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“This boy is Ignorance. This girl is Want. Beware them both, and all of their degree, but most of all beware this boy, for on his brow I see that written which is Doom…”

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<3

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hahahaaa

Remember that reddit post that was going around several months ago about the dude who wanted an open relationship with his girlfriend because he wanted to date “hotter” women than his fat girlfriend but then when she agreed she was dating tons of hot guys and he couldn’t get a single woman to date him so he wanted to close the relationship because he thought it was unfair?

Sometimes I think about that and it gives me life.  

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~~<3~~

rest in power!

R.I.P. Philthy

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Slow-Mo of Sasha Banks with a Diving Double Knee Drop onto Brie Bella

Slow enough to see Brie’s life flashing before her eyes before Sasha pummels her :D

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#alice bag #the bags #chicana

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Sex Workers, language and slurs

This is the same stuff I’ve said a lot in more posts than I can remember but I want to make a specific post about it since I get a lot of questions about these things and I want to add it to my resources page.

Prostitute is a Slur

Prostitute is a word that is used entirely to criminalize sex workers. The word refers specifically to exchanging sex acts for money, which is a crime in most places, and is part of the reason other terms like ‘escort’ came along; escorting is selling one’s time which may or may not include sex, and is paid by an hourly rate, whereas prostitution is paid by the sex act. In many places, ‘escorting’ allows a loophole for full service sex work though it also has some classist implications. It remains though that prostitute is a word that strips full service sex workers of our humanity and reduces us to criminals; this is the history and intention of it. It is a slur, so don’t use it except to self refer if you’re a full service sex worker yourself.

Hooker is a Slur

Hooker is a disparaging term for a full service sex worker, often linked to street-based work, which again has class issues. It is used to demean and degrade full service sex workers. Don’t use it.

Whore is a Slur

This is an area where a lot of people fuck up, believing bullshit like “but whore is used to target all women!” No shit, guess why? Because it refers to full services sex workers. That’s the entire reason why it’s offensive. When you call someone a whore, you are literally calling them a full service sex worker. Don’t do it, and don’t use it for yourself if you’re not a sex worker (the word can be applied to sex workers who don’t do full service in some situations, but only to self refer). 

When you use any of the above words, you are contributing to whorephobia; the specific marginalization that sex workers, usually women, experience in every aspect of society from interpersonal relationships to the state. This stigma often results in discrimination, violence, rape, death and even murder. Language matters. Words are important. 

Whorephobia

Whorephobia is the term that sex workers coined in the 1970s to describe this oppression. This is the only instance where non sex workers can use the word whore. While there are problems raised with this word, it’s what we have, it’s been around for 40 years now so unless sex workers decide to change it (if that’s even possible) this is what we have whether we like it or not. The fact that this word contains a slur is no fucking excuse to attack people for using it, and the only people who complain about it are whorephobic fauxminists themselves who are trying to silence us by taking away our language to call them out on their bigotry while changing the subject, trying to paint US as misogynists. This is not a “new libfem term” and libfeminism has fucking nothing to do with sex worker rights anyway; sex workers have historically occupied the fringes of society, something which every brand of feminism likes to avoid.  If you don’t feel comfortable using this word, feel free to write it as wh*rephobia instead.

Street-Walker is a Slur

This word specifically attacks street-based workers, who experience the worst marginalization of all sex workers with all other things being equal. Even in sex worker spaces, street-based workers are often looked down on by indoor sex workers such as escorts or brothel workers. This is called lateral whorephobia and it’s fucked up. No one gets to use this phrase except street-based workers. 

Pimp is another term that often comes up in these conversations. It has a complicated history and has strong anti-Black connotations. Pimping is a reality, it definitely does happen and there are situations where this word is appropriate. It’s also a concept used to attack sex workers by criminalizing anyone who assists us; legally, anyone who helps a sex worker organize their appointments or drives them to and from a client can be charged as a pimp. It’s a disparaging term that often targets friends and partners of sex workers. It’s also widely used by anti sex worker fauxminists to discredit peer-based organizations; SWERFs will baselessly claim that sex worker organizations are actually run by pimps. This virtually never happens as most organizations have strict policies regarding who can become a member; only sex workers can join peer-based organizations. 

John is a term used to refer to the clients of sex workers. We virtually never use it, we call them clients cos that’s what they are though some sex workers call their clients tricks. That’s really up to them, but non sex workers would be better off using clients, especially since not all clients are men anyway. 

Appropriate Language 

The catch-all term for anyone who sells their sexual energy is ‘sex worker’. This includes strippers, peep show performers, brothel workers, cam performers and many more. The key point is that they sell their sexual energy; there are people in the sex industry who don’t and therefore are not sex workers, such as security staff, DJs, drivers, managers etc. 

Since this is an umbrella term, you may need to refer to specific sex industry positions.

Full service sex worker is anyone who has sex with their clients. Sex can be a variety of things but usually involves genitals touching (some sex workers only do massage with hand relief, and they are not full service sex workers), though not necessarily every time. The term implies that some form of penetrative sex is an available activity. Porn performers aren’t usually referred to as full service sex workers even though they have sex because the people they’re having sex with are not their clients, though some porn performers do full service sex work in addition to performing in porn.

Indoor sex worker generally refers to any full service sex worker who works indoors. They may work for themselves privately in their own homes or from hotel/motel/rented rooms, for an escort agency, or in a brothel/parlor. Indoor sex workers generally experience lower risks of violence; from clients, strangers and police. 

