#helping someone get dressed

[youngster-monster]

is there anything quite as romantic as Devotion

#rambling #thinking about....... knights #and samurai #swearing fealty to their lords #that one story about a samurai swearing to avenge his lord #after the man waited to see him one last time before killing himself for honor #thinking about kneeling before your king #i was watching a video about the representation of house staff in movies and the way irl house staff is often abused and demeaned #and that Is important #but also: the deeply romanticized butler/lord relationship #helping someone get dressed #protecting them and serving them #and when they serve YOU in return! when they lift you to their level and help you the way you have helped them! becoming equal at Your level #i just think it's sexy when people swear their whole being to the care and safety of someone else #and they find that care returned to them equally or more #thinking about gods falling in love with their devotees #while we're at it!!

[wokebutsleepy]

Going to a murder mystery party just so I can dress up like the DILF of your dreams

#butch looks #desperately looking for a femme that can help me tie my tie #i can tie it i just want to give someone the chance to run their hands over me 😌 #sprayed my hair grey and now im just looking forward to getting older and permanently rocking this look #butch/femme #butch lesbian #butch dress up

[strawberryteabunny]

lolita laundry tip: blocking your lace

This is something that really helps to make any dress with cotton lace look nicer- in the first pic, the middle row on the bodice and right side neckline have been blocked, and in the second photo all the lace has been done. In the third photo, the upper section has been blocked and the lower section below the waist seam hasn’t (I know I need to lint roll this dress, sorry!)

‘Blocking’ is a finishing technique commonly found in knitting and lace-making where after you wash your piece, as it dries you pull it into the correct shape so that after it dries it maintains that shape. For lace especially, this changes the lace from a scrunched-up state, opening up the stitches so you can see the beautiful pattern. Technically, proper blocking involves putting the item on a special mat and pinning it into place, but for my lolita I’ve found that you can just do it by hand.

This is done after washing, but while the garment is still damp- I generally wash my dresses in a machine (on a normal or gentle cycle, cold settings only) and then let them air-dry, and that’s when I deal with the lace. If I put them in the dryer or let them dry as is, the lace would dry in the ‘scrunched up’ state rather than being neat and flat (this has to be done every time you wash the garment).

To block- hold the seam or edge of the garment in one hand, and gently tug at the lace with the other to spread it out into shape. Only use enough force to get the lace to spread out, and be careful not to pull so hard you damage the seams or fabric! Then just let the dress air dry.

If you need to fix scrunched lace on a dry dress, I’d suggest steaming rather than ironing. If you gently steam the lace until it’s damp, then wait a couple seconds for it to cool off, you can re-block it, but personally I find this more tedious than blocking out of the wash since you have to watch out for the heat.

This technique is generally just for natural fibers- if you own wool or cotton sweaters they will also benefit from being gently pulled into shape before drying (never put wool in the dryer as it will shrink!). Synthetic lace, however, maintains its shape and can be machine-dried as long as the rest of the garment is also dryer-safe.

#lolita fashion #egl fashion #lolita fashion tips #lolita laundry #eglfashion #mine #gah tiny bunny fuzz all over my velveteen dress… #will have to fix that after it’s dry though it just attracts all the fuzz in the laundry cycle :( #not sure if this is a widely known thing but maybe it’ll help someone #especially if you’re new to having dresses with cotton lace #crochet items might get blocked too I honestly don’t know

[mumblesplash]

anyone on here ever figure out how to dress for a summer wedding when you’re nonbinary and can’t stand suits or dresses or jumpsuits or button-down shirts and all you ever voluntarily wear are black joggers + polyester blend athletic shirts in colors ranging from navy blue to gunmetal

#my abstinence-only approach to gender expression is really starting to bite me in the ass #this isn’t so much a genuine cry for help as it is me complaining into the void ngl i have p much given up hope #but like if someone knows. please. #if it doesn’t become socially unremarkable to dress like a pirate on formal occasions #sometime in the next 3-5 years i’m gonna mcfucking lose it #either that or all my friends + relatives have to stop getting married #mumbling

