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i think we need to start saying "same hat" again. weve forgotten the yaoi

#same hat <3

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from what i understand dungeon meshi is about hairy man panty shots shirtless blonde women grasping hands and looking into eachothers eyes and middle aged union men who look like twelve year olds

#dunmeshi

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MONKEY MAN (2024)

#EPIC HIJRA INCLUSION MOMENT #dev patel

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A windy day with a moderate temperature will make you feel like you got reborn into a world that really loves you this time

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being 5'7" is so fucked. AND i'm a top. i suffer more than you could ever know.

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#we used to have cheryl blossom being a lesbian loser on our screens every week

#lmaaaooo

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Relevant as ever

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the specific frustration with dungeon meshi is that there's been a very distinct shift in fan content and a very clear reason for it. it was one of the rare cases of a decently popular work where the vast majority of fan content you saw was gen or f/f; m/m ships existed but they were not anywhere near as overwhelming as in other fan spaces, and people who heard about dunmeshi by word of mouth often came in knowing about farcille. the anime started airing after the manga was completed and is a pretty faithful adaptation, it's not as if it added any more fanservice/sexualization/shipping fodder. the only difference is that it made dunmeshi more mainstream/popular, and that's when the focus started shifting towards m/m ships and away from gen and f/f. for the people who enjoyed being in a fan space that unlike 99% of fandoms wasn't m/m focused, that fucking sucks, and there's nothing you can do about it because you are always flat out outnumbered

#yeah...... #tagstealing: #chilchuck got his arm bitten off for being faithful to his wife and you want to yaoify him. #like its literally just if you reach critical mass it becomes a game of finding two guys to smack together. sorry! #has nothing to do with the work itself the characters and their relationships the themes etc

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i don’t have rizz i have big brown eyes and a loving heart

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Messages of support and strength from Rafah, Palestine to the US student movement.

#free palestine

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if a friend is experiencing/has experienced a loss and is grieving, and you don't have any experience in the arena of loss, please allow me to offer some advice on navigating conversations about the deceased loved one.

not every mention of their person is the saddest part of their day. sometimes saying "this was their favorite song" "oh they would have LOVED this" "God I wish they could hear the conversation happening at the next table" "I wish they were here" is lighthearted. the mention of their person can be joyful. or melancholic. or, of course, sad. it can be all of those things at once. but no matter, react to the sentiments as just another piece of the conversation.

you don't need to drop a 55 pound weight onto the conversation and stare at us in pity or silently stare in a combination of confusion and discomfort and sadness.

it's okay. we know they're dead. you acknowledging that in an equal state of nonchalantness will not shock us to death, it's not tasteless or crude. it's a relief. our dead people are still parts of our lives just like anything else, and giving your loved ones the space and comfort and safety to talk about their person is huge.

you can always respond by asking to hear more, by mimicking their tone. your friend laughs and says "they would have LOVED this", take it as a chance to learn why! was their favorite color yellow? did they love kitschy little throw pillows? did they utterly DESPISE kitschy throw pillows? are they referencing a specific story?

if they see someone that looks like their person and get a little sad, ask what reminds them of their person. what was their favorite feature of their person? does it make them mostly sad to see someone who looks like their person? did it make them feel a little bit happy for a moment?

we want to talk about our deceased loved ones. we yearn to mention people who shaped us. the way our society has conditioned us to behave around grief, to respond to the grieving, and to grieve ourselves is so backwards and void of empathy, so we often don't say what we wish we could say. (bell hooks has a wonderful chapter on this in all about love, new visions (ch 11))

by offering opportunities for people to reminisce you are truly making an impact and fostering a safe environment for those around you to grieve in ways we're often not offered.

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i am yet another product of the “child who was at best tolerated by the people around them” to “adult who is genuinely confused when people like spending time with them” pipeline

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someone posted a photo of their kid’s to do list on reddit and two of the items were “be weird” and “be content” and i am unironically going to carry that with me