taboo kinks like pedophilia/rape/incest are not innate to transfemininity or to queerness or to autism and this current wave of attempts to naturalize them as such is alarming and suspicious
I was dropped from a few major nonprofit video campaigns right after I cut my hair as a teenager. They didn’t give an explanation. They didn’t need to. I quickly realized I was no longer respectable enough for them to use as an example “good” feminine trans girl. Instead, they worried I may make cis parents think their kids would continue to refuse gender roles regardless of transition status (which they somehow treated as a bad thing). The situation made me think about how much effort we put into appeasing society’s inclination toward homogeneity.
I rarely saw other butch trans women in media at the time and realized why that was: an active process of large nonprofits trying to make trans more appealing to the mainstream at the expense of our gender nonconforming siblings.
Bringing in allies shouldn’t mean excluding anybody. If you only support trans women who fit rigid ideas of what (trans) women can look like, then you don’t actually support trans people at all. Speaking up for trans women who don’t meet expectations of gender is absolutely essential for our community. By advocating for those on the margins of gender, we uplift all our communities.