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If you have multiple exes, vote based on your most recent ex or the one you resent most, if any.

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#hiii #most recent one dropped a nuke on my head

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Keep seeing pronoun positivity posts is about he/they and she/theys. That's cool and all but this one's for the she/hes. If you're a she/he I love you and you can take as much mint as you want from our garden

#ill take a few

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April

by Mary Oliver

I wanted to speak at length about the happiness of my body and the delight of my mind for it was April, a night, a full moon and --

but something in myself or maybe from somewhere other said: not too many words, please, in the muddy shallows the

Frogs are singing.

#earth #mary oliver my dearest friend

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#this fucks

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i know you guys are all super into reclaiming slurs and stuff, but you can’t just go around calling random people faggots.

#i would like 2 add that acting homophobic in public is also incredibly embarrassing to see. #idgaf if u look gay or whatever the people watching you only see homophobia. disgusting.

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#where am i most likely to save and see this #earth #long post

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You suddenly switch bodies with your icon. On a scale of 1 to 10, (10 being the highest value) how well are you coping with that change?

#uhhhh

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#i liek trains

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wet evening in April by Patrick Kavanagh

#ooohhh #earth

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Brothers

#u can tell he used to jump ppl as a kid #op

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reblog for larger sample size

#i dont got one #at most i notice a feeling in ny throat or mouth #sort of like. either remembering the sensation of drinking water. and wanting that #or noticing the absence. and wanting to fix it #no words in me brain

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??? are you seeing what's happening in Berlin with the Palestine Congress??

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to add to the whole proud faggot thing: i rmbr at age 15 me and my friend (both newly out) would say faggot all the time until a teacher told us off and my friend (v cocky) said actually miss i can reclaim it to which the teacher was like ...its still a swear word ur still not allowed to use it like its not that deep. and that was a sort of revelation like 'oh yeah this word obvs holds meaning and whatever but at the end of the day us reclaiming it isnt revolutionary its just two kids who got their hands on a new curse word to use' & ever since then i try to figure out whoevers using faggot in a useful or meaningful way vs whoever is just excited to use a forbidden word. n i think for a lot of ppl its the latter

So for context, I saw a post where someone had left a comment with Israel apologia, and someone else responded by screenshotting their blog, which has a cutesy Tumblr aesthetic, and added a screenshot of another post about what it called "Smol bean Zionism." I noticed the blogger's bio also said "proud faggot," so I tagged the post:

"Are we ready to admit the 'proud faggot' is not contradictory to the smol beanification but part and parcel to it?"

I see sentiments on Tumblr that "I call myself a faggot to scare the tenderqueers," but I think the cute harmless approach and the edgy approach are two sides of the same coin. Molly Rose on substack writes about how she as a Black woman could never get away with "tenderqueer" behavior. She writes: "As far as I can tell, the hallmark of a true tenderqueer is an unwavering avoidance of responsibility or culpability at all costs, paired with the use of social justice and personal advocacy language to ensure that lack of accountability." The real problem with this type then is not that they're too sensitive, but that their sensitivity is a tool by which they act like they could never be in the wrong. So we see a soft type and an edgy type, but both wear their victimhood on their sleeve to feign superiority and avoid any kind of interpersonal conflict. The former will invoke queerness or neurodivergence to guilt trip you, and the latter will act above it all and treat you like you're stupid for even caring. It's "enough discourse, we should be making out with tongue" when trans women try to talk about transmisogyny, etc.

With all these discussions of the "tenderqueer," It's easy to forget that "queer" was that transgressive word said to connote political radicalism, or rather, speak political radicalism into existence just by uttering that very word. And while I have heard people prop up "fag" and it's equivalents as the solution when the former has been watered down, they are not getting to the root of the problem. If the problem is that some have turned the supposed magical powers of a word into a political dead end, the solution is not to go find other magical words to replace it. I am aware and respectful of the fact that to some, these words really are a political statement, or a symbolic gesture that they're not afraid or have moved beyond past wounds. Any word is what you make it. But to get back to your point, yeah, some people have that same teenager's mentality of getting their hands on a new curse word. And it does not automatically make them meaningfully transgressive or even interesting.

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Hanif Abdurraqib, They Can't Kill Us Until They Kill Us

#AH! #earth

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#hrm.how to. well. neither of these r uhh a negative experience for me... #i have been told i have very good veins ✌🏾 #hehe .

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#my job provided everyone with glasses and we all gathered outside and ooh aah'd

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This was the most dreamy experience ive ever had. It was so beautiful!!!!!!!

#earth