[fisheito]

my princess nonsense is being encouraged watch ouyt imabout to be eneaabled

OK WHATF ATHAT'S SO CUTE I HAD TO MAKE IT i know realistically there's little to no chance that rei DOESN'T know how to work heels 🤣 BUT IMAGINE.....ING.... YAKUMO GENTLY GUIDING REI IN HEELS, WEEKS BEFORE THE BIG GALA AND HAVING NONE OF HIS NORMAL FEAR OF PHYSICAL TOUCH BC HIS [TEACHER MODE] IS OVERRIDING HIS INSECURITY

#rei looking directly at the camera like why are you subjecting me to this. i do not need any of this. i know how to do it #rei wearing stilettos the size of your head so he becomes ur very tall bird goth gf #you know how yakumo gets when he instructs someone on how to cook something #he becomes confident and just tells ppl how to do stuff without his usual amount of stutter and secondguessing #i'm gonna pretend that after his stiletto training in misty vale he gains a TINY MOLECULE of confidence due to experience #like [i can help you if you've never done it before?] #honestly i can't imagine this scenario happening because i am so SURE that rei can walk in heels HAHAHA even tho nothing has proven that #SOMETHING COME PROVE ME WRONG SO MY DELUSIONS CAN SLIDE CLOSER TO POSSIBILITY #anyway even if rei didn't know how to wear heels #would he ever mention it? would yakumo ever learn of it? #rei would probably be all . i don't need to wear heels. they can't even see them under the dress. i'll wear my practical shoes #but if he can't get away with that and will be forced to wear heels at the party... #maybe he'll go [meh. i'll figure it out] and just not wear them until the day of the dance #at which point his feet will hurt after 20 minutes and for the whole night he takes any chance to sit down #rei can be frequently spotted on SOME surface SOMEWHERE in the palace. sitting all splayed out and uncaring of propriety #because he is in PAIN and these shoes are STUPID and why do people wear them for ANYTHING . Royals are so IMPRACTICAL #yakumo keeps trying to avoid heels for the dance because he doesn't want to be any taller than he already is #i bet there's a full convo about it between him and eiden #eiden trying to reassure him that if he wants to wear heels then he shouldn't let others' perception stop him from doing so #but if he genuinely doesn't want to wear them then that's ok too #eiden craning his neck up at yakumo in heels like you're my pretty princess 1-2 heads taller than me your height doesn't matter 🥰 #i'm now torn. yakumo and rei both wearing heels now? in order to stay at similar heights? #or. rei starting out with heels. getting tired of them. going barefoot for the rest of the night lol #yakumo and rei still dancing in their ballgowns together but a much shorter rei leads a yakumo in heels #yes. yes this is the vision #yakumo #rei #yakurei #replies

[testing-reblogs]

Stirling and Emilia!!!!!! I am normal about them I promise

#i like my designs :))!! ik nobody really knows my ToyHouse but i uploded them their hours earlier likeeee yesterday #i prefer posting at 1 pm in general and i finished this at 9 pm so #i like them!!! i was gonna wait a bit before i drew them but i randomly ad a Stirling vision when i was trying to sleep so #im so happy hes evil and wrong i was hoping for this all along but i didn't say it but YESSSS #men who would spray u in the eyes with febreeze #i was drawing Emilia and. tne black part of her dress was gonna be a full dress then i suddeny said outloud 'make it a jacket.' #i wanted to incorperate her cool ass transparent shells!!!!!! makes me think of clear Gameboys and stuff #imagine trying to kill someone and the person who helps her defeat you is YOUR MOM. #not getting over that shit bro ^^^^^ #portal 2 #portal revolution #stirling portal revolution #Emilia portal revolution #portal revolution spoliers

[todayisafridaynight]

everyday i constantly think of masato's wheelchair and if that's his only one/main one no wonder he's so pissed at everyone

