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This time of year can be frustrating for people in the aro/ace community.

I will be here, whenever you need to talk. 

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my favourite adhd / general executive dysfunction feeling is when you become very consciously aware that you are bored and there is nothing interesting left on the 5 social media apps you’ve been cycling around for the past hour and finally a small logical part of your brain goes “hey! perhaps at this point it might actually be more fun to do one of the productive things you’ve been putting off!” and you’re this close to going oh huh yeah maybe that's true! and getting up to do some housework or read a book or something when a far louder part of your brain goes “NO WAIT!!!! maybe THIS time when we refresh tumblr.... it will be interesting again” and you’re like "ohhhh right sorry for doubting you boss" & promptly get right back to doing fuck all

#exactly me for the past 2 weeks.

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today im thinking about the huge buff bread guy from kikis delivery service. highly underrated guy

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Hear me out. We're having a last-day-of-pride party at Renison's and suddenly, these two lovebirds disappear from the deck. I, being the nosy fuck I am, walk back towards the fence where Alli's got this water feature thing being built, and find them. Now, I just need y'all to know that I've seen Andrew go from angry at the world to filled with light and that's a fucking sight. I haven't know Neil as long but he went from quiet and awkward to loud and confident and seriously? I fuckin can't anymore with these two.

So. Happy anniversary, Minyard-Jostens. You two seriously deserve each other. - D's Husband

PS. Andreil is letting me post this pic in exchange for not darkening their doorstep for a whole week so y'all ARE WELCOME :)

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We need to dismantle the systems in place that allow white people to get away with offering black people sub-par services based on the excuse that our bodies are more difficult to work with. Black hair is not more difficult than white hair, it simply requires a different skill set. Tattooing vibrant tattoos on black skin isn’t more difficult than tattooing white skin, it simply requires a different skill set. Photographing black people isn’t more difficult than photographing white people, it simply requires an understanding of photography. Doing makeup on black skin isn’t more difficult than doing makeup on white skin, it simply requires different products. Working with black people is not more difficult than working with white people you’ve all just been taught that it’s not valuable and therefore not worth learning how.

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yknow i think about the red rabbits pod so often. a bunch if people got together and started writing and then role played their writing on tumblr and now red rabbits is a classic piece of aftg fandom literature. i respect y’all so much for that

#MAKE ME FUCKIN CRY

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shoutout to all the adhd kids who grew up being called liars when they said they forgot something/didnt understand something/didnt know something/etc and ended up afraid to actually just tell people that they forgot or didnt know as they got older. if ur reading this i love u

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A truly moving story via Gregory McKelvey. Removing police from schools is an urgent need, especially for Black students.

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Meet Sister Rosetta Tharpe, the black woman who invented that rock and roll sound 

You know what’s sad, before I even read this article I was ready to refute this because I grew up believing Chuck Berry created Rock and roll. It’s said how so many knew of this great woman yet none spoke on her greatness.

I also discovered Big Mama Thornton, who’s another hugely influential early inventor of rock and roll — I’m pretty sure Hound Dog was originally popularized by her, before Elvis stole it.

Love Sister Rosetta Tharpe! #BlackGirlMagic

A few of her performances:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JeaBNAXfHfQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9bX5mzdihs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SR2gR6SZC2M

Also I heard she was bisexual…

Happy Black History Month! 

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Ok,, so I have kinda curly hair and I love it so I wanna take care of it right? I’m mixed, my mom is black and I got my curls from her,, so when I go to sleep I usually wrap it in a scarf but every time I do I feel really guilty because I feel like that’s something that black girls do and I’m not black and I don’t wanna do anything wrong but at the same time I don’t want my curls to fuck up during the night.

I just don’t wanna offend anybody or do anything wrong.

OOC:

Alright, darlin. I had to hop on here to tell you I know EXACTLY how you feel. And it is a really... really shitty feeling. 

Number 1 - you. are. black. You’re one of us, love. I am also mixed. I’m black, brown, and white. I’m light skinned but I have 3b-3c curls and I lived most of my life with the brown/white side of my family, thinking I was whitepassing (spoiler alert: I’m not. I’m just delusional lmfao). And because of this, I always struggled with my identity. 

