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[hetamyuist]

then why add this to my post when it adds nothing of value to what i was saying. "i don't like fucked up shit" no one asked.

see the thing that annoys me a lot about so many self-professed dark fiction enjoyers is the like the. implicit belief that because a romance is predatory or meant to be read as horrifying means that all the tender or caring moments are just for manipulation or some shit. like ok fair im one of those annoying "everything is about love" bitches but just because the love is horror doesn't mean like. the people involved aren't capable of genuine tenderness towards each other lol

#if you can't add anything insightful to a discussion stay quiet

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Sorry to ask this. I was going through a blog when I saw a callout post. I checked it out of curiosity. One of the things that was pointed out was : "when they were 31, they had sex with a 18 year old -they are a teenager!- and it's predatory! I (the writer of the callout) am 21 years old and even I don't have sex with 18 year olds because they are very young and it's very predatory!"

So, idk how to feel about that? Especially as someone who has never been in a relationship. I'm 20 years old, soon I'll be 21. Looking at myself at 18 and the future 21, I really didn't change that much? Physically or mentally. Yeah 18 is young but so is 21?? I don't think it's predatory, am I wrong?/serious question

And for the first part, yeah a 31 year old being with a 18 is weird for me, but aren't they both adults? They also said it's because 18 year olds lack experience, which can be true but that's assuming they have never been in a relationship before(with people their own age or similar). So, it can be weird but predatory? Is it?/serious question

I'm sorry if the questions are upsetting &/or weird but I really don't have anyone else to ask- parents are out of question, they literally think you should teach people about sex right before marriage- and I don't trust most online spaces. There's also zero books about such things in my country because "protect the children!!". So now we have an adult(me) who was raised to never ask question about these things and now is confused as hell. Hmm.....

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It's all hogwash.

On average, I would assume that a 31-year-old having sex with an 18-year-old is a bit of a creep. However, it would depend entirely on the circumstances. Is this 18-year-old a naive high school student? Or are they someone who's been working a job for several years? Maybe the older person is their coworker whom they got to know.

A 21-year-old and an 18-year-old can be weird in the US if they only just met and one is a high school student while the other is a university student. But what if they met in some very different context where they're more in the same stage of life? Sure, I side-eye upperclassmen who start dating freshmen the first week of their freshman year, but what about later on in the year? What if both of these people aren't students at all and are, again, working a job together?

"You're mature for your age" is a line that creepers feed to younger people, but it can also be true. Some people just get along better with older partners.

We shouldn't be too draconian about any specific rule. You can only judge by the real circumstances of a specific set of people.

Predators are defined by their behavior, not ticky-box demographics. There is no absolute that lets you detect them and protect yourself. People wish there were because they would feel safer. That's what this kind of post is about.

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メシくれよなのです

Give me dinner💢

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I was screaming internally so much that I lost my internal voice!!!

THOSE PHOTOSHOOTS WILL BE THE DEATH OF ME!!!!

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This part was so adorable! How Someya looked away the moment Wada was getting closer to him and looking at him~ His face was really cute here~

And this part!! Wada! Why are you opening your mouth like that?! And the video ended at that part! Are you a vampire? Or maybe you were going for a kiss?! (I WISH).

GIVE US A KISS ALREADY! ENOUGH WITH THE TEASING!!

#they really need to kiss it's insane #solliev0

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#tips

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skskskskskskksksks

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こふと　ちゃしろさん　みーてぃんぐ中でち

Kofu and Mr.Orange white are having a MTG

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The thing that really baffles me about the f/f discourse is that it presupposes people make conscious choices about which characters they ship. Maybe some people do, but I don't, and as far as I've ever been able to tell, I can't. Either two characters strike me as having chemistry or they don't (the vast majority of ANY gender don't,) and I'm sure as hell not gonna write about a pairing I don't actually like or enjoy just to earn brownie points with a bunch of bullying entitled internet randos.

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caring more about making people uncomfortable (sorry, ‘afflicting the comfortable’) than actually moving the needle in a positive direction are you?

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Thinking Yana Toboso put a simulated sex scene in her manga as a dunk on shippers in the very first year of Kuro's publication before it was even popular (after years upon years of her drawing r18+ doujinshi of Prince of Tennis and Nitro Chiral games) will never stop being the most delusional and clueless fanfiction that people have tried to write about her.

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https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/748336466527207424/httpswwwtumblrcomfoolish-edworm7479185145165?source=share

These people are so exhausting.

