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syrena-del-mar · 4 months

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Blind Spots of Motherhood: Last Twilight, Episode 10

We're coming off of the emotional rollercoaster of last week's episode and seeing the consequences of Day and Mhok's getaway. And the consequences are big, which not even Night can assuage.

I love scouring the tags as I watch Last Twilight, and I've been seeing many call Day's mom evil or a narcissist. In my opinion, she does not fit the bill (if you're looking for one that is, go watch Twins, now that's a narcissist). There's a tendency of wanting to villainize mothers, and BLs do a great job of giving us mothers that do fill that role, but I sincerely don't think that's the story P'Aof is trying to tell us here. Rather than evil, I think her arc is more about being a flawed mother that does more harm than good through overparenting, her perceiving Day to be more vulnerable than he really is, and sidelining of Night.

Stages of Adjustment to Vision Loss

Just like the seven stages of grief, similarly there's a theory about the seven phases of adjusting to vision loss. The Stages of Adjustment applies not only to the one suffering the vision loss, but even their friends and family.

Phase 1: Trauma, where personal attitudes and generalization form one's personal view of a person who is blind takes over.

Phase 2: Shock and Denial. Self-explanatory.

Phase 3: Mourning and Withdrawal, it's where the loss of regular activities and routines occur.

Phase 4: Succumbing and Depression occurs when an individual is unable to come to terms with the sudden low vision/blindness and they stop caring for themselves. Feelings of inadequacy becomes prevalent.

Phase 5: Reassessment and Reaffirmation occurs when individuals regain and maintain control of their life. Loved ones play a significant role in assisting them to reach this independence at this stage.

Phase 6: Coping and Mobilization happens when individuals develop coping techniques to live with the vision loss and acknowledge their abilities and accept when the need assistance.

Phase 7: Self-Acceptance and Self-Esteem occurs when the individual realizes that they have value and their loss of vision is just one of the many attributes.

When the Last Twilight first started, we met Day as he was dealing with Phase 3 and 4. With the help of Mhok, we've seen Day grow in his independence, but also come to terms that his vision loss may be forever. He no longer was thinking and hoping for that transplant surgery, he wasn't even counting on it anymore. Instead, with the help of Mhok (and Night), Day was able to reach Phase 6 and was transitioning into Phase 7.

But just as Day was moving on with his, his mother wasn't. She's still struggling with his disability and has gotten stuck in Phase 3 and 4, just as Day had been. She's so blinded by Day's disability, that she's drowning in the fears of what could happen to Day rather than seeing the strides of improvement that he has made.

Overprotective Parenting fails in Harm Reduction: Day

"Expecting him to be independent at one time and overprotecting him at another will only result in a frustrated youngster. It is important to judge and treat the blind child fairly; not indulging him, yet not setting goals and expectations so high that he is discouraged." -The Blind Child: Becoming an Independent Adult

Day's mother is frustrating, to say the least. She is so incredibly misguided in how she treats both of her sons, it's no surprise that Day locks himself away into the cavern of his bedroom.

She only sees Day for his disability. Acknowledging and accepting that Day is blind is important, and that does signify life adjustments, but that doesn't mean making Day's blindness the only thing about him. She forgets that Day was a full-functioning adult that had his own lifestyle before he lost his sight. She's only come to known Day for his blindness. She's the one that puts his blindness at the forefront.

She wants him to get out of his bedroom, to stop locking people out, but once he has some sense of independence, apart from his family, now she's afraid? Her son, vision loss or no vision loss, is an adult, but instead of giving him such dignity, she regresses and infantilizes him. She pushes him back into that suffocatingly big bedroom. She takes away his phone, his internet, every tool that connects him to the outside world. She takes away what little independence he had started to build up again.

Any good parent would be worried about their child who has undergone a traumatic event, but over-protecting does more harm than good. In her anxieties, she ends up resorting to using unintentionally abusive tactics. Yes, Day would be physically fine, but in her overprotectiveness, she fails to realize that it could lead to dependency inducement, learned helplessness, and bouts of depression. Day's mother fails to realize that taking away any autonomy that Day has only started rebuilding, would only result in Day's emotional state worsening.