Growing up with my brown/white side, they never knew how to take care of my hair. I’d get it chemically straightened and relaxed, my curls brushed out and generally tended to with absolutely no idea how to handle it (I have a LOT of hair). It wasn’t until college (and youtube) that I began to learn how to take care of it and also come to terms with the fact that even though I always thought I looked white, absolutely NO ONE ELSE DID. But getting rid of the view that Im not dark enough or ‘black enough’ was so fucking toxic and it wormed its way into my brain in a way that I STILL struggle with.  

(^ this kid thought she was white. I know. What the fuck is wrong with you, Tiara. Also, where the fuck are my curls)

In college I avoided joining the BSU because I didn’t think I would be welcome. I didn’t think I fit in. And even though I still very much experience microaggressions and racism, I’m also very aware that being lightskinned, I have privilage over my darker skinned brothers and sisters. So even though by my senior year I was aware of that, and I definitely identified more and more with my black side, i didn’t think anyone else would - completely ignoring the fact that many of my friends were black, part of the BSU, and saw me as one of them. 

When I finally joined, there was no questions like I thought there’d be. Like ‘why’s the mixed girl here’ nothing LIKE THAT. The president of the BSU and one of my friends interviewed me one day for her thesis surrounding black hair. I expressed how growing up I didn’t know how to take care of my hair and that now I was scared of tying my hair in a scarf, or getting braids, or doing twists. I thought that my black peers and friends might see me as culturally appropriating them because I still thought people looked at me and saw anything but black. 

She looked at me like I was fucking crazy. She looked at me dead in the eyes like she knew I needed to hear it and said ‘Tiara. You. Are. Black. And you should do whatever is healthiest for YOUR hair.’ 

I never forgot that. It stuck with me. And it was like all my friends noticed how screwed my own mental image was and took me under their wing. 

4 years later and I still sometimes struggle. Mainly because I am very aware of taking up room in black spaces because of the fact that I do have the privilege of being light. 

But being lightskinned and mixed doesnt make me any less black. Sometimes I think my friends know that I still sometimes feel like I don’t deserve to celebrate my own fucking culture or history. Jeni has definitely slapped sense into me on several occassions when I didn’t know if I should promote myself as a black creator. 

But I am. 

Because I am.

And that brings me to this.

No matter what, you should do whats best for your hair. If that means wearing a scarf or a satin bonnet, then DO IT. (Definitely the bonnet. I cant sleep without it). If that means protecting your hair with protective styles like twists or braids or wigs or scarves, then DO IT. Every single winter and most of the summer, I put my hair into mini twists and it’s greatly affected the health of my hair and you know what? I feel fucking amazing when I do it and not one person has questioned me or tried to stop me or told me that I can’t or that I’m appropriating or offending anyone because I’m not. And it’s MY culture, too. 

And you know what babe? It’s YOUR culture, too. So you do whatever you need to do for your hair. You do what makes you feel happiest and healthiest and most confident. I swear as soon as I started doing what was best for me and learning more about my hair, and really feeling welcome in my own culture, I was far better off and other people saw it too. 

(Quarantine hair shots. Also significantly lighter than I was as a kid)

Please dm me if you ever have any hair questions, want product recommendations, or ANYTHING. I’m here for you. I know how you feel. 

And don’t forget -  you’re welcome here. You’re one of us. No matter how light or dark you are. Your momma’s black? You’re black, too. 

So with that being said

Happy Black History Month, Babe.

-Tiara @bloodydamnit 

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We got an anon that Neils hair looked like grass before. i know anon... i know.... BUT I CHANGED IT. POSTING NEILS NEW HAIR TODAY GODDAMNIT

So Neil has been dying to let everyone know we have a new family member. We’ve been fostering him for the last few weeks and with Sir and King’s blessing, he’s officially part of the family. 

Introducing, Madame Meowston Scratchypants Minyard-Josten (Mads for short). - A  

OOC: NEW BEHIND THE POD CHAPTER!! READ IT HERE!!!  

Link to song in the chapter ^^ 

#MY RENDERS

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This is insane

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THROWBACK

Sneak Peak into the intro. 

We apologize for the unexpected delay! - Dan

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i love them sm T^T

MATT WE LOVE YOU HOW ARE YOU CAN WE SEE YOUR FACE HOWS THE QUEEN YOURE THE BEST

The Queen™ is gorgeous as always! Here’s us before we went out for dinner and drinks tonight 😄😄😄- Matt

PS look at her. Just look at this woman. Im hers. She chose ME. 

Fuckin WILD. 

#red rabbits pod #my art #dan and matt #aftg #my renders #daz studio

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y'all,,, does this mean there's an aftg 4????