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#i didnt want to go overboard with being affectionate in a romantic way or anything
catmemey · 7 months
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newness? maybe.
#big tags ahead fyi#last chapter in the [redacted] saga probably for a little bit#i responded to his message from last night#i didnt want to go overboard with being affectionate in a romantic way or anything#so i went a softer route of thinking about how he's my closest friend and I still want to tell him what he means to me#so... it was still extremely genuine and i was vulnerable in saying all that#but... then his response was like. 'i think i get a bigger picture and maybe misunderstood what you had said'#and im internally like. wait. what do you mean. what did you misunderstand.#why does it sound like you think i only like you as a friend#because i dont but it felt selfish to dump all that on him#and he even apologized for dumping some of the things he said on me#but anyways. i panicked a little bit.#i guess i didnt want him to get the impression i wasnt interested at all#so i sent an obscure message being like 'well if its not selfish to say then i actually would have said more#but it felt selfish to say all that'#and then he was like 'well maybe i'll say one last thing. it isnt selfish to speak your mind.'#'and id rather be honest with each other if nothing else happens'#so i was like well ok here's my chance#and said that i want to and would date him if he was single and exclusive#and then he was basically like 'yeah me too but i care too much about [my gf] to end it'#which i knew#its just.......... a lot.#and i offered some advice about his relationship if he wanted#as long as he didnt care if it was hard hitting#and he was like 'sure let me see how you throw those punches'#so i lobbed some heavy questions at him#and he was like 'those werent bad. i cant say i know the answer to any of them'#so mission accomplished there i guess?#but... he said he wanted to have some time to himself to think everything over#which is very fair. there's so much
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anyhao-archived · 7 years
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@fishpun replied to your post “JINYOUNG. I SAID JINYOUNG. IM NOT EXPLAINING WHY IN AN ASK BC...”
well what i originally said was, this ask meme as hard for me because i don't know any group as intimately as i know bts. natalie was easy because of this but i couldn't match anyone else up because no one else suited someone from bts (at least imo). like i said before i did initially think taemin for you but i quickly changed my mind. then i obviously set my mind to got7 because you love youngjae but yeah i don't know if it would be a woolly beneficial match up...
then i thought of jinyoung, mainly because natalie and i have been having conversations lately about how Savage(TM) he is and how we feel like he does kind of have a tendency to go a little overboard with fans with that kind of savage attitude... but at the same time i have seen him being genuinely sweet with fans and he's always really shy during it so i guess all this is just a kind of defence mechanism but ANYWAY,
the thing i said i might be wrong about is that what i've discerned from you is that you really don't like being seen as vulnerable or rather, you don't like asking for help... like you'll ACCEPT help you just don't like having to ask for it. and i don't think someone that's Too Soft or overly soppy/romantic would be something you'd enjoy either. like it'd just be overbearing and annoying after a while. well,
i think jinyoung would 1.) be pretty intuitive on when to be snarky/playful and when to be affectionate, and also when to engage with you in conversation about any emotional burdens and when to just leave you alone, 2.) he'd also be the type to take you to art museums and all that fun stuff, 3.) you work with kids and have doges both of which he seems really good with (ok kids seem to be scared of him BUT HE LIKES THEM SO THAT COUNTS FOR SOMETHING..!!)
and 4.) he's an actor and you really dig kdramas... THE FIRST POINT IS THE ONLY ONE I ORIGINALLY THOUGHT OF BUT THE MORE I THINK??? the more i think this match up is a good idea. you're welcome
holy shit amy u didnt need to write a goddamn essay lol NO BUT I LOVE THIS i love when people tell me about myself bc idk who the hell i am?? ok im gna try to reply to all of the important posts so this might be a long answer lol
yeah i was kind of curious on who you’d pick for me bc i know the only groups we both know a lot about is basically bts and a little bit of shinee/got7 but ive got to say you rly blew me away with this bc didnt you tell me you were bad at this stuff the last time we did it? its funny u should pick jinyoung tho bc ive been noticing him more and more every day lol
but you’ve rly picked up a lot of my personality. i absolutely hate asking for help or going out of my way to do something (i.e. if a restaurant gives me the wrong food i dont do anything about it) especially when it comes 2 mental health(TM) lol but youre right i do take it when offered, only if i believe itll actually work
also it’d be rly rly bad for me to be with someone else that is emotional/sappy/sentimental because hoo boy im enough for both of us n i get tired of myself being emotional lol i would need someone stable to balance me out
its also hard to be in any sort of relationships when people cant pick up on my hints like thats what broke a lot of my friendships n romantic relationships .. itd be so nice just to be... understood you know? bc no one ever does and ok its making me emotional thinking abt being w/ him and how honest 2 god nice it would be i hate u for making me think about this
ALSO YES IM A BIG ROMANTIC i think he is as well, just a bit more shy about it... hes the type to want to take his gf to a drivein movie theater, an actual date on a restaurant, all the cliche ones and well thats me!!
when i first got your ask and all it said was jinyoung i was like ??? we r so different how would that work, but then you explained all of this and Now I See and i will never get this thought out of my head ever again whenever i see jinyoung im going to think about how good of a boyfriend he’d be this is the worst 
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