#snap chats #someone pointed this out to me like last year so im stealing it sorry cause I Think Of It Constantly #the handling of masato's disability will forever annoy me esp with how vague it is but esp his chair #one day ill draw masato with an appropriate wheelchair. maybe then he'll be happy for once #in a way i guess it could tie into how restricted or trapped he felt since the type of chair he's shown is more like. a hospital one #and not one youd really use as a regular user- like in that vein it is a bit of storytelling in that he can ONLY go out with help #since hospital chairs are SO much different from home chairs ESPECIALLY in regards to mobility and independence the user has #AND NOT TO MENTION HOW UNCOMFORTABLE THOSE CHAIRS ARE get his ass a proper cushion P L E A S E #like it portrays the idea that its unfathomable for him to go anywhere on his own and so in that vein . Interesting Storytelling #theres a lot of implications going on here if im so honest and again it makes for Really Interesting Story Telling #however i refuse to give rgg credit like that when it comes to disabilities. ... they havent earned that from me yet #see this is why the vagueness of his condition annoys me because he's shown to be independent enough to roll himself to his elevator #and presumably get himself dressed but he cant have a proper chair ? #because ik there are people who have expressed they have conditions where even writing is tiring #so if his condition was in-line with that and it was hard for him to push himself in his chair then i could buy it #obviously the issue lies with his lungs but i just want to know the full extent yk... #to wrap this up tho ive been thinking of character design in rgg and how we dont give credit to it enough #sooooo if i make a second post ten minutes from now thats why cause i keep forgetting to spam my thoughts on here LMAO #ok bye

[egglygreg]

Ok, so I had this dream last night right? And it was mostly nonsensical and weird and silly, but there was this moment...

#I was the winged fairy girl at this point during a big battle #someone sliced me right down the front through my corset and dress #it was inspired I think by that fight in Zorro between Zorra and Elena #except NOT flirty dude was trying to kill me and sliced a wound down my chest #not super deep but still #and then this other guy #the one in the drawing #defected from the enemy side killed the other dude and very distressed tried to help me #which involved a very funny moment of him pulling my hands back to see the wound and realising my corset had been cut clean through #and us both getting extremely embarrassed and him pulling the corset back together and telling me to keep pressure on it #literally the most YA romantic comedy moment I've ever experienced #I think the main influences of this dream were that I recently watched a youtube reaction vid of someone watching Zorro for the first time #A drawing someone I follow did of that popular YA fae novel that I've never read #and looking at tangled concept art #and actually definitely the first aid course I did this week #because I remember them talking about how you need to cut clothing off someone to put the defib pads on their chest #and I was uncomfortable with the thought of someone having to do that to me #AND the fact I was paired with a cute guy I'd never met and we had to practice putting each other in the recovery position #which was SUPER awkward #so clearly my brain was like You know what would be fun? an even MORE awkward and painful scenario! #but make it fantasy! #ellennart

[bougainvilea]

im procrastinating so hard !!!

#i have to do a bunch of marking before parent student teacjer interviews at 1 #(its 9:30) #and i am lying in bed chronically scrolling #plus i have to get to my dads house ?? #and get dressed ?? #plus bring a snack to my dads house ?? #ok ok ok everything is gonna be ok (dont panic! #someone help me schedule my life #aya talks

[misscrazyfangirl321]

Love when brain says "No you can't do x until you do y" and then won't let me do y

#'first task of the morning Must be getting dressed' #'ok cool what should i wear?' #'just stare blankly at your wardrobe' #that does not. help. #the actual reason is that today is truck day and i'll be on register for most of the day #but someone comes in and 2 who MIGHT be on register and i don't get off work until 4:30 #but also sometimes the woman coming in at 2 helps out on the floor until the morning cashier leaves #so basically the issue is i wear different things for truck and register #and idk if i'll be doing both or not #if i knew i was i'd just dress for truck #but i don't really want to do that if i'll be on register #hm #i speak #i mean i probably will dress for potentially doing truck anyway #just in case

[kyouka-supremacy]

Today was a good day :)

