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Israel has bombed—and completely demolished—the Great Omari Mosque in Gaza, which is the second oldest mosque in Palestine. There was no purpose to bombing it. There was no advantage to targeting it. Israel simply destroyed it to make a statement: that Palestinian religion and culture not only mean nothing to them, but are something they’re actively working on wiping out. This was one of Palestine’s most sacred cultural sites. Now it’ll forever serve as proof of the horrifying death and destruction the world has allowed to befall Palestine.

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So what I’ve learned from the past couple months of being really loud about being a bi woman on Tumblr is: A lot of young/new LGBT+ people on this site do not understand that some of the stuff they’re saying comes across to other LGBT+ people as offensive, aggressive, or threatening. And when they actually find out the history and context, a lot of them go, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I never meant to say that.”

Like, “queer is a slur”: I get the impression that people saying this are like… oh, how I might react if I heard someone refer to all gay men as “f*gs”. Like, “Oh wow, that’s a super loaded word with a bunch of negative freight behind it, are you really sure you want to put that word on people who are still very raw and would be alarmed, upset, or offended if they heard you call them it, no matter what you intended?”

So they’re really surprised when self-described queers respond with a LOT of hostility to what feels like a well-intentioned reminder that some people might not like it. 

That’s because there’s a history of “political lesbians”, like Sheila Jeffreys, who believe that no matter their sexual orientation, women should cut off all social contact with men, who are fundamentally evil, and only date the “correct” sex, which is other women. Political lesbians claim that relationships between women, especially ones that don’t contain lust, are fundamentally pure, good, and  unproblematic. They therefore regard most of the LGBT community with deep suspicion, because its members are either way too into sex, into the wrong kind of sex, into sex with men, are men themselves, or somehow challenge the very definitions of sex and gender. 

When “queer theory” arrived in the 1980s and 1990s as an organized attempt by many diverse LGBT+ people in academia to sit down and talk about the social oppressions they face, political lesbians like Jeffreys attacked it harshly, publishing articles like “The Queer Disappearance of Lesbians”, arguing that because queer theory said it was okay to be a man or stop being a man or want to have sex with a man, it was fundamentally evil and destructive. And this attitude has echoed through the years; many LGBT+ people have experience being harshly criticized by radical feminists because being anything but a cis “gold star lesbian” (another phrase that gives me war flashbacks) was considered patriarchal, oppressive, and basically evil.

And when those arguments happened, “queer” was a good umbrella to shelter under, even when people didn’t know the intricacies of academic queer theory; people who identified as “queer” were more likely to be accepting and understanding, and “queer” was often the only label or community bisexual and nonbinary people didn’t get chased out of. If someone didn’t disagree that people got to call themselves queer, but didn’t want to be called queer themselves, they could just say “I don’t like being called queer” and that was that. Being “queer” was to being LGBT as being a “feminist” was to being a woman; it was opt-in.

But this history isn’t evident when these interactions happen. We don’t sit down and say, “Okay, so forty years ago there was this woman named Sheila, and…” Instead we queers go POP! like pufferfish, instantly on the defensive, a red haze descending over our vision, and bellow, “DO NOT TELL ME WHAT WORDS I CANNOT USE,” because we cannot find a way to say, “This word is so vital and precious to me, I wouldn’t be alive in the same way if I lost it.” And then the people who just pointed out that this word has a history, JEEZ, way to overreact, go away very confused and off-put, because they were just trying to say.

But I’ve found that once this is explained, a lot of people go, “Oh wow, okay, I did NOT mean to insinuate that, I didn’t realize that I was also saying something with a lot of painful freight to it.”

And that? That gives me hope for the future.

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im so done with seeing articles about kids and screen time that doesnt mention parent behaviors even once. “kids are always on their phones” so are the parents! which the kids look to for how they should behave! ipad babies didn’t chose to only play on their ipads, thats what their parents gave them!

an anecdotal example: when i was a kid, all my parents would do in their minimal free time was watch tv and then they would be surprised when in my sister and i’s minimal free time we would also only watch tv/play video games. they scolded us for not reading books, but they never read books. they scolded us for not going outside but they never went outside.

“kids are always on their damn phones” my mom is in her 60s and opens up candy crush anytime she’s sitting — it isnt just the kids

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it’s my birthday :D !!

#jack manifold #birthday #aries

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do not use betterhelp. do not support betterhelp. do not believe betterhelp.

they:

-do not vet their therapists

-forcefully shut down negative commentary

-lie to therapists

-lie to consumers

-trap therapists in exploitative contracts

-sells users data

etc

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So you live in a traditionally warm climate and suddenly have to deal with an unprecedented cold snap.

How to survive the cold with limited power, insulation and heating options.

(Most of these require a bit of planning ahead and having supplies on hand in preparation for an emergency, but they will keep you warm, and more importantly, do so safely.)

Tea light candles and terra cotta gardening pots: you do need to use genuine terra cotta for this, but lighting a candle beneath an overturned terra cotta pot - one of the ones with drainage holes in the bottom so the candle doesn’t sputter - will act as a no power space heater for small rooms. Just make sure they’re only lit while you’re awake.

Block door gaps with towels: roll up bath towels and wedge them under the doors of any warm rooms you have; it will prevent cold air getting in underneath them. Along those lines…

Tape bubble wrap to drafty windows: it works about as well as industrial insulation film, and if you’re careful taking it back down again, can be rolled up and reused. This will prevent some heat loss at night, and as it isn’t blocking light out, will help sun-warm the house during daylight if it isn’t too cloudy.