Blindness doesn't have to mean debilitating, but locking your son up in his room without any way to interact with the world around him that he is trying to relearn? That's more crippling than any vision loss could ever be.

Readjusting as the Glass Child: Night

"The most egregious form of rejection that anyone can ever experience is parental rejection" -Is Rejection, Parental Abandonment or Neglect a Trigger for Higher Perceived Guilt in Adolescents

Oh man, the pain I felt for Night this whole episode was next level. The idea of a glass child is not one's delicateness but rather as a sibling of a individual with disabilities, the sibling becomes invisible to the parents, only seen when the parents need them. If it wasn't obvious before, it's clear that this was the role that their mother was forcing Night into.

There's nothing that hurts worse than the sharp words of a mother directed to her child. His mother explicitly blaming Night for Day's disability was a new low-blow. Night had already been beating himself up for the accident, his father (who doesn't even live with them) knew that, but seemingly their mother was oblivious. The only one that Night could rely on was an outsider, a father that they hadn't been in contact with for years. Their mother created that environment by not paying attention to her other son, who was also in that accident.

Nothing fuels sibling rivalry like preferential treatment from parents. Even worse when one has to be the caretaker of the other when they already have a fractured relationship. Instead of easing the tension between the two brothers, their mother is too busy worrying solely for Day without accounting for Night. Caretaker burnout is already incredibly exhausting when you're caring for a loved one, but Night has personal guilt and Day's resentment to deal with as well. Not once does their mother ask him how he's doing, if Night is alright.

Night is the forgotten child, the child that's expected to take care of his brother no matter what, no matter how independent Day has become. She has parentified Night without any consideration of how he was doing or what was going on in his life. This was probably already a running theme as they grew up, assuming from their positioning in the family portrait. In doing so, she unknowingly worsens the strife with the brothers, making Day believe that Night had only been "behaving well" in order to win some preferential treatment from her.

Even on Christmas, their mother only cares for Day, feeding him first and putting food on his spoon, body fully turned against Night. In that scene, visually Night seems like he's intruding and he feels it as well! It's why he excuses himself, saying that he's going to meet up with some friends. Even after being forgiven by Day, his mother doesn't make any effort to include Night other than just having him at the table. It's as if he wasn't part of their nuclear family, just a convenient body that is there to help out as Day adjusts to his new life. If it hadn't been for Day, Night would have left that table that night and would have believed that nobody cared for him. I'm hoping this makes her confront and reassess how she's treated Night, now and in the past.

It's ironic, even though Day is blind and held a lot of contempt for his brother, he was still saw Night and all his struggles. Meanwhile, their mother was seeing right through him, blaming him for what happened to Day. Driving a dagger, that Night had already stabbed himself with, even deeper.

Final Thoughts

I'm not quite ready to jump on the 'Mother Gothel' train for Day and Night's mom. I think she is juggling being a career woman and being a mother at the same time, while failing to adjust to Day's blindness and making mistakes in her parenting as a result.

I also don't think it's out of maliciousness or self-importance, either. When I see their mother, it's as if she's trying to save a sinking boat that is already pierced by numerous holes. There's no going back to their lives before Day's blindness. She needs to adjust her priorities, because disregarding Night and locking up Day is not the answer.

This episode was frustrating, not because I found her to be outright abusive, but because of her worries she ends up hurting her sons even more. No parent is perfect, and they can hurt you while thinking they're acting in your best interest, but they have to be willing to love and let their kids learn on their own.

#last twilight #lol I think I lost most of my reasoning when working on Night’s part bc I was getting upset oops #last twilight episode 10 #last twilight meta #mhokday #morkday #last twilight mhok #last twilight day #last twilight night #jimmy jitaraphol #sea tawinan #mark pakin #thai bl #thai bl meta #aof noppharnach #steph rambles #last twilight the series

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heretherebedork · 4 months

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I used to believe people were blind because they couldn't see. I just today that true blindness is the inability to see any hope.

