’re having a lovely night 💌🌻😊

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