Sleep with other warm bodies: share a bed with housemates, invite over friends or family, pets - anything warm blooded will contribute to warmth and you’ll all be safer for it. Bundle up and huddle together until your power comes back on!

Set up a camping tent around your mattress: this is another one that requires advance planning, but a zipped up tent will make for an enclosed space that is far easier to make warm and keep warm, and if your mattress and betting are put inside it, will be the safest and most comfortable way to sleep.

If you have advance warning of a cold snap, leave your faucets dripping on purpose: this will prevent the water in your house’s pipes from freezing. Frozen water will burst a water pipe, leading to a lot of unnecessary water damage.

Try to have a pantry of shelf-stable food and access to at least one method of cooking it that doesn’t rely on electricity, like a gas powered camping hot plate, if you can afford them. If all else fails, you can likely heat food over open candle flame, but it might be better to eat tinned tuna or cereal or what have you in that case.

And then of course, the usual power outage preparedness applies: flashlights and batteries, at least one battery powered radio, and make sure your car’s gas tank is full if for no other reason than using it as a power source; even if roads aren’t clear you can turn it on and huddle inside.

For those of you without homes: if you have the money for it, consider getting a cheap gym membership so you have access to indoor spaces even late at night, some are open 24 hours, and look into YMCA or soup kitchens or shelters way in advance. You’re going to know your resources better than I am, but the cold is no joke. Good luck and I love you.

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not be like “ugh the Youths” but i think kids nowadays have gotten Too Comfortable on the internet.

like i see these tweets on twitter like “hey im 14 and i just got kicked out pls rt so i can find somewhere to stay im in x state/city” and like HOLY SHIT i cannot emphasize enough how incredibly dangerous this is. you’re broadcasting to EVERYONE that you are young, vulnerable, and desperate AND information on how to find you!!!! like i know you meant for that to be just for your friends on twitter but that’s a public tweet!!! ANYONE could see it!!! like I saw it and i have no idea who you are you are not in my circle and yet!!! so like WHO ELSE has seen it!!!

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This song will always have a special place in my heart.

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attached are also numbers for worldwide suicide hotlines. please reach out for help if you’re feeling hopeless.

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17 year old Kyle Rittenhouse-Lewis’ mom Wendy drove him and his AR-15 rifle from Antioch, IL to Kenosha WI to “defend” businesses that he does not own from riots. 

He ended up shooting 3 people, 2 died and 1 lost his arm. Since some people are always quick to pull up shooting victims prior criminal history in order to justify their ill fate, I thought I’d post the shooters instead. His prior criminal history, 

In 2018, he has a charge for disobeying officers.

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR CLASS A

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. A

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 941.20(1)(B)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: OPERATE FIREARM WHILE INTOXICATED

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NOT GUILTY

Disposition: CHARGE DISMISSED BUT READ IN

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

DISORDERLY CONDUCT

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR CLASS B

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. B

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 947.01(1)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: DISORDERLY CONDUCT

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NO CONTEST

Disposition: GUILTY DUE TO NO CONTEST PLEA

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

POSSESSION OF THC\

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. U

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 961.41(3G)(E)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: POSSESSION OF THC

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NOT GUILTY

Disposition: CHARGE DISMISSED BUT READ IN

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

POSSESS DRUG PARAPHERNALIA

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. U

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 961.573(1)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: POSSESS DRUG PARAPHERNALIA

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NOT GUILTY

Disposition: CHARGE DISMISSED BUT READ IN

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

FAILURE TO OBEY TRAFFIC OFFICE…

Case Number: 2018TR011432

Classification: FORFEITURE U

Counts: 1

Offense Code: 346.04(2)

Offense Date: 08/09/2018

Offense Description: FAILURE TO OBEY TRAFFIC OFFICER/SIGNAL

Charges Filed Date: 08/13/2018

Plea: NO CONTEST

Disposition: GUILTY DUE TO NO CONTEST PLEA

Disposition Date: 09/18/20

White Supremacist would be quick to state that he’s a drug addict and a criminal IF he was a POC. They would say he deserves everything that happened to him. Instead they’re calling him a “patriot” and started a GoFundMe account for his legal fees.

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if something bad happened, if you made a mistake or got a bad grade - you will grow, you will evolve. you will be more, and you will be better. you will understand and you will achieve and you will be okay. this does not define you, and this is not the end.

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Yo Biden just announced an infrastructure devolopment/clean energy/environmental justice plan and it's honesty pretty fucking amazing and much more ambitious than I ever would have expected from him, goddamn. He's trying to Eisenhower/New Deal our way out of the economic collapse.

Some notable points addressed by this plan:

Expanding American railway systems

Fixing the crumbling roads, bridges, dams, etc. that haven't been kept up

Capping abandoned oil wells

Undoing Trump's financial bailout policies for unclean energy companies

Reinvesting in American-made automotive companies

Getting America to 100% clean energy by 2035

Fixing air, water, and ground pollution issues that disproportionately affect poc

Getting justice for victims of environmental racism

Reinstating a bunch of environmental and medical jobs Trump had cut

Getting the US back on the Paris Agreement/Climate Accord

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Fourth in a series I of comics about protesting safety tips I made with @this.is.ysabel . This one is about the dangers of police surveillance and how to avoid it if possible. Keep being safe when you go out. Don’t get snatched!

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IF YOU ARE UNMARRIED, DON'T HAVE KIDS, AND HATE YOUR PARENTS PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HAVE A FUCKING WILL

this has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood probate lawyer