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jenyifer · 6 months

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Last twilight not even done with episode 4 reaction

Holy shit. You guys. MhokDay JimmySea out here making me bawl my eyes out over what? Hand touching. Am I a touch starved individual or is this normal. I don’t feel normal about it. Maybe I need more antidepressants. How tender and sweet can a scene be I thought the Jasmine scene was powerful but damn

#last twilight #last twilight the series #mhokday #mhok x day #jimmySea #last twilight mhok #last twilight day #Jenny’s watching #last twilight ep 4 #last twilight episode 4

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velvetshirtnumber3 · 4 months

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Thoughts About Last Twilight Finale as I watched it

One part of me is happy to seeing them flirting and getting along, but the other rage-filled part of me that has not healed from episode 11 is honestly kind of upset about them being able to do that again like the breakup wasn't as painful as it was. Like obviously its been several years and i'm glad they aren't holding onto any of the pain from it because that wouldn't be healthy but just.....it hurts a little seeing the characters be okay when i'm still not. (And like it was a painful breakup and we're seeing no trace of that with their interactions).

I appreciate Night and Porjai little attempts to get them to talk and Mhok being a bridesmaid makes me happy.

Ok so they've talked about the breakup and Mhok's thanking Day for it? And saying he was right? So we just aren't going to discuss that fact that Mhok's actions were a combo of things besides pity? Like his trauma with his sister? I want it to be addressed gosh darn it, they haven't talked about it enough in this show. They spent this whole show talking about how Mhok didn't pity him and now you're saying that in an instance where Mhok's actions could be explained by a couple different reasons, you went with "actually he does pity him" as the reason? I just feel like there were better ways this could have been addressed but they had limited time.

"I can't believe its been three years"

*me, upset, staring at my screen* "Me too"

(You went three years without talking?!?! After breaking up over one argument!?!?)

"Whatever problems you have, talk to each other" where was this advice during episode 11, it could have saved a lot of time and heartbreak

You know what, I'm tired of being upset, bring out Poomjai, i want to see her and have Mhok see her

ok she's out of focus but she looks very sweet

the problem here is that I can't tell if Day is just hesitant to try again with Mhok or actually doesn't want to, so every time Mhok references it I feel awkward. I know its supposed to be a romance show so they'll probably end up together but.....

ok Day made a joke about it so I guess he's not too uncomfortable but still...

Poor mhok.....I honestly hope that if they do decide to get back together, its because Day went after him and told him that he really did want to get back with him because I feel like too much of the show has been Mhok taking the steps forward with their relationship

looks like i get my wish....ah the classic airport scene

I highly doubt he actually left on the plane but you know what, maybe its good to let them sit with this emotion for a little while (I'm sorry, I'm still so mad)

So it was a setup...but how????? like???? what???? If you knew Mhok would be in there, when did he let you know, because there was no point in running around the airport if you knew he would stay....

Honestly I feel like the breakup was pointless now... like yeah they had the conversation about growth and whatever but it feels like Mhok acts the exact same so I don't feel necessarily if he can differentiate between he role as a caretaker and as a boyfriend, which was a legitimate problem. And I also kind of hate that he is apologizing. It just feels like Mhok is once again focusing on others feelings and not his own, and so they will run into the same issue as they did before.

As you can probably tell from all this, I now feel very protective of Mhok and it makes me upset that he hasn't gotten the chance to work through some of his issues. I know he is more the type to pretend everything is okay, but there has to be a limit. Like at the least acknowledgement of his pain

They're having a baby!?!?

We get a happy ending

Final thoughts:

It was a good show and I enjoyed it for most of it. I understand why they did the breakup (though I don't think it was entirely necessary), and yes it may have been good for them as a couple, however I wish it had either happened earlier or they made the show longer because it felt very quick leading up to it, and I felt like the last episode just didn't have time for them to discuss it in a more meaningful way and actually show why it was beneficial for both of them. I also think it would have given more time for the audience to process everything (it resulted in me thinking too much about the breakup to be able to be happy at some of the good things about episode 12). We got one conversation about why breaking up allowed them to grow, and I just wish we had a bit more than that. I also would have liked it if it had discussed Mhok's troubles and emotions a bit more. It led to the relationship feeling a little bit unbalanced some of the time. Overall (!) I enjoyed it (with the exception of certain storylines that I have already discussed). I don't think I can ever classify as a comfort show again (as I did before episode 11). It was definitely not perfect, but it wasn't an awful show, and so I am going to try and remember the good parts of it.

