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pretty boys as chew toys do you agree

#reblogs #other peoples stuff #absolutely

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I feel like such a jackass for unfollowing someone who started shipping with Al/as/tor but like half my dash is filtered posts I'm so sorry duder but ya girl just can't;;

#vent #lol dont mind me #i know its okay but ugggghhhh

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‘Imagine Your S/I Was Canon…’ Self-Ship Asks

✍️: Overall, how does the fandom trait you? Are you a beloved character, or hated? Are you popular, or a minor side character? Anything in between?

📝: How would your story in canon go? How would you influence the events of the original story?

🤪: What is your trait that fanon would exaggerate?

🥰: How would someone who loved you portray you?

😡: How would someone who hated you portray you?

👯: What canon character are you most similar to?

🌦️: Would you be accompanied by mostly fluff or angst fanfics? Both? Explain why.

🏷️: What is you and your f/o’s ship name?

❤️: How popular is you x your f/o? Are you a rarepair?

💞: Aside from with your f/o, who else would you commonly be shipped with? Why?

☕️: What are the most common plots of shipping fics between you and your f/o?

🛌: What tropes show up in fics involving your ship?

🪐: What would be your most popular AU and why?

💘: Why would people love your ship? Why would people dislike your ship? How might it start debates?

🙈: Why would your ship be thought of as cute/fluffy? Why would your ship be considered problematic?

🎞️: What ‘canon’ scenes would the fandom point to as evidence for the validity of your ship?

💌: How would your dynamic be portrayed? What might people focus on most? Any misconceptions?

👀: How does your ship with your f/o influence both of your characterisations and the world? Would there be any interesting metas written about your dynamic?

#reblogs #ask games

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i think i’ve talked about this before but when it comes to main f/os does anyone else feel like they didn’t even really get a choice. people ask me why i like the character and im like I DONT KNOW ONE DAY I JUST FOUND MYSELF INEXPLICABLY SOULBOUND TO THEM DUE TO MEANS BEYOND MY UNDERSTANDING . it was not a conscious decision. bro picked me

#reblogs #other peoples stuff #NO BUT FORREAL THO

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selfshippers‼️ reblog and say in the tags a song that reminds you of your (romantic, platonic, or familial!) self ship pleaaaase

#reblogs #other peoples stuff #In A Moments Time is so bill coded frfr #Conspiracy theorists conspiracy

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imagine: your f/o looking deeply into your eyes, cradling your face in their hands and say,

"Hey, listen to me. I love you. I chose you, and I choose you every single day. There's no one else I want, no one else I could ever imagine being with. You're my rock, my light, my everything."

#reblogs #other peoples stuff #god i wishhh bro

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So I just read this great post by @kittyandco and it struck a really, really deep chord with me as someone who was also in the selfship community in ye olden days (as in, pre-pandemic olden days).

Now, don't get me wrong, those days weren't perfect either. I still experienced hostility for little reason, and it still hurts me to think about and affects my ability to trust people to this day. And I sure as hell wasn't the only one, or the one who had it the worst. But that lack of good faith that used to be the exception really does feel like the norm now, and it makes interacting way more stressful than it ever was back then. You're expected to read novella-length DNIs and can't interact with or follow anyone without fearing that you missed one of your fandoms on their DNI list and will get shit for it.

(And those pages are often confusing to navigate and use hard-to-read colors, to boot. Seriously, the Web Content Accessibility Guidelines should be mandatory reading for anyone making a Carrd or Rentry account)

And that's not even to mention the fear of what you say to someone in a private conversation getting twisted and shared and vagueposted about without your permission. That's something I've witnessed happen to multiple friends of mine. Again, isolated incidents back then, way more common than it should be now.

Meanwhile, *old woman voice* back in my day... What I always think back to was the really popular ask game that would go around, where you could ask whoever reblogged it to come up with headcanons for your F/Os. And people were sending each other asks left and right! People were excited to look up F/Os they'd never heard of to come up with a little pick-me-up for the person in their ask box! And I remember them being a blast to read and write!

Nowadays? If your F/Os are from sources that's not in the media zeitgeist or another limited set of perennial sources people will generally know enough to engage with... Good luck getting anyone to talk to you. (And that definitely goes double for anyone who ships with characters who aren't white men or isn't white themselves, that's a whole other issue that I've definitely experienced as a lesbian.)

