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[gaydhan]

here is a sweet story for you all:

the first time I saw my grandmother after coming out and starting HRT she said “here he comes” as I stepped out of the car and then started jumping up and down saying “he! he!! I’m going to remember!!” I started to say hello and she goes “oh! your voice!! wait, let me hear you say something” I say “hi grandmother” and she smiles really big and says “oh… that is a miracle :-)”

the moral of the story is that sometimes coming out is awesome and my grandmother rules. happy pride ✨

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hey tumblr go eat shit you gormless little sex hating bitch

[gaydhan]

You know what, fuck it. If transfems can get banned for posting nonsexual timelines, I'll gladly go down hand in hand with my sisters. Here's 2019, 6 months before my egg cracked, to 2024, happily on Estrogen for a year and a half. I stand proudly with my community on this.

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Ok y’all, I need you to drop links for free binder services. It’s November which means that parents won’t think it’s odd for their children to request that they not inspect packages. They’ll simply assume it’s a present for whatever holiday they observe. So please do your part by dropping links in the reblogs and trying to get this seen by those who need it

edit: k, so I mean this in nicest way possible. Liking isn’t going to help anyone. This isn’t just for me, other people need these links. If you if you can’t/don’t have the energy to find and post links to ACTIVE donations. Please at least reblog so someone who follows you can. Please and thank you <3

[gaydhan]

On the topic of new trans men figuring themselves out and how it’s not like anyone gives out a manual on how to be a man, and also on the topic of supporting more queer POC

Can we talk about the unique experience of genuinely not knowing what haircuts to even consider when you’re black??? Because like… “short hair” happens with both black men and black women, bald/shaved happens with both, long happens with both, braids and locs happen with both, afros happen with both

It took me forever to figure out that I can do all of the variations I’d been doing, just that the unique styling is different on these gender lines.

[gaydhan]

A world without trans people has never existed and it never will.

Seriously just search (Trans History).

Here are some examples:

"Sumerian and Akkadian texts from 4,500 years ago document priests known as gala who may have been transgender. In Ancient Greece, Phrygia, and Rome, there were galli priests that some scholars believe to have been trans women.

Roman emperor Elagabalus (d. 222 AD) preferred to be called a lady (rather than a lord) and sought sex reassignment surgery, and in the modern day has been seen as a trans figure. 

Hijras on the Indian subcontinent and kathoeys in Thailand have formed trans-feminine third gender social and spiritual communities since ancient times, with their presence documented for thousands of years in texts which also mention trans male figures. Today, at least half a million hijras live in India and another half million in Bangladesh, legally recognized as a third gender, and many trans people are accepted in Thailand.

In Arabia, khanith today (like earlier mukhannathun) fulfill a third gender role attested since the AD 600s.

In Africa, many societies have traditional roles for trans women and trans men, some of which survive in the modern era.

In the Americas prior to European colonization, as well as in some contemporary North American Indigenous cultures, there are social and ceremonial roles for third gender people, or those whose gender expression transforms, such as the Navajo nádleehi or the Zuni lhamana."

In conclusion. Being trans is not a fad and it isn't going anywhere just because some crazy religious nut jobs say we don't fit into their abusive hateful world views. We are here and always will be. So get used to it. 👋😘

[gaydhan]

I had to steal these from a d*ily m*il article but AG has released a book promoting body diversity and love, which includes parts supporting trans kids!

Conservatives are ofc throwing a fit rn– so over here in our trans-inclusive space, let’s show overwhelming support for this book! Esp with the recent h*rry p*tter collab, let’s show AG that we want them to continue supporting ALL women!

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I’m going to talk about being transfem and butch.

I get misgendered in public a lot. Never cruelly. Just a lot. Which makes sense.

I’m 190lbs of muscle with a deep voice. Which I enjoy. Typically I’m wearing leather and jeans. The vast majority of people are going to gender me as male because my gender presentation is inherently masculine, and other parts of me are also masculine.

This is a problem that cis butches face regularly, and that fact helps me cope with constantly being read as male. But it aches the most when I see other lesbians/queer women.

I don’t really get to be ‘publicly’ lesbian. If I see another dyke on the street, I’m just a man. There’s no quiet solidarity there. There’s no recognition.