#just my opinion #if you are really upset with the ending #you are allowed #i enjoyed a lot of the show so I don't want the last couple episodes to ruin it entirely for me #but yeah everyone please be respectful #i myself aside from a couple other posts i want to make am just going to take some space from the show for a while until i feel calmer #about the ending #last twilight #last twilight the series #last twilight episode 12 #last twilight mhok #last twilight day #last twilight porjai #last twilight night #rambles

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dropthedemiurge · 6 months

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What the hell, P'Aof, I will NOT have feelings over the bandaid on a car

I will NOT get teary eyed as a struggling character desperate to survive in a society lovingly tells every detail about a car his sister loved so much and she had a dream wishing for self-actualization more than having romance and ended up (most likely) killing herself when she failed, leaving her brother alone scrambling searching for every job he can find with his criminal record only to end up being feared and rejected with no money, no opportunities and no future to keep the only thing left after his family's deaths, eventually having no choice but to come and ask to sell this car as he reminisces about every detail and memory his sister had with it, like waxing it every week to shine, except for one tiny place where she scratched it in first days trying to drive

...Okay, I will have way too many feelings about one frame with the bandaid on a car. Thanks.

#last twilight #last twilight the series #mhok #last twilight mhok #thai bl #thai series #gmmtv series #gmmtv bl #bl drama #bl series

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jenkairim · 4 months

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ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ⟆ 𓈒ㅤ 𖣂 mohkday . ۟ㅤ ⟅

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grapejuicegay · 5 months

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I haven't got a job. Why not? I think they only want clean people. They haven't taken that thing off yet? It's gone. But I guess some people still see it.

#if you take anything away from this let it be that it's not just with day #mhok is just very tender in general #i've spent far too long on this #had to remove some moments even #because i hit the upload limit #he's a far far more caring and tender person than he gives himself credit for #it bursts through every interaction he has #even the very first fight that landed him in jail #not in the best way mind you #was him defending a friend #but still #last twilight #last twilight series #kk.gifs #pdribs #uservid

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gunsatthaphan · 4 months

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"there's one more thing I want to do."

#last twilight #last twilight the series #jimmysea #mhokday #mhok x day #morkday #jimmy jitaraphol #sea tawinan #last twilight ep9 #gmmtv #thai bl #bl drama

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wanderlust-in-my-soul · 6 months

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This is the first time I've been in a fitting room with someone else.

#last twilight #last twilight the series #last twilight ep 3 #jimmysea #jimmy jitaraphol #sea tawinan #mhokday #mhok x day #bl drama #bl series #thai bl #thai drama #thai series #myedit

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makesomehistory · 4 months

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Do you want to know what was the last image I saw? It's Phi Mhok's face. Do you get it now?

#last twilight #last twilight the series #mhokday #mhok x day #bledit #mhokdayedit #lasttwilightedit #**#yesss day!!!!

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syrena-del-mar · 4 months

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Thank you for being one of the only people not to immediately jump Day and Night’s mom. It’s kinda frustrating for me because I can see that she clearly cares about them and she’s just going about this the wrong way. One thing about parents that don’t spend a lot of time with their kids (in her case because of her career), it’s hard to recognize that they aren’t children anymore but are fully grown people who can make decisions. I just think the outright demonization of her from some people is a bit too far imo. She really does care but that doesn’t mean what she’s doing is right. Like you said, it’s from that place of caring that she’s unintentionally doing MORE damage

Hey Anon! Thank you so much for sending this is in, I love the conversation that my post has created and I’m glad that you were able to connect with it. You make such good points that I’m going to expand a bit on my thoughts that I don’t think I explained fully well.

