#the bi to aroace pipeline fr

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Hey guys so in return for aro month and valentines day im gonna show you what “phases/bouts” i went for to figure out who i was/am

This is gonna be rlly long so yeah

straight because i had a really good friend that i think would be cool i spent the rest of my life with because he’s a great friend. I like him? Maybe? I just know i wanna spend time with him because he’s my friend

Straight but watching gacha life gay videos was okay because it was entertaining i think its not gonna mess me up at all (it messed me up for life turns out, like it straight up ruined my perception of life and cringe and imprinted on me in ways the world cannot ever imagine unless you were a gacha kid who happened to accidentally consume really inappropriate gacha stuff)

learned more about queer community more and ppl aren’t just gay and friend starts thinking if they’re lgbtq (they kinda arent and they’re transphobic -ish now i think) And so i start thinking, and go hey i do these hand symbols insert ✌️ and👈 (and on top of that i have no preference for who i want to date really. I’m BI!!! Or something i guess

Wait. I’m not attracted to anything like a lots of ppl. Im ace, right? Yeahh

no im demi proabbly

stopped caring

realized that hey? I don’t know what romantic love is and how to percieve it? I don’t know how to feel it? Except in comics and fanfics. And i have never really felt that way

but i really really wanna be friends and hang out with certain ppl so much so even if i might not know them? I might want to just talk to them? Maybe be friends? They just look so cool! They’re like me, and i think i just want to talk to them. Is that a crush? But the actual concept of romance itself has never shown itself to me. What is love, really? Am i supposed to romantically like someone? I don’t know if i HAVE or not.

Yk what i think i’m aromantic

ppl keep shipping me w/ppl they say i like him. what if im not what if i AM in love and i don’t know?

am i even who i think i am?

Look so i don’t truly know how love works, how to perceive it, if ppl even like me like that, if I want to be liked, if i want to like, if i know how to like and can just DO it. Maybe i am aro

so like im aro (either aego/cupiro) or like angled aroace because idk im like aroace but aspec and not straightforward aroace. Not sure.

So thats me hbu? :)

-Soda

(You got this you can find your own way!!)

#aromantic #aroace #lgbtqia #the bi to aroace pipeline fr #queer #how i figured out me as a person

[our-aroace-experience]

fr one of my safe spaces here I love yall sm /platonic 🫶

so my story: since I was little I thought “oh, having a crush is normal” so I just said I had crushes on guys for the longest time, like this one guy, let’s call him Jay, had a crush on me in like the first grade. I didn’t “reciprocate” until I found out most of the girls my age were crushing on him and I wanted to fit in. I did this for SIX YEARS. Then we moved on to middle school. That’s when I realized “oh gay people exist” and though I was bi (bi to aroace pipeline real, iykyk) and had plenty of squishes towards girls who I thought were romantic crushes. No seggsual desire so I was like “oh im def ace” but refused to believe I was aro, and I even had a queerplatonic gf at the time without even accepting or acknowledging my aromantic side. We broke up, got a new partner in high school and one day I was like “oh. OH.” and yeah. It’s been hard trying to explain this to my parents since they think smth is wrong with me for not being attracted to anyone, but I haven’t actually come out to them im just kinda like “im not rly looking for a relationship rn” and that’s basically it. It’s been a long and hard road but im glad I finally accepted myself :)

sorry if this was long lol bye :D

i'm glad you've figured it out!

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