Femmes don’t preen under my gaze at a bar. Instead, I have to walk up and explain my whole situation and hope that they’re cool. Which is rough, because sometimes they’re not. Or, worse, they say they are, but they aren’t. Which results in a lot of wasted time for everybody.

It takes a supreme amount of self-confidence to walk up to a cute girl and boldly declare yourself also a girl in a voice that immediately gives some kind of lie to what you’re saying.

So, baseline, I’m pushing and establishing boundaries. I’m already testing her just by talking to her. Which makes flirting hard, you see? If I feel like I’m already toeing a line, then I’m not going to make a sly comment about her dress. I am, instead, going to be as non-threatening as possible.

This is a great way to make new friends and acquaintances (I have a lot), but a terrible way to get laid.

So, my point is that if you meet a transbutch girl understand that she’s already putting up a LOT of work just be here. So, you know, maybe touch my her arm and give me her a compliment if you’re interested.

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16/11/22

Looking particularly scruffy rn so thought it'd be a good time to document my facial hair before I get it under control again

There truly is a shocking amount of ginger in there

#transgender #ftm #trans guy #transition #ftm hrt #testosterone #trans man #trans punk #hrt

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13/10/22

Updates from me have been few and far between but I feel like I'm at a nice comfortably boring stage of my transition where nothing is massively changing and I'm just feeling pretty chill and good where I am. That being said, here are some recent photos in which the biggest change is how ridiculously quickly my hair grows.

To finish, I'm sure my hair used to be straight but it has apparently changed its mind. Who knows if that's just come with age, is a result of shaving my head, or is a side effect of testosterone 🤷🏻‍♂️

#transgender #ftm #trans guy #transition #ftm hrt #testosterone #trans man #trans punk #ftm surgery #hrt #post top surgery #post op

[gaydhan]

Taking T didn't ruin my singing voice, and frankly I'm sick of folks panicking and ignoring the fact that cis boys go through two or three years where their voices are fluctuating and cracking and changing before they settle.

Your voice isn't ruined, it's changing.

If you want to make that transition easier, you gotta keep using it. Sing! Even if your voice cracks in goofy ways. Even if you have trouble placing your voice comfortably. It gets easier, I promise. Get a voice teacher (if you can) who has experience with vocal changes for pubescent cis boys if it's really making you anxious or if you're having a hard time controlling it.

To be clear, I'm not trying to be dismissive of people's emotions, nor am I trying to tell you about your own experience. If you feel something intensely, that's fair and valid. Respectfully, you should unpack that with a therapist or supportive peers.

However, when one of the main TERF tactics against transmascs is convincing trans guys that T makes you Worse in a Variety of Ways, and that you'll be ruining your body if you take it, I am EXTREMELY dubious of how many people online report any part of their body being ruined by T. Sounds suspiciously like TERF shit. And, yes, even Actual Trans People can play into TERF talking points. I'm begging y'all to stop the rampant fearmongering surrounding T.

So, after nearly a year being on T, I'm here to say that YES my voice cracks and YES my voice fluctuates and YES sometimes it feels like I have to relearn everything I knew about being a vocalist, but goddamn if I won't have fun figuring it all out, because I know this is just one stage of the transition I'm going through, and it's worth it.

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Welcome to the funniest set of memes I’ve ever seen thank you

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realizing I could technically say “yeah my mother wanted a girl so she dressed me like a little girl” to explain my childhood photos and it would technically be correct and win me much more sympathy than just saying I’m trans

[gaydhan]

Happy one year anniversary to my lack of tits! I'm back in Brighton but this year I'm swimming in the sea and going on amusement rides

#transgender #ftm #trans guy #transition #ftm hrt #testosterone #trans man #trans punk #ftm surgery

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Shaved my head a year ago today before I got top surgery, how time flies 😂

#transgender #ftm #trans guy #transition #ftm hrt #testosterone #trans man #ftm surgery #trans punk #hrt

[gaydhan]

It's International Transgender Day of Visibility.

Although this is a festive occasion, it is also a date to protest against the harshness and the violence that our trans sisters and brothers face everyday

Let's end trans discrimination now!

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God i love this image