I agree! The vitriolic reaction Day and Night’s mother has received has been disproportionate to the intent behind her actions. I get the disgruntled reaction about how she goes about taking care of Day (and Night by extension), but people forget that intentions do matter! An actual narcissistic mother uses manipulation tactics and maneuvers their children to meet their own needs, prioritizing her desires and using her children to enhance herself. That’s just not the case here. In my opinion a lot of people wish parents were infallible, so the moment a parent makes a choices that results in hurting the child, they want to believe that it was a conscious, planned choice to cause the harm rather than accepting that just maybe the parent fucked up.

She’s scared about Day’s vision loss, what it means now that he has to be dependent on people. On one hand, I understand her fears about Mhok. Day needs someone dependable and stable, and while Mhok may be dependable, he’s is on her payroll, so how can he truly be stable? He’s not and that scares Day’s mom. But she fails to understand the actual value of Mhok in Day’s life. In her love for her children, she’s letting fear control her reasoning. She’s misguided. She’s a businesswoman, she places value/analyzes risk in her field and she’s doing the same for Mhok, but fails to consider that the scale of value should not be based on her opinions but rather on that of Day’s.

I think you make a good point that as a single mom, and a career woman, she probably didn’t see her kids grow up. I mostly overlooked that and didn’t even consider that angle since I just took it for granted that she was infantilizing solely because Day’s her youngest and plainly because his newfound disability. But you’re absolutely right, the fact she was not around leads likely adds to why she finds it hard to accept Day’s independence.

Like many of the tags on the post said, I don’t think she irredeemable as a character and as a mother, but I do hope that the story acknowledges her mistakes and the pain it inflicted on his children rather than having Day and Night just brush it under the rug.

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earthfluuke · 4 months

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"I said only once!" LAST TWILIGHT (2023)

#last twilight #last twilight the series #morkday #mork x day #mhokday #mhok x day #jimmy jitaraphol #sea tawinan #my creations #goddd them

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jenyifer · 6 months

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Last Twilight Ep 2 initial reaction

Gonna go in random order as thoughts come in so be warned

First Mhok is best boy. He’s going to have to do something really awful for me to stop loving him. The way he burst in to check on Day after the encounter with Night’s friends was so raw and emotional. Then he went to go experience what Day goes through to really apologize. He didn’t know if he’d ever see day again but he wanted to learn because Mhok cares and has learned from Day so much 😩😩 god I love them

Side note on that scene so Night has lots of friends but hasn’t told them about Day? His accident isn’t recent. I think it just shows how broken disconnect the family was pre Day’s accident. They don’t know how to be in eachothers lives. Night seems like typically he doesn’t spend time at home. Which I don’t blame him since everything is about Day all the time. Might still be too leinent on him because I love Mark so grain of salt

Second every wide screen shot is so rare in this show I take screen shots every time idk something about how it’s shot feels like we are in Mhok and Day’s bubble. Getting to see the two of them in the wide almost feels wrong. But each one is so pretty and freeing. Like both of their worlds open up each time idk I think it’s neat.

Day and his mentor/friend are very sweet together I’m glad there is another blind person being shown making his way about. Living his life. I know it’s not the same but I’ve helped other people before with similar issues to me and it really helps with your own struggles. Seeing how someone else lives their life and offering them advice to have a better experience makes you feel less alone. He seemed to like Mhok so big plus

Day regretting Mhok being gone hurts me so badly. Every time I listen or hear the little Prince I’m going to think about Day. And how much he grew to love Mhok’s presence because Mhok tries. Yes he goes over board but he keeps inching closer and closer. He doesn’t give up which is what Day needs. Look how precious he is

I know this isn’t a kiss but Day and Mhok at the fish tank talking about little Day and big Mhok felt like kissing. It was so intimate I was blushing. Maybe it’s just me but they are just so in love 💕💕

Final silly thing:

This hallway just makes everyone look hot as hell. Or is it just I’m a simp for these two. Idk draw your own conclusions but look at them.

Bisexual longing

💖💜💙

#the last twilight #last twilight #last twilight the series #last twilight Mhok #last twilight day #mhokday #mhok x day #last twilight night #last twilight projai #Jenny’s watching #last twilight ep 2 #last twilight episode 2

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