"It's the obligation of a wife to meet her husband's sexual needs. If she can't meet it, we should be allowed to find it somewhere else"
EW.
While people can put different meanings to sex, it's mainly used as a tool for intimacy -- to connect with your partner(s). An activity that you BOTH enjoy TOGETHER.
If you're horny, you can just jerk off instead of forcing your partner to do something you're BOTH supposed to enjoy. Instead of CHEATING on them. Or go to therapy and figure things out TOGETHER.
If sex is your *only* way to connect with your partner, then learn other emotional skills you thick slab of brick.
Ultimately it's a compatibility issue. If that's not how you view sex, or if you can't humanize women and only see them as sex objects (another EW), then find a WILLING person instead of FORCING AN UNWILLING person to abide by your values.
Guess what they call it when people force unwilling or non consenting parties to have sex with them?
I wish we had an equivalent of the door in the good place. Where we could just go through and cease to exist after we feel like we've lived enough. After we said our goodbyes and our farewells peacefully.