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[jay-aro]

A lot of the time when I see people talk about aromanticism they bring up the way a lot of us tend to think that romance is just exaggerated in fiction and are surprised that people feel that way in real life and not just in the movies and that's honestly kind of funny, imagine just going about your life and one day finding out that most people's high school years were actually like disney channel and you're the exception

[jay-aro]

Three days since I got into a qpr, I gotta say it's nice to be able to understand myself and my feelings towards my best friend, and it's also nice to have someone I'm happy and comfortable around without having to lie to myself about feelings I don't have. It's nice to have company

#💚

[jay-aro]

Please communicate with your friends oh my god. When I was 12, my best friend who I grew up with got a massive crush and would only ever talk about that. I hated it. I felt left behind. At the time I didn't know I was aromantic but that was pretty much my first taste of feeling less important to someone because they have a romantic interest now. And guess what? I told her how I felt about that and she apologized to me and although she still talked about her crush, I wasn't being put aside anymore and we had other things to talk about too

So please. It is inevitable that your friends will find somebody which will most likely mean the friendship won't be a priority for them but when that happens please just tell them how you feel about that, I promise that they will listen to you. Your friends still love you and most of the time they just don't realize that they're putting you aside when they're preoccupied with their love life. If you don't tell them they won't know what the problem is

[jay-aro]

exporting/sharing is making them look a little crunchy on my end so apologies for that^^’

#aww!!!!

[jay-aro]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

[jay-aro]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

[jay-aro]

Joining the war on aros on the side of the aros

[jay-aro]

Sometimes, being aro can be lonely, but not in the way you'd expect. If you dont have a crush or you dont like someone or you dont think someone is hot, in most peoples eyes, you are boring. You are boring and no longer worth being around. You are uncomfortable with romance around you, now you are a prude who cant 'get bitches'. You will just be forgotten for not wanting love and it sucks.

[jay-aro]

Sometimes, being aro can be lonely, but not in the way you'd expect. If you dont have a crush or you dont like someone or you dont think someone is hot, in most peoples eyes, you are boring. You are boring and no longer worth being around. You are uncomfortable with romance around you, now you are a prude who cant 'get bitches'. You will just be forgotten for not wanting love and it sucks.

[jay-aro]

on sunflowers; a platonic love letter

i knew you then. i know you now. but how i wish i could have known you in that space between the two. how i wish we could have grown together.

we were sunflower seeds in the dirt, and even then i knew you were something special. you were good, so good. (for a week, i was convinced you were otherworldly, more than human. because i had no other concepts to explain how seen, how understood i felt when i was with you.) i was a child longing for connection, and when you entered my life, i almost didn't know what to do with all of the joy that followed.

we knew little of the world. we had so much growing to do. and in another lifetime, maybe we could have remained side by side throughout.

but the wind scattered us just out of reach. and i had a tendency to release my grasp on every good thing. it was chance that led to distance, but it was my own fear that led to silence. and i am sorry for the time we have lost.

and yet. we grew, reaching for the same sun. we grew in parallel arcs, turning to face the light, unfurling our leaves to touch the world with gentleness and courage.

and now i see you, here in the sunlight. we ended up here. we ended up okay. we cannot look into the past to see what made us who we are. but we can see who we were. and we can see who we are.

and i can say to you:

i knew you then. i know you now. i am sorry for the time between. thank you for not giving up on me. i love the person you are. i am proud of us both. you are someone i always want in my life.

i hope the future is kind to you. i hope your best days are ahead of you. i hope you know how loved you are. and i hope we see each other soon.

with this letter, i am sending you hugs and smiles and candy and music and legos and cool rocks and funny videos of baby animals and all of the happiness in the world.

your friend,

vivid.

#🥺🥺🥺 #this is really good!!!

[jay-aro]

im aro btw

BEAUTIFUL commission to help me come out from @wizisbored! everyone should commission him, hes so wonderful and has an insane turnaround

#awww!!! very cool art #congrats on coming out 💚

[jay-aro]

"why can't they just be friends" not in the homophobic way but in the "their platonic relationship in the source material is far more dynamic and complex than the sanitized personalities they gain as a result of shipping" way

[jay-aro]

happy aro week!! 💚 🤍 🩶 🖤

[Characters are from Koisenu Futari a really nice series about two people who are aroace that start living together]

#YIPPEE!!!!!

[jay-aro]

I NEED TO MAKE MORE ARO ART

#REAL

[jay-aro]

Seen a lot of people talk about someone being their gay awakening and I thought about the idea of an aromantic awakening and that's so funny to me because that would either have to be someone whose effect on you falls outside of every normative understanding of attraction or someone where you hated the idea of having romantic attraction to them so much that it made you realize you don't have romantic attraction at all

[jay-aro]

an aromantic person is someone who (fill in the blank here) // april 10 2024

#WOAG

[jay-aro]

i think a lot of people would be happier if they viewed labels like homosexual and transgender as social technologies rather than identities