#Today three strangers were kind to me in three different occasions. It was such a nice coincidence :) #I've been working on Akutagawa's birthday the entire week and today Akutagawa posts were all over my dash. I'm so happy! #I managed to do all the edits I had set up to and I'm glad :) #I dressed rigorously black and white and wore the black striped pants I bought because they reminded me of Beast Akutagawa's outfit #I did my nails black and red!! #My mother called me to congratulate on Akutagawa's birthday #I even baked a cake with a friend and they were so sweet ///// #I'm so grateful they managed to make time for it even though they've been so busy and tired because of their job #More than everything I'm grateful they weren't weird about it #They found it a little silly but they never made fun of me. They helped me pick the cake. #And today they even told me that they looked up a video of the character to understand me better #Which TERRIFIES me because no way anyone could get a good impression of Akutagawa from a single video #But if we ignore that it was an unbelievably nice gesture :') #It's just such a foreign feeling because outside of my blog I NEVER talk about my hyperfixations irl. #Because when I used to when I was younger I was only met with scorn or mockery so ever since I started university I simply learnt not to? #And it's just so genuinely weird to talk with someone irl who wouldn't judge me for it– #and not really in the good way because part of me is still convinced that they *are* judging me for it. #Doesn't matter everything suggests the contrary. And I keep overthinking if I overshared about Akutagawa or if I said something dumb #But I'm trying it not to get to me. Today they've been nothing but nice through and through #Whatnot. The last months were very tough for some reason I'm just happy good things can still happen :) #I want to start the queue again now that I'm generally more free and done with Aktgw's birthday and everything. #I also have new exams the first days of April and the program is pretty heavy and wide. On top of following courses. I'll see what I can d #I'd like to start regularly posting again because I'm afraid if I don't I'll just sulk further in misery. We'll see. #Ah I need to catch up with the dash since I've basically not been on Tumblr for three days... #That's it just rambling. I hope everyone's days are nice too!!! #random rambles

[whentherewerebicycles]

question: when you're starting a new job, what do you most want out of your first week of onboarding? what's most helpful for you to know/understand upfront? also... what's not helpful? tell me your onboarding nightmare stories too lol

#i honestly do not ever think i've had a positive onboarding experience #in my entire professional life #i guess for me a lot of my early-job anxieties are around expectations and 'rules' #like i want to know what time i'm supposed to be there and what time i'm allowed to leave and what the dress code is #and how the hybrid schedule works #so i don't make dumb mistakes right away #i also think i want to be involved in the real work as early as possible #like i don't have to be DOING anything yet but i want to be watching people do things and shadowing in meetings #so i can start to develop a sense of who's who and what the actual work of the office/workplace looks like #and also because i really value getting a feel for personalities as early as possible lol i want to know what the vibes are #hmm and also maybe most importantly #i feel like in any new situation i need a very loose conceptual framework to hold the new information being given to me #otherwise it's just random pieces of info you know? like it's helpful when someone is actively helping me fit information into a frame #like they're saying 'here's the HUGE picture - now let's zoom in and start looking at this one corner of it - and as we add new corners #i'll actively help you fill in the connective tissue that holds these different parts of the big picture together' #hmmm #my worst onboarding experiences have been when the person training me comes in and throws lots of #long complex extremely context-dependent documents or readings at me #and is like ok spend the week reading those and get back to me #and i'm like ?????????? #i have NO understanding of what my role is or how this organization functions #at this point it is not helpful for me to pass my eyes over tons of dense info without a guide to tell me what's important #i have no way of gauging of something is important or trivial and then i feel stressed like i have to learn ALL of it #even though i know that a huge portion of it will end up being not that relevant to my day-to-day job

[nintendont2502]

Feeling very trans /pos and autistic /neg after day one of the con 👍👍

#cons always make me trans as shit because i get to like. go to the male bathroom and use my trans name and dress up as male characters and #shit #and like #man walking onto stage for the cosplay catwalk and hearing the announcer say 'milo as john egbert' was incredibly swag holy shit #also i was talking to someone and they told me they genuinely thought i was a cis dude until they saw me with trans shit and like. im riding #that higj forever #but also got overstimulated as shit and had to sit in tje corner with stim toys for a while lmao #gt johns hood is surprisingly really helpful with that. blocked out all the light and shit #hell yeah #me.txt