I think it's both the growing atmosphere of hostility and social media in general's growing focus on "making content" and "branding" that keeps people from reaching out to each other unless they ship the same kinds of things they do. It's not really a community anymore. And that sucks, because that's a problem that's infected selfship spaces from the social media landscape as a whole

But I think we could still make the choice to see each other as people. Because, at the end of the day, selfshippers don't really have anywhere else to go. We're all just a bunch of people who carry love for characters in our hearts. Shouldn't we be willing to extend that love to each other, too?

(Obviously, this comes with caveats. I don't know if this is just me and my friends, but it also feels like we're all just too tired nowadays to reach out or meaningfully engage with other shippers' work. I'm definitely guilty of going MIA for long periods for that reason, so I'm not going to act like the lack of interaction with my blog specifically isn't my fault there. But in my experience I've seen a lot of that exhaustion come from this, from the walking on eggshells and the lack of reciprocity of the energy you put in, so it all still applies)

#reblogs #other peoples stuff #ur so right tho #been here since pre-pandemic too #its so different now and idk how to feel #i was never super popular but sometimes my posts go around #so really there was no change for me #i just stopped posting abt my ships lol #i think its nicer to lift up other people anyways

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“You can’t self ship with multiple characters from the same source material how would that even wo—“

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I will always think it's one of the most beautiful things that we look at characters who are unloved by the narrative, who have never experienced a moment of comfort in their lives, who are tired and angry and vengeful and lonely, who think they are unlovable monsters,

and we say hey, I love you. I will love you, and I will love you on purpose. I will accept your flaws and your sins and love you anyway. I will give you the happy ending you never got. I will rescue you when nobody else would. I see some of myself in you and so I understand, and I will treat you like I hope to be treated. Here is the story I wrote for you instead, the one where you can rest, the one where you can heal, because everyone deserves to heal.

#reblogs #other peoples stuff #i need a tag for this guy;;

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“I could fix him”; “I could make him worse!” Why??????? Why all this DIY???? I just wanna stand over his shoulder and see what he can possibly fuck up next

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I'm still alive on here I promise lol

I just can't think of things to post tbh. It feels strange, like I'm trying to justify my relationships? I know that's not the case but even so

#meltys thoughts #idk dont mind me ive been in a weird mood lately #i need to go outside more for things that arent work i think

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being a self shipper uncomfortable with doubles/sharing fucking sucks. people are so fucking nasty and for what

people in the self ship community that are okay with doubles 9 times out of 10 make you feel bad for not being okay with it

and people outside of the community look at you like youre a freak and they try to shit out "ohh gatekeeping gatekeeping"

like many people dont understand why some self shippers dont like sharing nor do they take the time to understand.

many self shippers dont just self ship with a character bcus "oh attractive ooh theyre my type" but because they have a deep personal and spiritual bond with said character, that character brings them a wave of comfort, safety, and serenity better that anything in reality can. seeing someone else love up on them and be like "omg i feel the same" when you gush about them literally feels like someone saying that about your ACTUAL partner. and it hurts so fucking much.

non sharing self shippers arent trying to gatekeep a character, they arent trying to stop others from enjoying/self shipping with them, they just want people to refrain from doing it around them.

like dude im not some twisted childish bitch im just trying to avoid distress and a complete breakdown. thx.

#reblogs #thank you op i feel so seen #also PLEASE TAG UR POSTS IM BEGGING YOU #i dont wanna block or unfollow folks outright cause id feel bad but plz just tag ur posts so i can filter em properly

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For those who are uncomfortable sharing F/Os:

🧡 Your feelings matter and you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Selfshipping can be incredibly unique to each individual, so your reasonings are valid and that's all that really matters

🎩 Your F/Os absolutely adore you and nothing will ever change their mind, feeling possessive of them isn't something that bothers them in the slightest! In fact, they're very protective of you as well, they want you to only ever think of them

🧡 Remember to curate your experience! It's important to look out for content that may upset you, so don't ever feel ashamed for unfollowing, muting and blocking accounts that post things you don't wish to see!

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hey this is making the rounds again

it's still true btw. for me and everyone else

Adding a reminder for myself (and anyone who needs) for when I get back from class.

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"You're glorifying a fictional murderer!" NO I'M NOT!!!!!!I'm sexualizing him.

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love when a mutual post "im thinking about making this character an f/o" and then the next day my dash is 90% that character