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Posted my Bottom Stede Week art on AO3!

https://archiveofourown.org/series/4114303

#ofmd #ofmd fanart #i love all of these

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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04/26/2024 Daily OFMD Recap

TLDR; Samba BTS; Guz Khan; Samba Schutte; Anapela's Birthday!; Watch Parties; MerMay!; Ranker; Fan Spotlight; SchadenFreude; Love Notes; Daily Darby/Tonight's Taika^2

== Samba BTS ==

Samba once again blessed us with more BTS from this scene. This time with Rhys and Taika doing improv and praising Zheng.

== Guz Khan ==

Guz is in New York City today for his next show and happened to attend a protest going on by the Students nearby.

Img Src: Guz Khan's IG

== Samba Schutte and Anapela Polataivao ==

A VERY Happy birthday to our favorite Auntie! Both Samba and Robbie were kind enough to wish her a Happy birthday!

Img Src: Samba Schutte's IG & Robbie Magasiva's IG

== Watch Parties ==

Next up!: Palm Royale WP May 2 via @LCWebsXOXO with the lovely @ dominicburgess approx. 4pm EDT/9pm BST/1pm PST!

== MerMay ==

More MerMay prompts! This time from our lovely @bizarrelittlemew! Head on over to her blog post below for MerMay Bingo!

== Ranker ==

Ranker Link

== Fan Spotlight ==

= Cast Cards =

Tonight, our @melvisik has blessed us with another cast card, and this time, it's Wendy! One of our Red Flag Crew members, and a proud OFMD fan as well! So glad to see her getting some recognition as well!

== OFMD Colouring Pages ==

More colouring pages by our fantabulous crewmate @patchworkpiratebear! The seagull is gonna be so much fun!

== SchadenFreude ==

Our crewmate @/Seven_Sugars caught WBD at it's all time low again!

@/Seven_Sugars Twitter

== Love Notes ==

Hey lovelies, I am so very out of it tonight, I'm sorry. It's been a long week. Tonight will be short as I'm fading fast--- I just want to say please remember to give yourself some grace. You are not one thing, you are a glorious vessel for so many beautiful things. Not all those things will go as planned sometimes, but you're still beautiful, and you're still kind, and you're still worthy. Get some rest crew, sleep well.

Img by @thelatestkate

== Daily Darby / Tonight's Taika ==

We finished the Short Poppies watch party today and .. well, idk, seeing Rhys look at himself like that made me wanna have Taika look at them too. Don't judge me :P Gifs courtesy of @ofmd-ann & @gottagobackintime

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something you said has been on my mind for a while - "kink is not inherently sexual". good faith! I don't understand that at all, could you explain it a bit?

This post is educational, hooray! Extensive discussion of kink under the cut. Nothing explicitly sexual is described in detail.

Please note that in this post, I use the terms top and Dom/me interchangeably. This is because I personally identify as a "top" and not a Dom. Some communities draw sharp lines between these two terms, and it's useful to make sure that you're using the same definition as other people when you're talking. Some people use "top" solely to refer to the giving or penetrative partner, which is not synonymous with the dominant partner. Topping subs, power bottoms, and all other permutations exist. I just use that term for myself because I don't like being called a Dom. It sounds like a guy's name to me, I don't like it.

When I text my wife in every morning, "Please bring me my coffee," and she answers, "Yes, Sir!" is that sexual? I'm surely not feeling sexual when I'm barely awake. When I hold my other wife's hand when she's having a depressive fit and tell her, "Daddy's got you, it's okay," that's kink, but it's not sexual. In that moment, neither of us feel particularly sexy, and we're surely not engaging in sex, but it's kink that - forgive the pun - binds us more strongly together.

One of my girls wears a 24/7 collar that I locked in place. (She can ask me at any point to take it off, or she can take it off herself if she wants to, but she chooses this.) That's kink. It's also... a necklace. That's not any more inherently sexual than her wedding ring, though it - for us - certainly symbolizes part of our relationship that happens to sometimes include sex, exactly the same as a wedding ring.

There are a lot of types of kink that don't include sexual contact in any way or which might include sexual contact but don't need to. One of my friends is a sex-repulsed ace bootblack. They literally take care of the boots of tops, usually at play parties. For them, this act of service and submission allows them to go into a particular headspace that's very fulfilling for them. They are explicitly serving the people whose boots they clean and polish. The Dom/mes receive that service and not only get really great-looking boots out of the deal but also get the feeling of power from having someone eager to take care of them and serve them. For some of us, that kind of service allows us access to a feeling of power that can be hard to access in our daily life, and that feels really good.

