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I often see trauma validated for those whose parents got divorced and yes, that trauma is completely valid. But I just want to stop and say that if your parents didn’t get divorced but probably fucking should have, any trauma from that is equally as valid

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Compilation of some of the BG3 lines I found funny

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Knowledge is empowering

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While I like to talk about the benefits of therapy, it’s also important for people to recognize when therapy is harming them. It may be because the specific therapy is wrong for them, the therapist is wrong for them or they aren’t in the place for it, or any number of reasons.

Therapy can be a wonderful tool, but finding the right type of therapy and right therapist and navigating it all can be so complicated.

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Essek and Caleb in Pride clothes cause I wanted to

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That's not fair.

(If you want to see me vent I'm on tiktok, @cryingbard)

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still thinking about "decolonising" missionary work.

the way you decolonise missionary work is by not doing missionary work

the way you decolonise missionaries is like this:

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Oh shit it's autism acceptance month- HI GUYS IM AUTISTIC AND I ACCEPT IT AND IF YOURE AUTISTIC I ACCEPT THAT TOO WE SHOULD ALL AUTISM AND WE SHOULD ALL ACCEPT

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You spend my entire childhood regularly punishing me for accidentally saying something wrong. Then, when I struggle to make friends, you say "talk to people".

You spend my entire childhood regularly punishing me in order to force me to follow rules that make no sense. Then, when I struggle to make friends, you say "just be yourself".

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When you're autistic, it's impossible to miss how much society normalizes child abuse.

I could dedicate my entire life to studying how to interact with people and I'd still never master the social skills that young children are expected to have on command.

Say the wrong thing? That's disrespectful and you're punished. And you don't even have to actually say anything wrong. Pretty much anything you say can be considered "giving lip" if your parent wants some excuse to punish you. But if you say nothing, then you get punished for ignoring. You also have to calculate your response to their mind game quickly because taking too long to respond is considered ignoring. Also, if you're being wrongly accused of something, saying nothing is considered a confession. And even if you somehow manage to say exactly what your parent wants in exactly the correct tone, they'll still punish you for "sarcasm" or "not really meaning it".

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in the hour or so it took me to draw this op turned reblogs off

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if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

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I hate the trope of "I refuse to hit women!! [Gets decked]" cause it's boring but I do like the trope of someone in an RPG going "hey I don't wanna hit a kid that's kinda fucked up" and the kid just obliterates them

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I mean, we all knew, but thanks for admitting that you wanna suppress freedom of speech and the spread of information?

#palestine #free palestine #from the river to the sea palestine will be free #tiktok #us politics

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🚨 Students at Harvard University launched an encampment in support of Gaza in Harvard Yard moments ago, calling for an end to Harvard's moral and material complicity in the ongoing genocide of the Palestinian people.

Harvard has invested over $200 million of its over $51 billion endowment in companies with ties to zionist settlements in the West Bank, while most of its investments to the zionist entity are kept secret.

The students are demanding financial transparency regarding investments related to the zionist entity, as well as genocide and occupation in Palestine; divestment from these investments and reinvestment in Palestine; and dropping all charges against student activists.

The University has suppressed student voices in support of Palestine time and time again, suspending the Palestine Solidarity Committee just this week on baseless grounds. They have also enabled attacks on pro-Palestinian students from the media and politicians. Today, the students say enough is enough, and that they will no longer tolerate their institution's support for genocide.

This brings the number of ongoing encampments to 19, with more to come.

#palestine #free palestine #from the river to the sea palestine will be free #harvard #harvard university

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"We need more weird queer people!" Apparently y'all STILL can't even handle aromantics

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Loving that between 6 origin companions there are 3 pairs who may ruin or heal each other through their stories:

Karlach and Wyll: We will end each other for survival or try to fight together against our oppressors.

Shadowheart and Lae'zel: We will try to end each other for our goddesses or happen to get through our rebellion together, despite our differences.

Astarion and Gale: Um, we don't want to kill each other, not really, but if we are getting locked in the room together for 15 mins we will convince each other to become the worst versions of themselves for the sake of power or yell at each other about who has dumber plans. Healing is somewhere there too, probably.