Street-based sex worker generally refers to sex workers who work outdoors or in public/semi public places. Some people consider sex workers who meet clients via the internet/newspaper advertisements and see them in semi-public spaces (e.g. cars, public toilets) to be street-based but more commonly, street-based sex worker means the sex worker meets their clients in a public place; sometimes a bar or club but more often, a stroll (a stroll is a street where sex workers tend to work; clients know to go to that street in particular to find sex workers and vice versa). Sometimes strolls are decriminalized; in Sydney for example, it’s not a criminal act for sex workers to meet clients at Kings Cross, though it isn’t legal to meet them in public anywhere else. Public sex is always illegal. Sometimes 'outdoor sex worker’ is used, but less commonly.

Brothel worker is pretty self explanatory, I’ve not heard of another term to refer to sex workers who are based in brothels. Some brothel workers also do escorting, either privately or via the brothel.

Escort is an acceptable word to use to refer to independent full service sex workers who work indoors, though some (like myself) dislike it because it has certain class connotations as above.

SWERF is an acronym that means 'sex worker exclusionist radical feminist’ and illustrates the fact that despite their protests, anti sex worker fauxminists actually hate us, including those of us who are forced, coerced and/or trafficked. They hide this behind false statistics and pretending that anyone with a tumblr account is too privileged to have an opinion, but in truth, they just want to silence us and force us out of our jobs. 

I hope this covers all the language questions, if I’ve missed anything please let me know

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Mmm, these luscious quartz dildos are perfect. I want to get stoned with one of these,

by Chakrubs ~ 

http://www.chakrubs.com/

#Chakrubs #Crystals #Dildo

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Very excited to be working this event!!! Going to sex nerd out very hard.

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New Post

Schedule announced for SHE New York 2015

Sexual Health Expo is pleased to announce the official show schedule for the New York edition of its groundbreaking upscale consumer event.

We-Vibe will serve as the registration sponsor of Sexual Health Expo, which kicks off with a special ribbon cutting on Saturday, Sept. 19.

Sexual Health Expo is set for Sept. 19-20 at the Millennium Broadway Hotel, located in the heart of New York City. View the SHE show schedule here.

SHE will feature two days of back-to-back workshops covering everything from cunnilingus and pegging to talking dirty and writing erotica.

Throughout the day, SHE’s exhibition hall will showcase the very best sex toys and accessories for women, men and couples on the market.

The SHE exhibition hall will introduce attendees to a wide range of products ranging from cutting-edge vibrators to sexual enhancement products such as massage gels, candles and more.

Exhibiting companies include Babeland, Hot Octopuss, Besharam, Fleshlight, The Elator, Pleasure Chest, Nuelle, Chakrubs, Kama Sutra, Erosscia, Passion Parties, One Taste NYC, Stud 100, Sybian, My Shiney Hiney, 50 Cent Candy, We-Vibe, Vibrators.com, Current Pleasures, Maia Toys, Dr. D Lifestyle, Sir Richard’s Condom Company, Jimmyjane, Ruff Doggie Styles, pjur, Venus, Bathmate, Blewit, Our Cabana, Sasha, Orchid and Serpent, C U in Bed, 4MoreLove.com, Nature Labs, Crave and Promescent.

Special guest speakers, sponsored by exclusive retail and sex-ed sponsor Pleasure Chest, will cover several sex-related issues ranging from dating tips, sex toy basics and tantra for beginners to pegging, unique orgasms and prostate pleasure.

Guest speakers participating in SHE workshops include: Kate McCombs, Allison Moon, Reid Mihalko, Charlie Glickman, Dr. Jess, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Megan Fleming, Francisco Ramirez, Midori, Dr. D and Annie Cruz, Lola, Rebecca Alvarez, Ducky Doolittle, Zhana Vrangalova, Dr. Ava Cadell, Hernando Chaves, Dr. Chris and more.

Celebrity sexpert and SHE official spokesperson Emily Morse rounds out the event’s speaker lineup with a special keynote on Sunday, Sept. 20.

For information about exhibiting at SHE as well as other participation opportunities, email [email protected].? ?For event information, visit SexualHealthExpo.com.

#SHEexpo #Sexual Health #Sex Nerd

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~Body Positivity~

~Sex Positive~

Watch: Poet reveals what it’s like to have sex when you have a disability

#Sex #disability

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Help me afford my existence. 

Who pays for the "free" college?

The “free” college would actually cost $80 billion a year. It’s not free by any means. Just have to clarify that, by no means does “tuition free” mean “free”. So anyway, Bernie Sanders plans to raise the funds for that by taxing $5 on every $100 spent in high frequency speculative Wall Street trading. This plan would raise an estimated $300 billion a year (that’s a fair bit more than $80 billion) and it would not impact the average American that much. The shares which most 401ks and IRAs are based on are not the same type of stock this tax would impact. This would be the speculative buy and sell type stuff the big banks engage in. When Goldman Sachs, JP Morgan, and other hugely successful Wall Street financial institutions have a stranglehold on the American economy and control over $9.8 trillion in financial assets,which is 60% of the GDP. Something has got to change. That is unsafe and economically unsound. A small tax to slowly redistribute that and create a massive amount of social utility seems worth it to me. That said, if you work for one of those elite banks I could see why you would be opposed.  

#free school

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Me on the train to Rockaway ~ hay~

#rockaway beach

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~ cheeseball thrash metals for the thunderstorm ~

#trash thrash! #Kreator

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Just made a new mixtape about an hour ago, throw it on if you’re feeling phonky! got both old and new southern sound.

Http://soundcloud.com/mamacakes/on-the-low

#feeling funky #brooklynwaste