Sometimes, it can feel good in a sexy way, and sometimes it feels good in a "makes lizard brain feel powerful but not sexy" way. Neither one is inherently better or worse or more or less kinky than the other.

Sometimes, people who like being whipped like it because the line between pain and pleasure is like a wave on the ocean, and they want to surf it. Sometimes, that involves mashing squishy bits together, and sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes, it's just about riding that endorphin wave and then having someone take care of you afterwards.

Sometimes, people want to be tied up in elaborate shibari knots and fucked. Sometimes, people want to be tied up in elaborate shibari knots because that process requires a lot of trust and is an intimate ritual that takes a lot of time. Sometimes, it's both. Sometimes, people want to tie up others because it's a beautiful work of art, because that ritual of binding is a ritual and accesses something sacred for them. Sometimes, they want to be tied up because it's playtime, and that's fun for them! Sometimes, they want to be tied up because when they're tied up, they are 0% in control, and they want to just surrender control to someone whom they can trust.

Some people want to go into sub space - that headspace I talked about earlier - because in their everyday life, they have a lot of responsibilities and stress, and going into that space where nobody can ask anything from them, where they have no responsibility to make any decisions at all, is a relief to them. That might involve squishy bits, or it might not. Some people like going into that sub space because being someone's Good Boy, Sweet Girl, or Good Pup is gender-affirming for them. A friend of mine only feels really safe when he's got his pup hood on, because that means he's With Master, who will protect him.

Some people get gender affirmation out of being in control, being someone's Daddy or Mistress, Sir or Boss. It allows them to access a power that helps them to square their shoulders and take on the world.

All of this entirely skips over the fact that a person's primary sexual organ is between their ears, and some people do get sexual fulfillment out of kink even when no genitalia are involved at all, but I cannot stress enough that the reasons that people enter into the multitude of kink situations in the world are as varied as the people involved. People gain access to comfort, to feelings of stability and order and control over their lives, to gender affirmation, to endorphins that are or aren't sexual in nature, to release from responsibility, to ritual and intimacy, to the ability to provide for others and take care of others in a way that their outside lives may or may not permit. For that matter, they may simply gain access to a paycheck, and that's fine, too. That's no more or less "selling your body" than when I used to run my ass off for 13+ hours a day at my retail job, and I guarantee they're making way, way better money.

The fact that so many people see kink as only and purely sexual means they're missing out on so much of what kink can offer, and narrowing down the experiences of others to this tiny little sliver of what actually exists. Yes, it can be sexual, but it doesn't have to be. The reasons that people engage in kink are as varied as the reasons that people engage in any other kind of interaction, and the fulfillment they get from it is as varied, too.

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That moment, when.

#ofmd #ofmd fanart

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like i know we already know this but they’re best friends. yes they’re in love and wildly attracted to each other and are probably having weird sex (affectionate) right now but before all of that existed and after all of that is gone they are and always will be best friends who just want to talk and play together

#and they never had that with anyone else before. not someone who truly understood them #where they could just be themselves #ofmd

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did you date in high school?

#not sure i ever went on like a real date as such because we don't really have dating culture #but yeah i fucked around and had relationships and stuff #poll

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Lucius can approve 👍

#thank you i need this #ofmd #ofmd fanart

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A diagram

#FRANKIE HOW ARE YOU SO FAST I'M DYING OVER THIS #ofmd #ofmd fanart

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I am SO grateful for every piece of bts footage, and it ALWAYS just makes me love the show and the characters and the cast so much more.

But it also makes my heart ache. The cast and crew clearly had the time of their lives making this show and bringing the characters and their stories to life. And it was GOOD. It was SO fucking good.

We deserved so much more.

#let them do it again!! #ofmd

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People Are Just People (Like You)

I drew a normal and healthy amount of art for @trans-top-stede and my fic People Are Just People (Like You) and now here they are, all in one place. :)

*spoilers past this point*

We have a whole doc full of just side lore — what Stede’s been up to and how he started Signs of Life; some stuff about Buttons; some stuff about Fang and Ivan.

And of course, some post-fic thoughts on Oliver and Marmalade. The last drawing is their first holiday card together. Owen and I agreed that Oliver would probably be a sweet angel who will wear anything you put her in and look adorable doing it and Marmalade would immediately lose the one brain cell all orange cats share and absolutely wreck shit

#ofmd #ofmd fanart #ofmd fic

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this just in, post-fuck ed teach is a chatterer with no filter

#ofmd

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#i'm trying 😔

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i hope samba schutte has the greatest day every day

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Listen to your captain 😉

#ofmd #ofmd fanart

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"I'll never leave you. I'll never leave you again."

#ofmd

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Maybe the brain couscous situation was less resolved than expected.

#lmaooooo #ofmd