First of all, don't come into my pockets to count how much change I have to then school me on what I should do with what I have. It's none of your businesses who I give my money to, nor how much, nor for what reason. I could spend it all on haunted porcelain dolls on eBay, and it would still be none of your businesses.

Second, this is Tumblr, and I'm not gonna blindly donate to someone because otherwise the OP who scoured their GFM by putting *insert hot topic discussion of the week* in the searchbar will accuse me of racism. With Ao3, I have full transparency of where the money is going (even if these dimwits refuse to read more than five lines in a row and therefore are shocked anytime people go to them and say "Here's a link of how they handle the money"), with GFMs and requests of monetary donations from randos, I'm gonna be more cautious. Remember uncle-father? Remember 6penceee? Remember HIVliving? Remember Rose Christo, the woman who pretended to be the original author of My Immortal because she really wanted to sell us all her (fake) memoir and was then outed by her brother on KiwiFarms? Yeah. Thought so.

Third, no, I'm not gonna blindly follow the advice of people who have their blogs completely under lock and key. I get not allowing anons, people can be shitty, but I don't trust people if they're not willing to be fully transparent (meaning: having their archives accessible and blog searchbars available). Normally, I wouldn't even notice it, wouldn't even look for it, but if you're out there preaching about how we're all bad people if we don't do this or we don't do that, if we dare have hobbies you don't like, if we dare use Ao3 because "it's for pedophiles and therefore you're one too," then I expect full and complete transparency on your part.

You don't get to seat yourself atop the highest throne, demand I take money from my wages and spend it at your command, and still hide away shit about your person because you're scared to be called out on it. You don't get to be the morality police when you're shitting your pants at the thought of people digging through what you posted last month (and it's always, always some bad-wrong fic that was posted on Ao3.)

Oh, and also, as a fourth: I've been in fandom for close to two decades. I've been in big fandoms, small fandoms, fandoms that resisted discourse and the test of time, and fandoms that crumbled underneath them immediately, and I've been using Ao3 religiously since the early 2010s. Never in my fandom life I've encountered the amount of extreme porn depicting (extremely young) minors they keep saying there is. Is there some? Sure, especially in bigger fandoms. Is there enough that it's impossible to avoid? No. I've been in fandoms where there was some, sure, but at no point that was the majority of what's uploaded to it. If they see so much of it, then it's because they go looking for it.

I won't be called Boo Boo the Fool by people who strut around pretending their jester hats are kingly crowns.

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[hetamyuist]

wistfully remembering how people (pretended they) cared about antisemitism when it was primarily coming from the right. like there are pre-2023 posts with 10s of thousands of notes about antisemitism. now any mention of the existence of antisemitism (when its worse than it ever was) doesn’t breach containment outside of jewish circles. its almost funny how quickly people stopped caring when it was inconvenient.

[hetamyuist]

#i had classes with a guy named legolas once

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my shinkai hiji-hen bromides arrived today, so i present: my random bromide haul!

(sorry for the potato quality lmao) i got two otori dupes but i got two of hijikata's randoms and a sannan one so like whatever. also sano heisuke and shinpachi in one haul!!

also presenting: the hijichi bromide!! they look so good together

anddd the hijikata set i got! I also got a tiny round sannan.

so far i'm very happy with this bromide haul!

#hakumyu #hakuouki #i'll scan em in a bit

[hetamyuist]

https://olderthannetfic.tumblr.com/post/748231531550703616/the-thing-about-xiran-is-i-got-sucked-in-by-their#notes

I'm really a bit between thinking this is petty, and genuine surprise that you didn't notice that the person unironically simping for a political figure would be fucking weird about politics. I mean, during your browsing of the RS memes, didn't you ever see their posts literally mouthing off at actual French people, and any people critical of those horny for the French revolution?

Like, they've literally written rants and gotten into fights about this, I mean. As if real French people needed a mouthy foreigner with no ties to France to explain French history to them while trying to ride a high horse, and while telling literal French people they're victims of propaganda and they're getting RS and the French revolution all wrong, just so they can continue nursing that stan-boner for a politician.

Honestly at this point I'm wondering why people are surprised when anyone who's an unironic fan of ANY politicians turns out to be a red flag waving weirdo with a real broken understanding of politics. If you're a fan of an actor, artist, musician, writer, that's one thing, but of politicians? Unironically? I don't think there's enough red dye or fabric in the world to showcase how big that red flag is.

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[hetamyuist]

Man if you only ever reblog Jewish stuff that tokenizes antizionist Jews from people who, Jewish themselves or not, post nothing but unsourced bullshit and blood libel, you are not slick and you can get the fuck away from me.