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[mdaah]

What if we have another Nibling story?

Context: Another 2 of my niblings came to stay this past weekend (a different 2 from the last story) Also, I now have a job which means that most days, I am working from early afternoon till late evening.

My mum planned a few things to do over the weekend, mainly activities for the niblings as I wouldn’t be present most of the time.

On the Saturday, whilst I was working my mum took the niblings to the cinema, whilst my dad stayed at home with my brother. They would be gone from around 6 till I finished work so Dad was instructed to have a curry for tea (this will be important later) Everyone has a good time, Saturday done.

Sunday however, is where things go wrong. Mum planned for us to go to a park in the morning but she overslept. Dad didn’t wake her up, with the excuse “I didn’t know you wanted to go out, and if you did you should have got up yourself” , despite knowing the plan. The morning is wasted and time for me to work. Mum drops me off, has a coffee and stays for a while. During this time, my dad decides ‘hey niblings, let’s go to a playground that we can walk to!’ (That is an imagined sentence as I wasn’t there)

Context: this ‘playground’ is not the park that my mum planned to go to, is about 1/2 an hours walk from our house and doesn’t contain any play equipment whatsoever.

Context: these two of my niblings are quite picky eaters so any mes my mum prepares for them are specifically planned

My dad phones my mum and askes her to pick them up. By this point it is around tea time so my mum goes to prepare 2 burgers for the niblings, but only finds one…

Mum(m): I swear there were two burgers here

Dad(d): I had one for tea last night

M: but I told you to have the curry!

D: but I only finished putting [brother] to bed at 9:30 and couldn’t be bothered to make the curry

M: but you knew that I had them saved for the niblings!

D: you never told me that they were serving a special purpose!

M: I literally went shopping for bits for the niblings yesterday! Did you not think about that?

…So yeah, he ignored my mum’s instructions, and of course it wasn’t his fault!

After the niblings finished tea they went to meet with their parents so they could go home.

When my mum, dad and brother got home (around 9) my brother wanted to watch tv. Straight away my dad was like ‘ok let’s go’, but mum interrupted and said no since it was at least 2 hrs past my brothers bedtime and he had to get up early the day after.

Also, at some point during the day, my dad received a phone call from his daughter (my half sister and the mother of the niblings from the previous story) who is in holiday who said that she and her kids could come up to ours for the day next week. Without checking with my mum to see if we already had plans, he suggested doing something that would leave us with little time for me to prepare for work.

Context: my half sister used to be a hair stylist and a while ago I asked her to dye my hair, due to our current jobs, it’s been hard to find a time where we were both free. The scheduled day is one of the only times we are both free. My mum later asked my dad…

M: what about mdaah’s hair?

D: she can do it after

M: no, mdaah has to work!

…meaning that my hair shall remain un dyed for a while longer.

So what have we learned today? My dad is lazy, unable to take responsibility for his actions, out of touch with the local area, disregarding of pre-made plans, and is a bed-time breaker in order to watch tv, and is wilfully ignorant of my work shifts.

#bad fathers #bad parenting #i hate him #parenting

[mdaah]

Finally! A little win!

Context: 2 of my Niblings(the collective term for nieces and nephews) are coming for a sleepover today. One will be sleeping in my bed, another on my floor. I just changed my bedding so they have a nice clean bed.

Me: *takes used bedding upstairs to the washing machine

Dad: why have you brought your bedding up?

Me: why do you think?

Dad: *raises his voice*

Dad: I don’t know that’s why I asked!

Context: sometimes I will come home and ask him where mum is and he will respond with ‘where do you think’ then I respond with ‘I don’t know, that’s why I asked’

Me: funny, this is an exact replica of what happens when I ask where mum is

Dad: *fuming*

Dad: I’m going to ask you one more time before I smack you

Me: I’m being serious, why do you think?

Dad: *walks towards me in a ready-to-smack pose*

Me: *unfazed, aware that this is an intimidation tactic and he won’t actually*

Me: who’s coming round today

Dad: *doesnt respond (possibly realised why)*

Me: the niblings. I’m changing my bed for the niblings

Dad: *shouting (but to him it’s just raising his voice)*

Dad: GET OUT OF MY SIGHT, HOW DARE YOU BE SO RUDE TO ME!!!!!

Me: *walks away, smiling to myself about this little win*

[mdaah]

THIS!!!!!

thanks again for reminding me why you’re one of the few people in the world that i just can’t stand. so suffocating. even when i’m doing nothing wrong, all you want to do is bother me. make me feel like something’s wrong with me and i’ll always be beyond fixing. the fact that you think i even need fixing. i don’t want to think that my life would be better without you in it, but i bet it would be easier. my options: tune you out or hope you shut your mouth. you’re never gonna read this so i can say this out loud…fuck OFF. fuck you and your opinion of me. your words don’t define me, and i’m sick and tired of letting them get to me. I WISH I NEVER EXISTED IF I COULD ALTER MY EXISTENCE, I WISH I DIDNT HAVE ANY PART OF ME THAT'S REMOTELY SIMILAR TO YOU

i fucking hate you and i can't believe you say that you love me and yet you do this to me.

[mdaah]

Me : *Leaves room, enters hallway, sees Dad

Me : Hi

Dad : Did you do [thing that if I haven’t done I will get told off for]

Me : let me go and check

Me : *leaves hallway, re-enters room, does [thing]

Me : all done

Dad : *tells me off but formats it as joke, laughs whilst speaking

Me : *walks past him into my bedroom and sigh

Dad : *insults me

#bad fathers #i hate him #bad parenting #parenting

[mdaah]

Literally just happened:

Dad: is mum up and moving about?

Me: yes she is

Dad: is she really?

Me: yes she is, I wouldn’t say that she was up if she wasn’t would I?

#bad fathers #bad parenting #i hate him #parenting

[mdaah]

He put a photo frame on the wall incorrectly, I tried to fix it then suggested a solution when I couldn’t, then immediately got blamed for causing it to be wrong in the first place. (I was in a different room when he put it up)

#bad fathers #bad parenting #i hate him #parenting

[mdaah]

The sheer audacity of this man! Came into my room after I fell back asleep after my alarm, then complains about me and my mother to my (younger) brother, saying how we both just ‘hit snooze, snooze, snooze, snooze, snooze’.

I never use snooze.

#bad fathers #i hate him #bad parenting #parenting

[mdaah]

Got told off for ‘sweeping incorrectly’ then instead of telling me how to do it correctly, he continued to scold me

#bad fathers #bad parenting #parenting #i hate him

[mdaah]

Shouted at me for not drinking water (because I was asleep after being physically tired from forced social interaction)

#bad parenting #parenting #i hate him #bad fathers

[mdaah]

Sometimes he says to my dog that he’s ‘gonna smash her little face in’ to annoy + upset me and to make my brother laugh

Below is the dog in question

#parenting #cute dog #bad parenting #asshole #i hate him #bad fathers