could you define attraction because i don’t know what it is
honestly who knows man
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I'm aroace. Always have been, always will be. And you know what ticks me off the most about it? It's the sentiment from allo people, that tell aces/aros/aroaces that the love they feel "must be platonic!" Or that if the have sex or date they aren't a real ace/aro/aroace.
This is wrong. It is wrong now, it was wrong then, and it will always b wrong.
Aros are defined as people without any romantic ATTRACTION. They can date, fall in love, or maybe they never will, and they find happiness in that.
Aces are defined as people without any sexual ATTRACTION. They can fuck, fuck around, make dirty jokes, or maybe they never have sex, or are uncomfortable with even the idea being brought up.
Ik this, because I'm aroace, and I'm in a poly relationship. I love my two partners, my boyfriend AND my girlfriend, but you wanna know what? I was never romantically or sexually attracted to them. I, oh so simply, just fell in love with them. I trust them completely, and I love them more than myself.
If I was not in love with them, I would not be in a relationship with them. It's as simple as that. I am not allo, I find no meaning in pretending to be attracted to someone. I've dated before, although it was more from societal pressures than any feelings, and that is why I'm so certain.
I never got a crush phase, never got the butterflies in my stomach or the fantasys about someone I was not close too.
Many aros/aces/aroaces will probably never want or find such relationships with a person. And that's okay, but it does not mean all are like that. People under the A-umbrella are 1000% valid, regardless of their wants/needs to have or not to have a relationship.
The Acespectum is always one of the hardest things to figure out if you are, because it is impossible to teach what the absence of something feels like. So, if you think you are, take it slow. Figure it out at your own pace, and don't be afraid of someone else's anger that you may not fit what they think you should be. In the end it's your choice, your wants, your needs, and your life.
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One of the reasons I started this blog is because I literally wanna talk about asexuality and aromanticism and being queer all the time and there’s only so much I can talk to my friends without fear of boring them to death. Nearly three years on since I figured out my identity and I still feel that way. I just wait for the time when someone asks me about it and then I’m in my element 😂
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aspec people: so there's this problem with aphobia in fandom we've noticed
allo people: no 💕
It makes me want to scream bc what the fuck??? How is that the response to literally hundreds of people asking you to examine your biases? T-T
It's not even the shipping it's just everything and the response from non-aspec people is to just say bc they haven't personally been hurt by it it's not a problem for anyone else.
I know right :(
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REBLOG IF YOUR BLOG IS A SAFE SPACE FOR AROMANTIC PEOPLE AND IF YOU THINK THEY ARE VALID
I want to see how many people actually are willing to say this and not just act like it
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image embedded in tweet is a full bin labeled "Free Condoms, Be Safe Today!", with the aro flag on both the label and each of the condom packets, next to a full bin labeled "Free Water Balloons, Have Fun Today!", doing the same thing with the ace flag.
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